I don't know when, more and more people don't like visiting relatives. Even on holidays, they would rather stay at home than be too polite to their relatives.
After all, relatives who haven't seen each other for half a year are easy to get rusty. Coupled with the gap in intergenerational concepts, there is often an embarrassing situation in which chickens talk to ducks.
In case you meet another "touted" relative, it is basically equivalent to going to the last battlefield and being defeated by the fierce questioning of the other party in minutes.
There is a hot word in the book called "superficial relatives", which accurately captures the tonality of such relatives: superficial kung fu is well done, but it doesn't help at all, and it can't be avoided in times of crisis.
Although there are still some blood relations between relatives, it is the best policy to stay away from relatives who really cause "extreme discomfort".
0 1 Too poor to love relatives of rich people
Some relatives are very. When you are down and out, people don't even look at you on holidays, lest you get a little light from them.
But if you succeed in your career, or if they want something from you, look again. It looks wrinkled with laughter, holding your hand enthusiastically, climbing relatives and occupying the old place is better than anyone else.
So, a friend commented bitterly: "Hey, this is the relative now. Money is near. Money is near. If you have no money, then there is only a weak blood relationship! "
Neighbor Li Shu was deeply touched by this.
Li Shu was an office unit before he retired, and relatives who didn't usually contact him tried their best to squeeze into Li Shu's house.
I didn't see my relatives in my hometown send some vegetables and eggs by the way. Li Shu was also very happy, intoxicated by the admiration and flattery of his relatives, and secretly helped many relatives.
Help me change my job today and get some treatment tomorrow ... My relatives who benefited from it are more and more eager to curry favor with Li Shu, who is very diligent after his predecessor.
The good times didn't last long. Last year, Li Shusheng had a serious illness and was paraplegic, so the unit gave him a medical retirement.
One night ago, those relatives who were usually behind the saddle disappeared without a trace.
When he was in office, the door was like a city; After abdication, the door is empty and the human feelings are warm and cold.
Chapter 129 of Sima Qian's Biography of Historical Records of Huo Zhi wrote, "The world is bustling, all for profit; The world is bustling, all for profit. "
Those relatives who are eager for power and flatter will eventually turn their backs on the protagonist's scenery and turn their faces faster than turning pages.
On the contrary, relatives who are not so sweet and close at ordinary times can really miss them and help them in time when they are in trouble.
As the old saying goes, when the interests come, they will leave, and when they leave, they will disperse. It is more suitable for snobbish relatives.
02 relatives who like to show off
Lu Yao said in "Ordinary World": "When we were young, we often regarded our loved ones as beautiful and important. Once we grow up and start living independently, we soon know that blood relationship is often the most vulgar. "
Indeed, when I was a child, I always simply thought that relatives were relatives. We treat each other sincerely, and they will return sincerely.
When I grow up, I find that many relatives secretly compete with each other every day, compare with each other and love to gossip.
There is a distant aunt who works as a financial officer in a state-owned enterprise, but there is nothing wrong with her. She just likes to compare with the people around her.
My aunt's daughter didn't do well in school. Later, Ben earned some principal by working, and came back to open a clothing store. In those years, the physical store was ok and made a lot of money.
Whenever relatives meet, menstruation always poses as a "winner". "What's the use of reading? Look at our daughter, one hundred and twenty thousand a year, not much better than those college students? "
After the e-commerce fire, my aunt's daughter's shop business is getting worse every year. Later, when the rent went up, she simply sold the shop and went abroad to work for some time.
When I came back last year, my aunt's daughter brought back a well-off son-in-law, which made my aunt happy.
On the wine table, relatives are happy for their aunt, and their daughter has worked hard all her life and finally got a good home. However, menstruation turned his attention to my niece Xiaomi.
"I have already said that it is better to do well than to marry well. Look at your sister. Don't worry for the rest of your life. Look at you again. Ten years is not enough to buy a toilet! "
Xiaomi was so angry that he retired for a while. After that, I rarely saw the interaction between the two in the WeChat circle. Probably hacked.
To tell the truth, it is human nature to have a vision for life and want to get ahead.
However, ignoring the dignity and decency of others for their own temporary pleasure is a taboo for relatives to get along with.
Besides, thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi, how can people always be winners?
03 relatives who love to take advantage.
My uncle's family especially likes Zhan Yi in Everything is Fine.
This uncle is idle, not a serious man. If he wants to change his job, he will ask Sue for money to run the relationship. Good food, good drink and good clothes all depend on Su's relief, which just makes Su, who is not rich, become a family with money first.
This time, my son went to school in various countries, and my uncle even opened the door to sue100,000 yuan.
