First, I don't want to be accompanied by my relatives when I die. The ancients believed that when an old man died, he would be particularly lonely without his children and grandchildren present. When the old man goes to the underworld, he is always in fear and restless. If the old man dies in front of all his relatives, it is the greatest blessing. According to legend, Bai people think that the old man died in the arms of his children and grandchildren, which is what they thanked for raising him, commonly known as "receiving gas".
Second, many places in the north emphasize that the deceased should be dressed neatly before his death, and the deceased should not be allowed to run naked. Therefore, in the old society, when the old people reached a certain age, their children and grandchildren often prepared shroud for them in leap month, so that the old people could look at it with confidence. The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces should be odd, such as five pieces, seven pieces and nine pieces, and avoid even numbers for fear of disaster coming again; In terms of material, satin is forbidden, because "satin" is homophonic with "broken", and silk is used more, because "silk" is homophonic with "thick", which means blessing future generations; Shrouds can't be made of fur yet, for fear of becoming beasts in the afterlife.
Third, there are taboos when mourning. According to historical records, white cloth and white paper should be hung on the gate of funeral parlour to let people know that someone in the family has passed away, and send a message to relatives in other places or overseas so that children can hear the news and attend the funeral. Among them, it is especially prudent to report the funeral to the relatives in marriage. After the parents died and the date of the funeral was fixed, the dutiful son was going to visit relatives. During the funeral, be careful that the dutiful son does not enter the house, kneel outside and salute first, and report the news of his parents' death and the time of the funeral to his relatives.
Finally, the ancients thought that the soul would not go far at once after death, and death would involve many matters, so the ancients paid special attention to the choice of funeral date to avoid a series of misfortunes. The choice of cemetery has been very particular since ancient times. Because the quality of the cemetery is directly related to the wealth of future generations. In the old society, there were ten folk songs about the taboo of choosing a tomb: 1. Don't bury rough and stubborn stones; 2. Don't bury the beachhead; 3. Don't bury the ditch source and despair; 4. Don't bury the left and right prisoners; 7. Don't bury the hills and hills; 8. Don't bury the feng shui worries; 9. Don't bury the dragon and tiger tips. Therefore, professionals should be invited to choose the date of the funeral and the cemetery with good feng shui.