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If a married daughter cannot return to her parents’ home to celebrate the New Year, it is probably because of some local customs and rumors. The older generation is more conservative in thinking and believes that breaking such rules will cause harm to the family. It has a huge influence. I would rather believe it than not, so married daughters are not allowed to come back to celebrate the New Year. But now many young people sneer at such a statement. They can go back to their parents' homes for the New Year if they want. They don't care so much at all. , of course nothing happened, the whole family reunited and had a happy New Year.
Let me take myself as an example. My father-in-law told me that there are four festivals that cannot be celebrated at my parents’ house (I don’t have a mother-in-law). The rest of the festivals can be celebrated at my parents’ house at any time. These four festivals are: Chinese New Year, Qingming Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival and July 14th. But my husband thinks this statement is ridiculous and doesn’t believe it at all. He told me not to do what his dad said. I can do whatever I want. Of course, I don’t agree with these statements in my own heart.
Because I have only been married to my husband for three years. Although I also want to celebrate the New Year at my parents’ house, I don’t want people from my husband’s family to gossip, so I have been going back to his house to celebrate the New Year in the past few years. I was not at home during the holidays my father-in-law mentioned. I only went back during the Chinese New Year. However, I always went back to my parents’ house first and stayed there until the 28th or 29th of the new year before returning to my husband’s house.
Last year my mother asked me if I would celebrate the New Year here. In fact, I know that my mother wanted me to celebrate the New Year at my parents’ home. After all, I haven’t celebrated the Chinese New Year at home since I got married three years ago. I couldn’t say, so I’d better wait. Come back on the second day of the Lunar New Year. After all, you will stay at your parents’ house for a long time if you go home. After the Chinese New Year, go back to your husband’s house. If you haven’t gone back by the 29th of the Lunar New Year, my family’s association will call me and ask us to go back early to make dumplings. Eat, I guess he is probably afraid that I will celebrate the New Year at my parents’ house.
When I got home, I saw that my husband’s cousin had returned to her parents’ home! She came back with her two children, but her husband did not come with her. She said that her husband was busy outside and would not go back to their hometown this year. She also wanted to celebrate the New Year at her parents' place, so she came back. She married in Hunan. As for whether there are married daughters there who cannot go back to their parents’ homes to celebrate the New Year, I don’t know. Her parents didn’t have any objections to her bringing her children to her parents’ home to celebrate the New Year. The key is that I didn’t see what my father-in-law said. So I don’t know if he thinks it’s someone else’s family matter and it’s hard to say anything, or if he thinks it’s fine as long as his daughter-in-law comes back to celebrate the New Year.
If you want to go back to your parents’ home for the New Year, it’s best to make it clear to both parents in advance, so as not to make your parents unhappy and increase internal conflicts in the family. After all, once you get married, it’s not just about one person, it’s about two people. family.