? Yesterday, after hearing the story of a teacher couple in her village from a distant friend, I felt that life had played a joke on them, but it was worthy of people's deep thinking and warning as parents, and I was also surprised at the quality that the couple should have as teachers.
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It is said that there is a couple of primary school teachers in their village who have been teachers all their lives and educated other people's children well. Their own children have not been taught well. They worked hard to raise four children. The eldest daughter was rude and unfilial, married to another province, and made a scene at her husband's house. Later, she has been living in her parents' city. Up to now, all the children have grown up with the help of her parents. Until now, her mother has left everyone to take care of their children. The second daughter is also very ordinary, and now she is married for the second time. After the child born with her first husband was born, she left her husband's family alone, so she took the child back to her parents' home until the child was 10, and the family raised the child to 10. Later, she was unconditionally picked up by her grandparents. They found a big grandson for nothing and raised a third daughter. It is still quiet and normal. This is filial piety, even if you can't help your parents, at least you won't bring so much trouble to your parents. The fourth son is speechless, timid, lazy and thin. He's 35 years old and still sucking blood. Everything in the family is also borne by his parents. After marriage, he has nothing to do and his living habits are in a mess. The daughter-in-law is very good, but because of her son's appearance, she has been wronged a lot.
There have been intellectual families since ancient times, and the children are not much different. Everyone is at least knowledgeable. However, this family broke people's usual understanding. Later, I learned how to get along with my parents. No wonder I can't teach a good child. As teachers, they don't have the image of teachers and people's respect and respect for teachers.
? I heard that the child's father is a male chauvinist who doesn't care about his wife, especially doesn't understand and care about his wife. Both husband and wife are very clear and care about each other. The father is very bad at dealing with people, and he often doesn't pay attention to offending people when he speaks. He speaks loudly, and it is not appropriate to speak well, so he often refuses to listen, offending people everywhere, and the details of his life are even worse. He can't sit still because he is noisy, anxious and fast when eating. Eating with him is noisy and hard. After a meal is cooked for an hour, he eats at the table for a minute or two. He can sit on a stool every day except for eating for a few minutes. I usually hold my mobile phone in bed and brush videos. He always asks in front of the door when eating, and his mouth is either fierce or growling, no matter to his wife, children or grandchildren, he has no sense of morality at all, and his relationship in the village is also very poor. He basically has no contact with his neighbors, even relatives. The relationship is not good to enemies, no friends, no relatives. Every day except going out to play cards, I just go home and lie in bed with the door closed. I look like a woman who stayed for a month. I am more like a woman than a man. I live a lazy life, with low morale and depressed mood. I heard that my father is not bad, honest and sincere to people, but he is too stubborn, too self-righteous and too self-centered.
After listening to this, I feel that a father is lonely when he is poor. You said he was old and didn't even have his own relatives or friends. Every day, except going out to play cards, I stay in bed with my mobile phone. His inner loneliness and helplessness are distressing. You said that children are disappointing and have no love, so it is warm and good to unite with their wives and snuggle up to each other, but the relationship with their wives is even colder.
? Speaking of their mothers, they are very independent, narrow-minded and very stingy. When they do something at home, they always yell at each other, especially with their husbands. When they talk, they always yell at each other. They never cook at home and can't grow any food. One day, they are not mobile phones, but chanting Buddha. They went to their parents' home for three days and five days, went to their daughter's home, and treated their daughter-in-law. They didn't feel bad or care. I pay special attention to my eventful and provocative eldest daughter, but I heard that they have the same personality preferences, so they hit it off, which is good, which is too bad. In her eyes, they are all very good, not like this, so they often make a fuss at home, and they are at sixes and sevens. They often have no warmth and happiness at home because of the noise of chicken skin and garlic.
? I heard that since my son brought his daughter-in-law, all the housework at home has been taken care of by her daughter-in-law. Whether she is pregnant or not, the night will not stop. Fortunately, the daughter-in-law brought by her son is diligent, kind, intelligent and reasonable, and tries to serve a large family and put up with their son who is too lazy to talk. In recent years, I heard that she has also suffered a lot of grievances and shed a lot of tears. Maybe many times she struggled to give up, and many times she struggled on the verge of collapse. Every time she has to endure to the edge of madness, she will go back to her family to catch her breath. It's not what her parents brought up. This family is really going crazy with these people.
Friends often get along with her. She once heard her say that she could not tolerate such a family. She felt helpless and thought of her children. In the face of such a family environment, she still chose tolerance and constantly improved herself. I heard that she is an enterprising woman with a particularly good hobby. She often runs, reads books and plays music, and her home and outside are clean. Neighbors say she is a good daughter-in-law, a simple and generous girl. Despite her in-laws' living habits, she has never quarreled with the elderly and is very tolerant and understanding. Although she can be herself again, it takes courage to live in that environment every day.
? It is said that there must be something hateful about the poor, what virtue they have, and so do the children they teach. The failure of children is the incompetence and fault of parents, and they don't pay attention to their own moral cultivation. How can they teach their children well? Such parents are sometimes pitiful and hateful, but old children can't be filial and worry-free. Hateful things have caused children to hurt other families, and the daughter who can't teach well has married off, hurting other people's sons and families.
When I heard what my friends said, I felt cold war. This may be the so-called raising without teaching. Parents like this, or teachers, have such a poor temperament that they really wronged their teacher status.
? Sometimes I feel deeply sorry for their children. It is unfortunate and embarrassing to have parents like them. The fact is that parents can't teach their children well, and parents who are harmful to their children cheat each other.
? Don't blame the child for disappointing, only blame yourself for being wrong. Children are copies of their parents, and the original is like that. Will the printed things change?
? Sometimes children are not excellent, and there must be no excellent parents. Just like this, my parents are teachers in the village, but they are ugly and behave so badly. How can their children be haunted in the village and say they are not sensible? I think this is more selfish. I haven't thought about my next generation. As others have said, my son has been spoiled since childhood, short and thin. He is not allowed to study hard and come out to find a good job. He gave up his studies at the age of 20, and now he is an adult. He has no job and is afraid of hardship. Do you think it is his fault or his parents' fault?
Good parents don't fish for their children, but teach them how to fish, how to be independent and think about their future, instead of letting them do whatever they want.
Poor parents are also poor children, so parents are feng shui at home. If parents don't do well and have a bad family style, it will be difficult to teach excellent children.