I heard a sentence: "Children's personality and talent are influenced by their families and parents."
Think about it. It's true.
Every child is initially connected with the world through his parents.
Parents' words and deeds always inevitably have an impact on their later lives.
As psychologist Wu Zhihong said: Parents are the biggest fate of children!
Because whether a child can become a genius and be happy in the future is closely related to his parents' personality patterns.
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The father's example determines the height of a child's life.
Spencer, a famous psychologist, once said, "Father is the guide for children to the outside world."
I thought the same thing.
The child's future depends entirely on his father's vision and example.
What kind of model does the father have and what kind of life height does the child have?
We are the authors of @ Xia Media, and once told the story of Uncle Mo's three daughters:
Uncle Mo has three daughters, but since his brother has no son, he changed his youngest daughter to his brother.
Uncle Mo graduated from high school and opened a grain and oil shop. The whole family is full of food and drink.
In his view, it is very important to run a small shop and make a living like him, whether children study or not.
His brother is a college student. Although his income is not much, he attaches great importance to preschool education.
On weekdays, my brother reads with the children in the morning and guides them to read all kinds of books.
Brother pays more attention to cultivating children's minds than notes.
Every holiday, my brother and sister-in-law will take their children to participate in various meaningful activities to increase their experience and horizons.
After 16, the lives of the three sisters are quite different.
The two daughters who live with Uncle Mo, one dropped out of high school and the other went to college.
Later, they got married early and had children according to their parents' lifestyle.
The same child lives with different fathers and has different lives.
It can be seen that the father's vision and mode largely determine the height that the child can reach.
Writer Huang Jingjie once explained the best way of family education: educate people with foresight, not children with foresight.
The parental model is more like the starting point of a child's life.
The higher the standard of parents, the higher the starting point of children, the higher the upper limit they can reach and the more opportunities they have.
Parents with high standards are often the greatest happiness in a child's life!
Because the father's vision is the child's world.
There is a gap in the father's chest, and the child can see the sky all his life.
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The mother's condiment masks the child's sense of security.
Please refer to the online posts:
Blogger is an inferiority complex and insecure girl.
It was her mother who caused her pain.
The mother has a bad temper and often loses her temper over trifles.
She accidentally broke the bowl while washing the dishes, and her mother shouted angrily at her, "I can't do anything well." I didn't give birth to you until I did something outrageous in my last life. "
My mother wants to be strong, but because she missed your chance of promotion because she was pregnant, she has been severely scolding her: "If it weren't for you, I wouldn't be in this situation."
There are many other things.
Mother's bad temper has gradually become her frequent nightmare.
She began to be shy, humiliated, disagreed with her point of view, and her bones were full of guilt.
She is eager to get close to the person she likes, but because of inferiority and extreme insecurity, she has no courage to fall in love and still feels lonely.
I can feel her pain through words.
Heartache, but you must admit that a mother's bad mood is permanent to her children.
Many people are hard to cure all their lives, hold their breath all their lives, and bear the burden all their lives.
Writer Wu Zhihong once said: "Mothers have a great influence on children, especially emotional influence, which will accompany children all their lives."
Usually, the mother's temperament determines the establishment or destruction of the child's sense of security.
The mother's irritability will only deepen the child's inner anxiety and fear, and let him repeat the bad intimate relationship;
On the contrary, a gentle mother can make children feel love more, and she is more likely to grow up in warm people.
Lucky people use childhood to cure life, while unfortunate people use life to cure childhood.
The mother's temporary emotional venting is sometimes at the expense of the child's life.
The influence of mother's temperament on children is engraved on personality and soul, which determines the fate of children.
In order to educate children, you can also learn to stabilize their temper, replace criticism with acceptance, replace shouting with tolerance, and express your emotions calmly.
Only when mothers learn to control their temper and live in peace with their children can they raise happy children.
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The best family: dad has a big model and mom has a good temper.
As we all know, someone asked a question: Are parents really the first destination for children?
Netizen @ Kong Kong told me his personal experience below, which made me particularly moved.
Kong Gang was born in poverty and worked in agriculture for generations.
During the agricultural peak season, many students are called to help, and there are always few students in the classroom.
But no matter how busy, her father won't miss class.
At his father's insistence, Kong Gang went to college at will, broadened his horizons and made many excellent friends.
He completely got rid of the fate of agriculture and achieved a leap of three generations.
In fact, his happiness not only benefits from his father's general model, but also benefits from his mother's subtle influence.
Mother has a gentle personality and excellent temperament. She never quarrels with her neighbors.
They are tolerant and kind to their children, never beat and scold when they make mistakes, and always patiently guide them little by little.
Unconditional love and mother's tolerance not only gave Kong Gong a great sense of security, but also deeply influenced his character.
When I grew up, I inherited my mother's patience and gentleness.
It is this good temper that has become the label of her marriage and father-son relationship and created a harmonious and warm family for her.
Finally, she said that her achievements and happiness were attributed to her parents.
If it weren't for her father's general pattern, she might get married in a hurry, have children and lead a chaotic life like most girls in the village;
If it weren't for her mother's good temper, she might be in a bad temper and hit the wall in an intimate relationship.
After reading this answer, I deeply understand this sentence: the best education is to fight for your parents.
This is not parents' money, but parents' way and temperament.
The higher the father's standard, the bigger the child's world view, the better;
The better the mother's temperament, the gentler and richer the child's heart.
Dad's design is a lighthouse. The higher the standard, the farther the child goes; The better the temperament, the more stable the child walks.
The best feng shui in the family is that the father has high standards and the mother has a good temper.
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There is a line in the family education film Mirror:
"Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper. Both parents are painters. What white paper becomes depends on parents. "
In fact, children's lives, whether happy or sad, are rooted in their parents.
Parents' vision and temperament directly determine what kind of life their children will lead.
Parents have high standards and gentle temperament, and their children are happy all their lives. On the contrary, the child has been miserable all his life.
I hope parents can continue to increase their knowledge, control their temper and become guardians and messengers of their children!
May all children be treated well!