The first chapter is freedom with boundaries and letting go with rules.
& gt& gt The correct way is for parents to observe the danger of this trampoline first, and then tell their children in simple and easy-to-understand words before they go in to play, and work out a "three rules of engagement" with their children: 1. Keep your distance from other children, don't touch them, and stay away when other children are too close to you; 2. Don't jump where there is a gap on the side; When other children can't get up after falling, you should stop for a while and wait for the children to get up before jumping. If you can't do it, mom will have to carry you out and won't let you jump again. Can you do it? Hook the child and send him to the trampoline.
& gt& gt If the child can't do it, he should have a "contractual spirit" and tell him that because you didn't keep the agreement, mom must take you out according to the previous agreement. If you don't let go and compromise, a contract is a contract. Over time, children will naturally know where the danger is, what the rules are, and what the consequences will be if they don't follow the agreement.
& gt& gt Parents and children should have the spirit of contract. If the contract is broken, freedom will be taken back. As long as you don't break the contract, you should be free and let go.
& gt& gt Therefore, parents can first make a timetable with their children, arrange the order of things, and stipulate the degree of rewards, such as completing homework on time and with good quality, and rewarding watching cartoons for 20 minutes; If you can't do both, agree what will happen. Tell your child that it is the responsibility of parents to remind you what to do at the time node and which part of a task to accompany you, and the rest will be arranged by the child himself. The most important thing is that parents and children should sign a promise on the timetable to increase the sense of ceremony and strictly follow this contract.
& gt& gt Parents should observe more and talk less, but be sure to remind them when necessary.
Deal with dawdling and respect the rhythm of children.
& gt& gt He is clumsy, but he can master fine movements in labor, thus having the ability to complete tasks independently; He will make some mistakes, but he won't fall in the same place after failure ... It is these that give children new skills and a sense of accomplishment.
Be a hidden "lazy mother"
& gt& gt As a child's first teacher, every time parents do one more thing, the child loses an opportunity to exercise. Therefore, when the mother should be lazy, she must not be diligent. She should let go and be cruel. Don't feel bad, it should be the children themselves who are on the road to growth. We just need to keep all our love and care in our hearts and be a solid backing for our children's growth. I believe that children who become eagles flying in the sky in a few years will definitely thank their "lazy mothers".
Let children develop reading habits that will benefit them for life.
& gt& gt Reading is really important! Krupskaya, a famous educator in the Soviet Union, said that children's reading plays an important role in children's life, and the books they read in childhood can make children remember and influence them all their lives. This shows the importance of early reading. Especially for children aged 0-6, reading can help them learn knowledge, society and nature, and form good life and study habits. However, reading is not born to children and needs to be cultivated. It is our unshirkable responsibility as parents to guide children to love reading.
& gt& gt pop-up book, audio books, page turning books, punched books, sticker books, wordless books, toy books, office books and point readers. Oh, my God! There are too many kinds!
& gt& gt Parents' reading habits and family reading atmosphere also determine children's initial reading attitude. If parents like to hold mobile phones, how can they expect their babies to love reading? Dad Bao and I both like reading very much. Every night, when there is no work or other things, we always take a book, learn from it and enrich our brains. We enjoy the silence of this moment very much.
& gt& gt You may have unlimited wealth, boxes of jewels and boxes of gold, but you will never be richer than me-I have a mother who reads to me.
Chapter II Effective parent-child communication goes directly to the child's heart.
& gt& gt discipline should be gentle and firm.
How to read the minds of highly sensitive children?
& gt& gt stands firmly with the children.
& gt& gt In normal education, parents should not let highly sensitive children feel that they are special, but should discipline them when it is time.
& gt& gt I want to say that it is very important for parents to study. If I don't read and don't understand my child, I may scold him. Now that we know him fundamentally and have an emotional connection with him, our relationship has suddenly narrowed.
You are bullying the child and you don't know it.
& gt& gt "Do you know why many children are picky eaters but few parents are picky eaters?" A question from my friend shocked me: Yes, what happened? "Because parents never buy food they don't like!"
Want to establish a better parent-child relationship, just one action.
& gt& gt The most comfortable way for a child to talk is to squat like this on the right side and let the child look directly at you.
& gt& gt will unconsciously lower his voice and speak more softly when he squats.
& gt& gt When children see your expression, they can deepen their understanding of what you are saying.
Children who are not compared have a chance to be themselves.
& gt& gt The children being compared will set limits on their lives.
What if there is a child who can't afford to lose?
& gt& gt When a child loses his temper, what he needs is not a judgment or an encouraging word, but a real feeling-to stay with the child in the dark and truly understand his emotions, even if he is allowed to cry for a while.
& gt& gt Don't use excessive words and actions to strengthen the result of the game.
Don't make a hullabaloo about, let the children "listen" to you.
& gt& gt Visual images are more powerful than language.
& gt& gt。 Compared with simple, rude and ineffective yelling, we really should use our brains more and think about how to make children do things willingly.
& gt& gt She calmed the children's emotions first: Don't worry, adults sometimes forget things, and mom believes you didn't mean it. Then, she guides the child to solve the problem. She told the children that there are three solutions to this matter: sleep in for a while and finish the homework; Or get up early the next day to make up homework; If you don't want to, you can just tell the teacher that you forgot to write.
Bad temper is contagious.
Diana Baumrind, a psychologist at>& gt, made a study on the parenting style in 1970s, which proved that there is a significant correlation between parenting style and children's personality.
& gt& gt Get rid of your bad temper and give your child more patience, and you will certainly cultivate an understanding little angel.
& gt& gt In order to give our children the best upbringing, we buy them the best school district, send them to the most expensive schools and give them various excellent make-up classes, but it seems that we have neglected to set an example for our children with our words and deeds.
