Family members should be the supporters and reliance in our life, and they can give us support and encouragement when we encounter difficulties and setbacks. However, sometimes we find that family members can't play such a role and can't be our backing. This feeling will be very depressed and lonely.
First of all, family members can't be the backing because of lack of understanding. They may not understand your current difficulties and emotional needs. This may be due to the communication barriers between you and your different experiences and outlook on life. In this case, I suggest you try to have in-depth communication with your family, share your feelings and expectations, and strive to enhance mutual understanding.
Secondly, family members can't be the backing, because they are also facing challenges and difficulties. They may have their own problems to solve, or they feel powerless. In this case, you can consider looking at the problem from another angle, try to understand the situation of your family and learn to support and understand them. On the basis of mutual understanding and support, you have the opportunity to face challenges and establish a closer and more stable relationship.
In addition, the family can't do the backing, probably because they have great expectations and pressure on themselves and can't take on additional responsibilities. This may be because of the complicated internal relations in the family, and they may have invested a lot of energy and time to solve other things. In this case, you can consider broadening the channels for seeking support, such as asking friends, teachers, counselors or professional psychologists for help. In this way, you can get extra support and guidance to help you tide over the difficulties.
To sum up, it may bring a sense of depression and loneliness that family members can't be their backing. This may be caused by family members' incomprehension, their own difficulties, or internal family pressure. I suggest you communicate with your family deeply, try to understand each other and seek support and guidance from others when necessary. Remember, sometimes we need help from other channels, which doesn't mean that our families don't love us, but they may also face various challenges. Through mutual understanding and support, you will have a better chance to overcome difficulties and establish a solid relationship.