profit
1 is conducive to the improvement of your knowledge.
2. It's beneficial to broaden your horizons.
3. It is beneficial to your understanding of life and society.
4. It is helpful to improve your knowledge. ~~`~~~
shortcomings
1 may affect your study.
2. It may affect your youth.
This may waste a lot of your time.
Second, the opposing side: middle school students should not make friends * Representatives of the opposing side: Jiao Xiao, Hui Hui, Chang Sheng.
Hachi: I have a cousin who used to study in a vocational secondary school. Perhaps it is because the management of vocational schools is relatively loose and students have great "freedom" in making friends, so in schools, students form gangs; Outside school, students often contact with some social idlers and are called friends. Influenced by this ethos, my cousin also made "extensive" friends and eventually dropped out of school. But also often follow those so-called social friends to eat, drink and have fun, and spend a lot of money, which makes parents very headache.
I cite this example to show that middle school students are irrational, and making friends widely is easy to "get close to Mexico", go astray, and even embark on the road of crime. There are many such cases now, and newspaper networks often report them.
In fact, we are not opposed to middle school students making friends. As several representatives in the front said, making friends has various advantages, but it is wrong to equate "making friends widely" with "making friends widely" in the back. There should be a range of making friends, to what extent-three religions and nine streams, bad friends and fair-weather friends? I'm afraid that's impossible. So middle school students should not make friends. Otherwise, the example I mentioned above is not a case, but a common situation, which is harmful to the healthy growth of teenagers.
Hui Hui: Yes, middle school students are in a period of youth and ignorance. If there are no restrictions and requirements for making friends, it is easy to make mistakes and suffer losses.
I often see news reports that middle school students are cheated by making friends online or in newspapers. Some children have made friends or pen pals, and they are addicted to online chatting and communication all day long. In serious cases, you play truant, cheat money, blackmail, and soak in internet cafes. It's easy to resist the temptation to make friends with some bad people in internet cafes. Other middle school students run away from home in order to meet their net friends and pen pals, and are eventually deceived and hurt by these so-called "confidants" and "friends".
Besides, it takes time, energy and sometimes money to make friends. The main task of middle school students is to learn cultural knowledge and enhance their physique. If they spend all their time making friends, how can they have time to read, study and exercise? Needless to say, middle school students do not have their own independent sources of income, and all the expenses of study and life come from their parents. In order to make more friends, they often need to spend money, which is basically useless and wastes the blood and sweat of their parents.
Hachi: That's true. If middle school students want to have extensive contacts, they must communicate with all kinds of people in society. Just now, it was also mentioned that middle school students should expand their friends to the social scope. Don't you know that this will also expand their damage range and bad influence?
Modern society is complicated, and interpersonal relationships are more complicated. A little carelessness will lead to interpersonal crisis, which the adult world can't cope with, not to mention middle school students who are immature psychologically and ideologically. Many lawless elements in society take advantage of the immaturity of middle school students and deliberately approach them, thus inducing them to commit crimes and making them go astray.
Changsheng: In Ming Dynasty, Su Jun once divided friends into four categories: "Morality and moral conflict, negligence and fear of friends; Priorities can be * * *, life and death can be entrusted, intimate friends are sweet, games have pursuits, and friends have intimate friends; Interests compete, sufferings depend on each other, and thieves are friends. "The essence of the Soviet sentence is that making friends should be principled, regardless of good or bad. There must be a limit to the scope if there is a principle, and you must trust each other with your heart if you can't fail to pour a thousand cups. If we just speculate, we will become sworn friends with Jin Lan.
Parents and teachers should teach middle school students to be cautious in making friends, and should make friends with good moral character on the basis of similar interests. The so-called "near Zhu Zhechi", I associate with virtuous and talented people, and I will become better myself.
Hui Hui: Changsheng mainly talks about the criteria for selecting outstanding talents. This standard is to limit the range of friends.