Su Daqiang's family was helpless. When my uncle saw the soft persimmon, he simply stayed in the Su family with his wife and children, crying and crying, which made the family restless.
"Elder sister said before her death that tuition fees in all countries are borne by her."
My sister is gone now, and I can't keep my promise. I am your uncle, and you nephews will be responsible for me for the rest of my life.
Who let me be your uncle? We are all related, so you have to take care of me and me.
This wonderful logic of "I am weak and I am reasonable" also makes people unable to bear to look directly at it.
In real life, the argument that "relatives are all relatives, and cheap does not occupy white does not occupy" refreshes you and me in minutes.
My friend is a doctor quietly. In the early years, relatives always asked her for help when they saw a doctor.
Slowly and quietly, I realized that something was wrong.
Some relatives eat clean, but don't give money after seeing the disease, swaggering like nothing happened.
No way, I can't save face quietly, so I have to pay for it myself.
On one occasion, she received a distant aunt, saying that several girlfriends who danced in the square dance wanted a physical examination and asked her to arrange it.
She civilly led several aunts to the physical examination office and issued a physical examination form, and several people's faces changed instantly.
The aunt in the table is angry. "You accept my kiddo's medical fee, which is outrageous. Where do I put my face? "
"Aunt, I didn't open this hospital. It is natural to spend money on medical treatment. You are relatives, then I will pad it ... "
Before she could finish quietly, the old aunt interrupted her "It's not that you are long. Whoever wants to see a doctor here is a relative. I won't give you this thin face! "
You are thin-skinned and others are thick-skinned. You want mutual affection, others want benefits.
Watching, moral integrity broke all over the floor.
In and out of the play, I feel helpless and angry when I meet such relatives.
Although everything goes well at home, relatives are destined to endure sometimes, but for relatives who have no bottom line, they should break up and leave without coming.
You don't have to fill a bottomless pit, and you are laughed at as a big head.
Relatives with no sense of boundaries
Compared with the first three kinds, this kind of relative is not bad in thought, but may actually be good.
However, I often do bad things with good intentions.
My wife is recognized as a warm-hearted relative. She retired at home and found herself a good deal-she volunteered to match people and find someone. A few years later, she really became a couple.
I don't know if it's because of professional habits. At the party, I learned that my menstruating daughter Xiaonan was still wandering in the north alone. My wife will definitely introduce a gentleman to Xiao Nan now.
Peony reluctantly agreed because of the face of his relatives.
In fact, Xiao Nan's talent and looks are above average, and there are also many suitors around her. She just wants to work hard for a few years and then slowly settle down.
My wife doesn't care that much. "I am still single at this age. What should I do when I am old? " Help Xiao Nan arrange a blind date.
On one occasion, Xiao Nan crustily skin of head went, a programmer, similar in age, but dull in character, Xiao Nan didn't like it, and tactfully expressed his waiting for his wife.
However, my wife's footsteps are not idle. A few weeks later, I arranged it for Xiao Nan again.
Xiaonan was dissatisfied, but for the sake of his parents' face, he could only be forced to eat.
I almost blew up this time. It turned out to be a bald divorced businessman.
Xiaonan finally declined his wife directly. "I thank you for your kindness. Don't help me arrange it in the future. "
My wife is also particularly wronged. She has been busy for a long time and left nothing good. In private, many people complain that "the eldest daughter is really difficult to serve now. Find a good condition and struggle less for half your life."
Or my wife doesn't understand that her kindness is just a breakthrough and interruption of the boundaries of others' lives, even relatives have a distance from each other.
Around us, there are many people, like my wife, who love everywhere under the banner of "for your own good" and "you are still young and ignorant", but don't know that people are unhappy.
In the final analysis, people can be responsible for other people's lives. We just need to express our warm goodwill and leave all decisions to others.
That's enough, we, others are comfortable.
If there are too many interruptions and interruptions, and there is a lack of proper limits, even the best feelings are not worth the loss.
Although we can't choose our origins, parents' families and all kinds of infinitely extended relatives at the beginning, we can still choose to follow our inner value judgment, rationally evaluate and deal with the existing interpersonal relationships, and pull ourselves out of the painful relatives at an appropriate time.
As the lyrics say, only by saying goodbye to the wrong can we meet the right one, with less disobedience and more quick and accurate termination. After all, there should be enough space in life to carry people who deserve to be treated sincerely.
After half a life, those hurt and angered relatives can let go.
I'll give you the choice this time.
The above is about how ugly rabbits are when they are old, and about the sharing of rabbits. I hope this will help everyone when I grow up after watching the white rabbit with drooping ears!