The rise and fall of a family, the rise and fall of a family, are all related to many factors, but they are always inseparable from these three people, one is the old man, the other is the wife, and the last is the child. Only when these three things are good can a family be good, so the rise and fall of a family is very important.
The rise and fall of a family needs a solid foundation for the continuation of family blood from generation to generation, especially after looking at the enduring famous families in history, we can sum up some experience and wisdom. Lao She's Four Generations under One roof is one of the most vivid textbooks. A book is the epitome of an era and the best witness of the rise and fall of a family.
Time is an important reason that Qi's father's family can't be ignored from the initial well-off to the final decline. It can also be seen that grandfather, wife and children are important factors that determine the rise and fall of the family. Whether they are optimistic, open-minded, open-minded and polite, and whether they can follow good family style and family precepts plays a vital role in the direction of family fortune.
There is a reason why people are not rich enough for three generations. Many families have experienced three generations of prosperity and cannot escape the curse of three generations of decline. At the same time, those families that have flourished for a hundred years have also broken this spell with their management wisdom. The reason is that there are enlightened old people, hard-working housewives and well-behaved children at home.
The first person: grandfather
An ancient family is like a treasure.
Where do you see the rise and fall of a family? The old man is the root, and the weather of the old man is the weather of the family, so we can know the rise and fall of the family by watching the weather of the old man. Zeng Guofan said: "The weather is beautiful, although I am hungry. The weather is falling, although I am full and worried. " Children are promising, and children have a future. Even without food, the elderly are confident, healthy, energetic and happy.
On the contrary, although I have a house and a high salary, I am worried, sensitive, suspicious, angry, resentful and complaining about others every day. I don't like anyone and criticize anyone. This is a bad sign.
The spirit of the elderly is very important. As long as you see which old man is happy sooner or later, this family will be harmonious and happy. Whose old people are often angry, their families are very sad, and the family atmosphere is depressed, which is doomed to be difficult. In the long run, the family fortune will inevitably decline.
The second person: the wife
There is an old saying: "A good wife at home is not as good as fertile land."
This reminds me that in the northeast, there was an old man named Wang Fengyi, who came from the late Qing Dynasty and the early Republic of China. Mr Wang Fengyi can't read, but he is very clever. He said, where is the source of world chaos? There is something wrong with this woman. If women are better, the children born will be good children, and the world will be peaceful. So he set up a compulsory school for women in the northeast to teach women. How many schools have you run? Run more than 700.
It is often said that good women thrive. The family will be happy if the daughter is obedient and filial to her parents.
When you are a wife, if you are gentle and virtuous, you can safely give your family to them, and such a family is happy.
Once they have children, they will shoulder the heavy responsibility of raising a new life. It is said that what kind of mother has what kind of children.
Children are a blank sheet of paper, depicted by people and things around them, and their mothers have the greatest influence on them. Therefore, it is very important to see whether a family is prosperous and whether the hostess's character cultivation is gentle and elegant.
Third person: children
Zeng Guofan once said that there are three places to see the rise and fall of a family:
Let's see when the children and grandchildren go to bed first. If they don't get up until the sun has risen very high, it means that the family will slowly slack off. Second, see if children and grandchildren do housework, because hard-working habits affect a person's life; Third, see if children and grandchildren are reading the classics of sages: jade is rough and polished. Unless you learn, you will become an animal.
In the history of China, the Zeng family has a long history and is a model of family development. These three points were summed up by Zeng Guofan in the heyday of his family, which is quite enlightening to readers.
The truth is that children's hard work shows that this family is hardworking, even if it is not rich, it is a well-off family. Children's laziness shows that their parents are lax, doting, and four bodies are not diligent, and their future can be imagined.
Children are the hope of a family, which directly determines whether the family is heading for prosperity or recession. If the family business accumulated by the ancestors is squandered by the children's generation, the family's fortune will decline. On the contrary, children can follow the fine traditions of their ancestors, set an example and work hard, and the prosperity of this family is just around the corner.
The fortune of a family is inseparable from the weather of the elderly, the gas field of women and the upbringing of children.
People often say that "a hundred years of life begins with children", which is a summary of thousands of years of experience of ordinary people, and it fully affirms the importance of the important role of the family.
A prosperous family is happy because of the open-mindedness of the elderly, the gentleness of women and the sensible children. Otherwise, even if there is wealth, it will be destroyed by the anger of the elderly, the anger of women and the temper of children.
These are actually feng shui of a family. Good feng shui actually means that everyone has a good attitude and a good mood. When people are kind, family members will naturally form an atmosphere of unity, mutual assistance, understanding, tolerance, diligence and kindness. In this way, a good family style and family precepts can be passed down in happiness, and the family can continue to prosper and develop.
The rise and fall of a family 2 1, know the spirit of hard struggle.
Hard work is a fine tradition and style of the Chinese nation, and every member of the family also needs this spirit of hard work. Suppose there is a pillar in the family, and the source of income depends entirely on him, while other family members are desperately spending money. Just like where he moves bricks, you want to smash them. It is difficult for him to build a wall at home.
I've heard such a thing before. Dad is the pillar of the family, and the income of all families depends on him. Dad also works hard and desperately. The mother takes care of the children at home. At first, both of them were in harmony. It was not until the child grew up that he became a profligate child because his parents did not guide him correctly. Brand-name clothes are the most expensive and food is the most expensive. Both parents loved the only child very much, so they didn't stop him from spending money indiscriminately. The child's extravagant behavior attracts many friends who want to enjoy it, because as long as he eats with them and goes to bars, it is the child's money. Parents' neglect and doting made children spend more and more money, but only dad was making money at home, and then the family economy became more and more depressed.
Children blindly enjoy the superior living conditions brought by their parents, but they don't learn the spirit of hard struggle, which eventually leads to family financial difficulties. He brought down the family's economy by himself. The spirit of hard struggle needs to be cultivated. Parents should not blindly pay, but also let their children learn to live independently, let him know the hardships of life and let him learn to work hard, so that the family can prosper day by day. The spirit of hard work needs to be shared by every family member in order to make the family develop better.
2. Home and everything.
Attaching importance to harmony is a common saying in life, and it also applies to families. "Home and everything are prosperous" also applies to families. Imagine if everyone in the family is always in conflict, then studying or working every day will affect your mood, thus affecting your academic performance and work performance. If they don't have good academic performance, they won't be admitted to a good university, and if they don't have good work performance, it's hard to get promoted. This will seriously affect the family's economic income, family development will also be affected. If family members live in harmony and are happy every day, then they will concentrate on their studies and achieve something, which is conducive to the development of each family member and the family will get better and better.
3, twisted into a rope of unity
As the saying goes, "Unity is great". If everyone in the family has the same goal, that is to make the family develop further, then this force will be very great. In the face of family crisis, it is the greatest luck for a family to be able to resist as one. When a family member encounters difficulties, everyone will discuss with him and help him tide over the difficulties. This will make this family member feel very warm, and when other members encounter difficulties in the future, he will stand up and protect others. This is the power of unity. As long as a family is United, no matter how difficult it is, it will certainly survive smoothly, and such a family will certainly prosper day by day and eventually develop.