& gt& gt What kind of person do you want your child to be, you have to be what kind of person first.
Radical housewife life
& gt& gt By the way, Amway is a sleep artifact-a baby towel. Mini-bags have been used since birth, and they can sleep for five hours soon. The old mother regretted not giving it to her brother.
& gt& gt This state is not necessarily a good thing for children. If you pay too much attention to children, it will put a lot of pressure on them. My suggestion is to keep yourself busy and do something that has nothing to do with children. It is best to communicate and talk with the outside world more, cultivate some hobbies and find your new value. When your world widens, many things don't matter.
No superman mom. Let's learn about time management.
The>& gt handbook can also help me chew off the "hard bones", and it seems that the "big guy" task that I can't start is not that difficult, and I have to take it apart every month. After finishing one thing, painting one thing, happiness is bursting, and it is so cool that it flies.
& gt& gt later tried "pomodoro technique", which simply means working for 25 minutes, resting for 5 minutes, and so on.
& gt& gt What will make the whole person beautiful if you persist in doing it?
Who should be the richest?
& gt& gt It is a blessing for this family that the mother knows how to raise herself well.
& gt& gt In fact, for a family, the smartest investment is to raise a mother.
& gt& gt A mother who knows how to raise herself is probably a confident, interesting person who loves life and knows how to live. She is full of love and enough sense of security, tolerant and understanding the people around her, does not force her children to become "other people's children", and does not doubt whether her husband loves herself.
& gt& gt A mother's good mood is the best feng shui for a family, and her children's future lies in her mental outlook.
& gt& gt The mother's model is the child's model.
& gt& gt I also choose what I like to buy within my ability, and I won't buy what I don't need for a discount. This is also my motivation to make money.
& gt& gt No matter how busy you are, you will never stop learning or give up growing.
& gt& gt It costs money to raise a baby, and some "exclusive funds" are reserved for yourself. It is good to set aside 1000 yuan for yourself every month as a "package fund", "beauty fund" and "tourism fund".
& gt& gt Enrichment is an attitude towards life and has nothing to do with money.
& gt& gt Ma Bao, why are you so busy and always look energetic? "I think it's because I always satisfy myself and charge myself at any time.
& gt& gt Children prefer mothers with thoughts and attitudes to related nannies.
& gt& gt Managing your body and soul is the real enrichment.
& gt& gt When you become a mother, don't forget to dress yourself up.
& gt& gt Even though I am old, I want to be the best-dressed and most elegant old lady.
& gt& gt Dear, everyone is a visual animal. Who can see your beautiful heart through your plain appearance from the beginning?
& gt& gt mentioned in the book Why Beautiful People Are More Successful that among all men and women, beautiful people earn 4% ~ 8% more than the average person; As far as women are concerned, beautiful women earn more than unattractive women 12%.
& gt& gt Your image hides your attitude towards life and work. Go to the gym, take a beauty class, learn color matching, watch musicals ... Life brings her confidence and beauty, and makes her pay more attention to her work, so that she can get praise and appreciation in the workplace.
& gt& gt You are the only girl in the family, and you are very beautiful. Only the three of us have face, and the face value of the whole family has also improved.
Behind the>& gt200 pairs of shoes is my attitude towards life. The attitude towards life is much more important than the material basis. Beauty comes from the heart, beauty comes from the inside out, and so does wealth. A mother who nourishes herself is the best feng shui for a family.
If you are good enough, your children will be great.
& gt& gt If you are good enough, your children will be great.
& gt& gt Life is not composed of several key moments, but exists in tiny details and habits.
Chapter 4 Your home is better than the sky-high school district.
& gt& gt Your home is better than the sky-high school district.
& gt& gt strives to take on the responsibility of educating children, study more and make continuous progress.
& gt& gt The way to get along is to understand, tolerate and appreciate each other.
& gt& gt In a family, the father loves mountains and the mother loves the sea. In family education, father and mother have their own strengths and complementary advantages, which is most beneficial to children. Husband and wife care for each other and take care of each other. You can see my efforts, I can see you running around, understand each other's shortcomings and appreciate each other's advantages. Some details in life are the warmest confessions to each other.
Parents, don't forget to love each other.
& gt& gt Parents' love is the blessing of a child's life.
& gt& gt Parents' own behaviors have a great influence on their children. Don't think that only they teach and command children are educating them. Every moment of life, even when not at home, is educating children.
& gt& gt For a loving person, even if life gives him chicken feathers, he will make them into beautiful feather dusters.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is done in seven words.
& gt& gt The best relationship is that I can't easily understand you.
The power of example
& gt& gt For example, children are imitating the way you run.
& gt& gt First-rate parents are role models, second-rate parents are coaches, and third-rate parents are nannies.
Chapter V The nourishment of the original family makes children benefit from life.
A sense of ceremony can make one day different from other days and one moment different from other moments.
& gt& gt He may not take me to the yacht to eat French food, but he can run a few streets for me every morning to buy my favorite soybean milk fritters.
& gt& gt Create some bright spots for children.
& gt& gt Try not to miss your child's important moment.
& gt& gt It is not enough for a person to have this life, he should also have a poetic world. Life is there, and what kind of life you want to live depends entirely on your attitude towards it.
If you had a childhood, what kind of parents would you be?
& gt& gt has little to do with how much money you have; Being able to spend money is to make your life glow under limited conditions; Spending money means believing that you deserve better and working hard for it.
Experience family education around the world.
& gt& gt Pay attention to sports and get close to nature.
& gt& gt attaches importance to reading.
& gt& gt Give life some sense of ceremony.
& gt& gt The significance of parenting, for me, is to participate in the growth of a life, but also a journey of returning to and finding myself.
A good parenting style requires parents to be better themselves, love themselves, set an example, be smarter and learn to be happy.