Liao Yimei said that it is not uncommon to meet sex and love in my life, but it is rare to meet and understand.
Women are willing to get married and then have children with their lover, hoping to get a stable life and a happy life.
But after I got married, I found out that what kind of man I married really decided what kind of life I lived.
Meeting a man who loves his wife dearly can make women feel safe and happy, and feel that they have married the right person. After all, people who love you will love you dearly.
A man who knows how to take care of his wife is actually the smartest man. What a woman really wants is someone who cares for herself and can make her soft-hearted. When a woman knows the taste of love, she will pay more and she will be compassionate.
After ten years of marriage, Jiang Yan never regretted marrying the man in front of her. He spoiled her as a woman who had never touched a spring. Even my mother-in-law and daughter have tasted it and envy her good luck.
She said that in marriage, only a man who really loves his wife does something, and one of them marries the right person:
First of all, you should know how to respect your wife and do things in a measured way.
A man can't talk about love if he doesn't know how to respect his wife.
Jiang Yan felt her husband's respect for her from the time she was in love, and she would ask her for advice before doing anything. After marriage, he will discuss everything at home with her, tell her in advance, and then listen to her advice.
This respect made her feel like a member of the family, not an outsider, needed and recognized, and her heart was as sweet as honey. It hasn't changed for so many years, and she believes that they will always be happy.
Recently, a man spent thousands of dollars on the Internet to secretly buy new year's goods for his parents. The wife was furious and yelled at her husband, saying he shouldn't spend so much money. The man kept explaining, but the woman was still not satisfied and had to ask him to return the things he bought.
Afterwards, the woman said that her husband had no income for three months, and she was not unreasonable. She just blamed the man for spending so much money without consulting himself.
A man's fault is that he doesn't know how to respect his wife. This will happen without consulting his wife in advance. If he had discussed with his wife in advance how much it would cost to buy new year's goods for his parents, his wife would not be so angry that she would have to return them.
A man who truly respects his wife will consider women's feelings before doing anything, knowing that the family belongs to two people, and will seek the other's advice before making any decision, instead of arbitrarily treating his wife as an outsider.
On the other hand, many men in reality don't know how to respect their wives. Many people regard their wives as nannies, fertility tools and outsiders. They do things without considering women's feelings and say nothing to women. That woman will feel like an outsider, and it's hard to be guarded all the time. When they can't stand it, they will choose to leave or treat men in the same way. Life is becoming more and more meaningless.
Knowing how to respect is the true love for a person from the heart. With respect, you will put each other on an equal footing with yourself.
A man who truly loves his wife will respect her, love her, consider her feelings and recognize her.
Secondly, reluctant to let his wife suffer, will take the initiative to share responsibilities and obligations.
After marriage, Jiang Yan was very distressed by her husband from pregnancy to giving birth to her daughter, and couldn't bear it. When morning sickness is serious, her husband cooks her favorite dishes in various ways every day. Later, her feet were swollen, and he helped her massage when he was free. Everything he can do is taken care of so that she doesn't have to work so hard. After giving birth to his daughter, he personally took care of her, saying that her mother was not careful and was afraid of taking care of her badly, which made the women in the same ward envious and said that she had married a good man.
And some men around me are married and never assume the responsibility of being a husband. They think that women should not have the right to speak, because they earn money to support their families, and everything is in his charge. Only a few months after his wife gave birth to a child, he tried to get her pregnant and have a second child. Some people can't stand it anymore and ask him if he is willing to help with the children. He boasted that I was only responsible for getting her pregnant, and I was responsible for everything else, so how else could I marry her?
Selfish men never consider whether their wives are tired or bitter after paying. On the contrary, it has brought a lot of wind and rain to his wife, so that a woman's thin shoulders carry a home. Such a man, like an uncle in the family, is served by a woman. If he moves slower, he will scold him. He doesn't treat women as wives at all.
A man who really loves his wife is reluctant to part with his wife's suffering because of his love. He has seen his wife's pain in giving birth to a child and stopped urging her to give birth to a boy. He doesn't regard his wife as a fertility tool.
After marriage, a man who knows how to love his wife will take the initiative to assume his responsibilities and obligations. * * * will run this family together, recognize his wife's contribution, know that it is not easy to love his wife, and make women feel happy is his greatest responsibility and obligation.
Finally, know how to tolerate and understand your wife.
When two people are together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions. Only a man who knows how to love his wife will tolerate and understand his wife.
After Jiang Yan got married, because her child was a full-time wife, her mother-in-law was very dissatisfied when she saw her spending money lavishly. She thought that her son was exhausted, and her daughter-in-law didn't know how much she sympathized with him. She also spoke ill of Jiang Yan in front of her son.
But Jiang Yan's husband didn't blame her, but told her mother-in-law that he bought it and told her not to interfere too much with their small family.
After returning to work, Jiang Yan was criticized by the leader for coming home in a bad mood. Her husband coaxed her first, waiting for her to take the initiative to tell the reason, instead of saying that she was melodramatic. She said she was tired, so he let her rest and he did housework. She said she wanted to go out to play, so he arranged a trip to satisfy her.
Only when he really cares about his wife can he understand and tolerate women.
In a quarrel, it is tolerated for a woman to lose her temper occasionally. In life, I will understand women's nagging. In getting along, I will tolerate a woman's shortcomings and accept her integrity.
A man who knows how to take care of his wife, when a woman is in pain, takes the initiative to assume his own responsibility and silently guards the other's home. In the details of life, I know how to respect my wife, consider a woman's feelings, recognize her contribution, and understand and tolerate her from her perspective.
A happy marriage, a man who knows how to care for his wife is the best feng shui in the family. If he knows how to nourish a woman, she will return more love and make more efforts to create a common future for two people.