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I know a man who is in his early 3 s and lives a very negative life.
including himself, but he said that he was not like this before he got married. Family conditions are not good, so I have suffered a lot from snacks. I dropped out of school at the age of 15 and began to work, vowing to get ahead in my life.
At that time, he was very serious and active in both life and work.
However, after he got married, he still focused his life on making money, leaving all the trivial matters of the family to his wife, not sharing and not doing his duty, leaving the best temper to outsiders and the worst temper to his wife, which led to the increasingly tense relationship between husband and wife.
He thought that as long as he could make a name for himself one day, he would change his present life.
But he didn't realize at all that the disharmony between husband and wife gradually made him lose his original ambition, not like before. Sometimes I feel very tired, I can't find the reason to work hard, and then I gradually start to give up my life and live a life with a natural attitude.
I really don't want to go to work, and I take time off from time to time. Even if I go to work, I will fish in troubled waters all day.
It's worth mentioning that although he and his wife quarreled frequently at first, and then they became numb, they formed a tacit understanding, each doing his own job, and then not caring about or interfering with each other. It may be that both of them gave up this relationship in their hearts, thinking that they would finish this life for their children.
As we all know, if the relationship between husband and wife is bad, they will quarrel when they meet, and together they will only torture and kill each other. This kind of life is very tiring and will fundamentally destroy one's love and enthusiasm for life. At this time, where there is energy to think about how to make money.
In fact, even if the husband and wife don't get into this trouble, as long as the family is not harmonious, men will lose their morale.
You think that poverty and desire to live a superior material life are your motivation to work hard. However, in the end, you will find that poverty is not the best motivation for a person to work hard, but family harmony is.
No one should be so sure. Even if the husband and wife are not harmonious, they still can't change their determination to make money. When they really live that life, your determination will definitely be shaken, which is almost out of their control.
When you really have a bad life and have no hope for the future, you will give up on yourself.
because at that time, you not only lost your faith in life, but also questioned your original values and worldview because your efforts could not be rewarded.
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A friend told me his heart. He said: Every day when I get home from work, there will be hot meals waiting for me. At that moment, I feel that I am the happiest man in the world. Then a family of three sat at the dining table, talking and laughing, chatting, and the happy family atmosphere made me forget all the fatigue.
and at that time, I will feel that no matter how hard and wronged I am, it will be worth it.
why do you think I have to work so hard? It's not that I want to live a good life for myself, but that the warmth of my family at present makes me feel guilty that I can't let them live a good life.
I have people who love me so much and people who love me so much. How can I bear to let them live a hard life?
Therefore, my fighting spirit is very high every day. The more I feel happy, the stronger I feel. I must stand in front to shelter them from the wind and rain. This is my motivation. ?
I was very touched after listening to it.
Yes, that's why family harmony is a man's best motivation. The warmth brought by family harmony is a spiritual source.
However, if you want family harmony, you need a man to pay first, not just by his wife's love for you. If only his wife pays unilaterally, it is tantamount to consuming the emotional foundation of two people all the time, and it will be exhausted before long. Only two people * * * work together, and * * * run together.
So if a man wants good fortune, he should start by being kind to his wife.
There's an order. I hope you don't get confused. Earning money desperately is to make a good life. What's the point of having more money if the immediate life is not good? Don't think that when you have money, you can change the status quo. When the contradictions accumulate to a certain extent, it is futile to have more money.
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There won't be a man who doesn't know how to be kind to his wife? Money way? !
why do you say that? If you don't know how to treat your wife well, it will inevitably destroy the harmony between husband and wife. Home is the foundation of a person. What do you think will happen if a person's rear area is on fire?
to be honest, it will affect your work and career more or less, so that you can't devote yourself wholeheartedly.
There is also a very real problem. When the family is not harmonious, it is equivalent to a deep worry and burden, which will directly affect your mood, thinking and reason.
As mentioned in the opening article, even if there is no quarrel between husband and wife, such a family has no temperature and soul, which is equivalent to gradually consuming your fighting spirit and passion. I can't find the reason to work hard, and I can't find the belief to persist.
Do you know what is important in marriage?
I'll tell you, it's important that husband and wife can keep together. Only two people can both work in the same direction, and when they move forward, life is likely to get better and better.
Without Qi Xin and undivided attention, or strange bedfellows, the fate of the family is already doomed, as are their own achievements and future.
As the saying goes, behind every successful man, there is a great woman.
If you don't have a woman behind you to give you strength, cheer you up, encourage you and share with you, even if you are capable again, your ability will be greatly reduced.
it's very important for your wife to support you, so that you won't have worries.
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Actually, it's better to nurture your wife than to be kind to her.
Many people still don't understand that a man's real noble person in this life is his wife, and his wife is the soul of a family and the first-class Feng Shui in a family.
don't misunderstand? Fuyang? Two words.
Rich support doesn't mean giving your wife a luxurious life, so that she can eat well and wear well. Real rich support is spiritual, respecting her thoughts, supporting her pursuit, and giving her enough love, care and gentleness.
Husband and wife have the same interests, so they really can't care about personal gains and losses.
Family interests should be put first, so that a happy marriage can be managed. Once personal interests and personal feelings are put first, it is bound to be the beginning of contradiction.
while you are young, I hope everyone can be kind to their lovers, helping each other and themselves.