When chatting with others, avoid talking about these three things about yourself: talk less about your parents, don’t talk about your plans, and don’t talk about your negative emotions.
1. Talk less about your own family affairs: We often meet people who mention their family affairs like "pouring beans through a bamboo tube". They don't care about what they say to others. When they speak, Trying to be happy, but little do you know, it brings you a lot of trouble. Talking briefly and deeply will only make people look down on you; complaining blindly will make people feel incompetent.
2. Don’t talk about your plans: You must know that if you tell others your ideas, you will face the risk of being plagiarized, ridiculed, and attacked by others, and you may even lose motivation. Let your plans and ideas brew in your heart and do your own thing silently. When you calm down and do everything down-to-earth, your success will naturally prove your ability.
3. Don’t talk about your negative emotions: When you have a lot of negative emotions due to work and life, don’t complain everywhere. No one in this world has everything going his way. Maybe your troubles are not worth mentioning to others. In the adult world, your mouth is your feng shui. You must be careful with your words and deeds to maintain your happiness.
Tips for chatting with people:
1. Think through your mind before speaking.
When we communicate with others, we should try to think about whether it is appropriate to say something before speaking. Don't ignore it. The words spoken by a nervous person often make people feel uncomfortable. You should quickly go over it in your mind every time before speaking. Not only will it help you better express what you want to express, but it will also allow you to review whether your words are appropriate and whether they will hurt the self-esteem of others.
2. Remain silent appropriately.
When we encounter a problem that we don’t understand, we should not pretend to understand and talk endlessly, but we should learn to remain silent and let the other party talk more. Avoid embarrassing situations caused by saying the wrong thing. They say silence is golden. When you encounter something you don’t understand, don’t rush to express it but listen attentively, giving people a sense of humility and recognition.
3. Talk more about each other than yourself.
When communicating with others, everyone likes to talk about things that interest them, and likes others to talk about their own affairs. So we must first learn to understand each other, not ourselves. Only by chatting more with the other person can the other person feel your sincerity and feel that chatting with you is a very comfortable process, because everyone hopes to be understood by more people, and chatting more with the other person is precisely to understand the other person.