If you want to stay away from villains and change your destiny, you must learn to solve it yourself.
A few years ago, when I was playing with my friends, I passed a temple and went in to visit it. I happened to meet an old monk. After seeing us, the old monk asked my friend, "What troubles have the donors encountered recently? Something? "
The friend said, "Master, when friends got together the other day, I accidentally made a mistake and offended a friend who was present at that time.
After that, that friend used his work to slander me everywhere, pour dirty water on me and ruin my reputation.
I offered an apology, but he didn't accept it. Later, I learned from another friend that he saw me unhappy a long time ago. This is just an excuse.
This has a great influence on my work and life. Now, I really don't know what to do. "
After listening, the old monk said with a smile:
"People have one thousand faces and everything. The world under the tip of the iceberg is the real world surging undercurrent. Life needs the gaze of illusion.
Has it ever occurred to the donor that these constant troubles are actually related to your heart? If you continue to think like this, it will only aggravate the contradiction. "
After listening to this, my friend eagerly asked the old monk how to solve it.
Seeing his friend's sincere attitude, the old monk taught him two sentences and warned him: When there are villains around, please read these two sentences quietly before solving them.
All evil situations have a causal relationship,
Learn to be patient.
The old monk said, "Everything has a cause and effect. Life is not smooth sailing. When things don't go well, don't rush to get angry and argue with others, but reflect on yourself and learn to be patient. "
China has a saying since ancient times: It is better to solve the enemy than to settle down.
Patience is an important lesson in life. As long as people are alive, it is impossible not to meet them. Every fight is hysterical, which is too harmful.
In fact, most successful people know how to solve problems patiently.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Chen Lin, Yuan Shao's counselor, wrote three articles about Cao Cao's crimes. He not only called Cao Cao worthless, but also criticized Cao Cao's father and ancestors, which angered Cao Cao.
However, after defeating Yuan Shao, Cao Cao not only did not get rid of Chen Lin, but also took on an important task. As a result, Cao Cao won a reputation of being good at taking advice and respecting the wise, and attracted powerful generals and celebrities from all over the world to vote.
As the saying goes, "when the wind and waves subside, it is not unreasonable to take a step back."
Mature ears of wheat know how to bow their heads. In many cases, forbearance and bowing are to protect yourself, to avoid letting yourself suffer too much unnecessary losses, not to be impulsive when encountering things, and to solve these problems patiently to gain advantages and avoid disadvantages.
If you insist on the other party's mistakes and remain calm in negative emotions, not only can you not solve the problem, but your work and life will also be affected by bad conditions, which will make the situation chaotic.
Yelling is not the root of the problem. On the contrary, tolerance, patience, inner peace and virtue are the opposite.
There is a proverb in China: Everything is left aside so that we can meet in the future.
It means telling us that there must be room for doing things, and we can't do it absolutely, otherwise it will be embarrassing and difficult to do in the future.
Impulse is the devil. From the moment resentment and anger began, you lost.
Therefore, no matter what you do, you can't do it at once. Let go of your grievances, think more about the difficulties and difficulties of others, don't care about others, "let go" and let go of the past, so don't worry. , can solve the threat of villains.
Little people will also change you.
This is an inverse bodhisattva, which can provide you with diligent help.
The old monk said, "No villain has only evil thoughts in his heart. Maybe he is a villain who hurts you today, but he may be your noble person in the future and a bodhisattva who helps you move forward. "
As the saying goes: grace is impermanent.
Life is alive, ranging from decades to hundreds of years. The so-called "feng shui turns", the changes in the relationship between people are often subtle.
Granny Liu in A Dream of Red Mansions was once a "rural old woman" looked down upon by Jia Fu. Who knows that the Jia family fell, and it was Grandma Liu who saved Wang Xifeng's daughter.
Everything has two sides.
In the eyes of Buddhists, the so-called villain is actually here to help you. This is an inverse bodhisattva, which can provide you with diligent help.
A reader said: I met a terrible leader when I was a child. The other party went through all the bureaucracies and lied. He always gives me little shoes. I have to do everything he admits, but I owe all the honors to his name. .
My heart is very painful, but because of the pressure of life, I dare not face him. I can only take my dissatisfaction home after work and make my family miserable.
Later, I really couldn't stand it anymore and decided to go out alone, so I had my present company. Although it was really difficult a few years ago, in retrospect, I really appreciate this leader.
If it weren't for him, if it weren't for his desperation, I might still take a meager salary, look at the faces of big leaders and small leaders, and then live with fear.
As the saying goes, "the sharp edge of the sword comes from sharpness, and the fragrance of plums comes from bitter cold."
Every adversity is self-tempering and progress. You think those frustrating things may be the factors that force you to move forward.
We shouldn't hate little people,
Instead, be grateful.
There is a saying in Mencius Telling the World: Therefore, the sky will fall on the people of Sri Lanka. They first have to endure thoughts, exercise muscles, starve their skin, empty their bodies and sabotage their actions, so they are willing to endure. It's nothing.
One can tolerate as much slander and as much praise as possible. Getting rid of suffering will give you stronger spirit and ability to accomplish things you couldn't do before.
The existence of villains makes us more aware of our own shortcomings and deficiencies, and accumulates the strength of progress in constant injuries.
So, don't hold a grudge against the villain. On the contrary, we should be grateful.
As the old monk said to my friend:
Little people always cheat, frame up and betray their beliefs, which will ruin the good news.
They realize their lives at the cost of harming happiness. If you don't appreciate it, will you still blame each other?
Think like this, the whole person suddenly enlightened!