1. Who should speak first when brothers separate? Taboo: When brothers separate, maternal uncle speaks first, because this matter is usually presided over by the maternal uncle. This has been the case since ancient times. This is called mother-in-law. From uncle to nephew, they are all equally close to each other. In case of special circumstances, if the maternal uncle cannot serve as the host, another person from the back of the family (mother's natal family) must be chosen to take his place. The identity of this host shows that the folk customs of southern Fujian have the legacy of the maternal lineage concept of the past. A family separation requires a mediator, that is, a notary, who is usually the prestigious boss (elder) of the family involved in the family separation. At the same time, uncles, uncles, etc. are invited to be supervisors to prevent parents from being partial or brothers from taking advantage of power.
2. What to do on the day of division to be prosperous: On the day of division, the property needs to be distributed according to the amount of property. This is because the fields used to be owned by everyone. The main ones include fields, houses and Farm tools, furniture and other property were distributed equally among the sons. If any of the parents owes debts, they must be allocated to their sons to repay through negotiation. This is the so-called father's debt and the son's repayment, which is a matter of course. However, there are different lengths when the fingers are stretched out, and the distribution of property cannot be completely equal. For example, in the allocation of houses, the eldest son is usually allocated a large house with the best quality, and the other eldest sons are allocated in order. The younger sons are often allocated small houses such as Cuo Tou and Cuo Wei, so there is a saying that the younger brothers are divided into small houses.
3. Parents’ preference for family separation: Parents’ preference means that when a family is separated, parents’ preference is very important, just like the older generation said that the fingers are stretched out to determine the length. Generally speaking, brothers have a very good relationship before the separation, and they don't care about too many things. On the contrary, the sisters-in-law are red-faced and can't get along with each other over some things. Some of them create gaps and bury the secrets. Grudges between women and men have caused brothers to no longer get along with each other. Therefore, the saying that there are no good brothers in southern Fujian is actually caused by the sisters-in-law, which is at least an important factor.