There is a saying that you must have heard many times, that is: the IQ of a woman in love is zero. Fortunately, she has a wise mother.
You will understand after reading the following story.
There is a girl from Beijing. She looks average to above average, with a monthly salary of 8,000. Her father is in business and her mother is a university professor. Their family has two houses in Beijing. One is for parents to live in, and the other is worth nearly 10 million. It was left to my daughter, but I didn’t write the girl’s name.
The family bought a Mercedes-Benz for the girl so that it would be convenient for her to get off work. Their family of three was the envy of all their neighbors. When the girl was 28 years old, she met a man in her company. He was 35 years old, of average height and good looks, with a salary of 10,000, and graduated from college with no car or house.
The two of them seem to have ordinary family backgrounds. The conditions are not ideal, but boys are very kind to girls. They give them porridge to nourish their stomachs in the morning and hand-made love meals at noon. As long as a girl says she wants to drink milk tea, even if there are many people in line, the man will buy it immediately during lunch break. And persisted for two months.
So the girl was successfully moved by him, and they got together. Then the man began to be more gentle and considerate to the girl. He would carry vegetables to his house every now and then to cook for him. After eating, he would clean up her house inside and out, even washing her underwear. From time to time, we also prepare some small surprises and romance. Days like this look really sweet.
The girl said that she was tired from driving to work, so the man started to drive the girl’s car to and from get off work every day. They have been together for three months. The man’s family hopes that they can get married as soon as possible. They all rushed to Beijing, and the man proposed to her in front of his parents. The girl saw the sincere faces of his family, so she agreed and went home to talk to her parents.
After their parents found out, they said they could meet, so they made an appointment at a good restaurant. Their family of six girls and three of them had dinner together. After the conversation, the mother privately said to the girl, I don’t object to your falling in love, but Marriage is not possible and you are not a good match.
So his mother made a table listing the reasons: her 40-year-old sister had just graduated from junior high school and was unemployed, her 38-year-old brother-in-law was still working as an apprentice in a factory, and her 10-year-old brother was still in elementary school. . . . . .
The girl feels that her parents look down on her, but the boy on the other side treats her better, saying that her parents can’t delay him even if they don’t agree. Don’t be late for the time being. I don’t want to see her unhappy, but every day Breakfast, lunch and dinner are still served on the desk. At the same time, he is always on call when encountering any difficulties in life.
As a result, the girl was determined to marry him, so her parents decided to temporarily cut off the relationship with her. After the two confirmed their relationship, the woman became pregnant in the 6th month. The first thing she did was tell her parents.
When the mother heard the news, she said she would talk to you tomorrow. Then she hung up the phone and rushed to the girl’s residence the next day and asked him: How will you two live together after you get married? Can his salary afford your life? Can he still support his family? After hearing this, the girl said impatiently: Aren't there still you guys? !
After saying this, his parents fell silent. Five days later, his mother called him to inform him of the car. You can drive home on Saturday and move out in half a month. The house you live in now has been listed for rent online. From today on, there will be no more pocket money. We don’t want to start from now on. I control you financially because I just want you to live a good life together on your own.
The girl cried, made trouble, and hanged herself, but her parents remained indifferent. The house was rented out and the car was taken back to him. A week later, he moved into his boyfriend's shared house, a 20-square-meter apartment. A small room, a shared car for the kitchen and bathroom, and a monthly salary of 8,000. I have already spent 6,000, and there are still 15 days until the salary is paid.
Moreover, the girl still had symptoms of early pregnancy. The man was still indifferent at first, but gradually changed after two months. His attitude was not as attentive as before, and he was no longer as obedient as before. He asked the girl to go home. Please advise her parents. After all, she is a pregnant woman and her living conditions are not good and it is not good for her health.
The girl went home to beg her parents, but her father did not come out. Her mother still refused and said that she could go home after breaking up. The girl and the boy once again acted out their deep love. After watching it, the mother entrusted her daughter to him with sincerity and sincerity. Male. It was considered as acquiescing to their affairs and telling them by the way.
The old couple are not too old now: they are planning to have another child. I went to the hospital for a physical examination and the conditions were acceptable. The girl and her boyfriend were stunned and collapsed.
After returning to the rental house, the girl cried for two days, and a quarrel broke out between the man and him. In the middle of the third month, she basically ignored his requests and began to speak sarcastically and harshly. After the two quarreled, The man was drunk and slapped dozens of times, and two of his teeth were knocked out.
The police came and took the girl away. The man knelt in front of her and begged for forgiveness. The girl firmly disagreed because domestic violence was the bottom line. The next day, the girl was on her way to see her parents when she received a call from the man’s mother. , in those 5 minutes he heard swear words that he had never heard in his life, saying that he was only slapped a few times, and then he was sent to the police station and left a dishonorable record. He is no longer a wealthy young lady. . What are you talking about with a big belly?
Oh, he fell asleep after crying. His mother was so distressed when she saw her daughter crying that she took her to the hospital for an abortion the next day.
After a month's rest, she began to adjust herself and prepare to start again.
In fact, sometimes, a man's kindness to you is a huge trap. It does not constitute a man's advantage, and it is too replaceable. You can spend thousands of dollars to hire a nanny. To even do better, and the excellent qualities of tenacity, bravery, confidence, optimism, independence and courage are irreplaceable, which are the so-called interesting souls.
Of course, this does not mean that if a man treats you well, it must be a trap or premeditated, but it does tell us. Don't use a person's kindness to you as the only criterion to judge whether he is worth marrying, but look at it from multiple angles, such as his personal qualities, social abilities, family background, family values, etc.
Because a man who is good to you, especially in the early stage, is doing it to pursue you and get you. Therefore, in this process, you will find that basically many men, in the pursuit stage, In the early stages of love and before marriage, they will treat you very well. Some men may even be almost crazy in the pursuit stage. However, after marriage, you will find some points that make you particularly uncomfortable. It really takes time to truly judge whether this person is worth marrying. It’s about experiencing things with two people and considering them.
Whether a man is worth marrying depends on his lowest point. When the man in the article is under great pressure, he will beat women, do domestic violence, and speak harshly. This is different from their previous relationship. It forms a huge contrast, so don’t be too immersed in that kind of good when you are in love.
When everything comes back to daily necessities, or when there is adversity, that is the time that tests people the most.
A good marriage is like a warm harbor that can protect you from wind and rain, provide you with energy, let you have a good rest, heal you, and warm you. This requires two people to be able to survive even the most difficult times. When we are together, we can also have each other in our hearts and encourage each other. After going through adversity, when the test is over, the relationship becomes stronger.
In the article, a man who can only share joys but cannot endure hardships is not worthy of entrustment.
He can please you in every possible way for a better life, or he can punch and kick you because your life is not going well and you have lost your value. This is not real love.
Life is not always smooth sailing. There are always some small or big twists and turns. This is a problem that everyone in every family will face. And true love can go through thick and thin.
After reading this article, I hope everyone will keep their eyes open when looking for the other half~
At the same time, when looking for the other half, standards are also very important , you need to understand what you want and what kind of person suits you.
Learn to arrange your criteria for finding a man in an orderly manner and refine the criteria at the same time.
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