I, a person who rarely follows the drama, really can't stand the bombardment of various media, so I rushed after it while it was still warm.
In the middle of the play, I think Su Mingyu and Su Mingzhe are the most interesting. Su Mingzhe and Su Mingyu are more alike among brothers and sisters. They are all diligent and eager to learn, and they all want to change their destiny by studying hard. Su Mingzhe said to her sister Mingyu, "For a family like us who has no resources and no background, exams are the only way to change our destiny. So for the exam, you must go all out. "
1? Su Mingyu won her role model-eldest brother Su Mingzhe.
In the play, after graduating from Tsinghua University, Mingzhe was admitted to Stanford University, a world-renowned university. With the full support of his mother, he continued to study in the United States and successfully obtained a green card. But when people reach middle age, they suddenly encounter a bad economic environment in the United States and face the dilemma of unemployment. Thanks to Mingyu's help in the dark, she found a job again. Since my new workplace is in Shanghai, I began to live apart from my wife and daughter. Faced with the reality that his wife and children are about to separate, he gave up his present job, put down his self-esteem and returned to the United States, accepting the reality that he might be engaged in a blue-collar job selling labor.
Mingyu has a good academic record and has the opportunity and potential to be admitted to Tsinghua. She has always regarded her eldest brother Mingzhe as her role model and her dream of going abroad to study in a prestigious school. However, under the arrangement of her son preference mother, Mingyu only went to a public normal school that didn't need money from her family. She left home in a fit of pique and hasn't spent a penny at home since she was eighteen. Mingyu finally broke out of this world by her own strength and became the most successful of the three daughters of the Su family. Although I don't admit that I am a member of the Su family, I helped the Su family solve almost all the contradictions.
In the process of watching the play, I have been thinking about a problem. Why can't Su Mingzhe, a brother with a high starting point, beat Su Mingyu, a sister with a low starting point?
Su Mingyu is an admirable strong woman. She is not only affectionate and righteous, but also has first-class problem-solving ability. No matter how wonderful things have happened in enterprises and families, she can handle them calmly and solve them easily with little effort. It can be said that it opens the way on every mountain and bridges when it meets water. The problem is handled like the person in her play-it is simple and beautiful.
Look at Su Mingzhe again. Although he has lived abroad for many years, many of his ideas and ways of thinking are still outdated and backward. For example, for Su Daqiang's foolish filial piety, Su Daqiang's works found an outlet; Only care about face, regardless of their actual ability to pay, blindly fill the boss's mentality; There is a problem at home, and I don't know the situation first, but I just complain about my family's wrong practices. Being ridiculed by netizens has a "disappointed" physique. What he often talks about is "I am so disappointed in * *."
2? The way of thinking is the decisive factor to decide the outcome.
The biggest difference between Mingzhe and Mingyu is the different way of thinking.
Although Su Mingzhe graduated from a prestigious school, most of the knowledge he learned was "technical". Once you lose this advantage, you can only face the dilemma of unemployment. A middle-aged programmer without management ability and potential is certainly not as competitive as a young employee with energy and innovation ability in the enterprise.
After receiving the news of his mother's death, Su Mingzhe was immersed in grief. Regardless of his wife's persuasion and his unemployment, he chose to return to China immediately and gave up the opportunity to travel with his boss's family. This trip was made after repeated invitations from Su Mingzhe and his wife. If it is understandable that the travel time is delayed because of the mother's death, it is obviously insincere to ask the wife to call the boss to explain the situation and ask for leave. As a direct result, Su Mingzhe received a notice of being laid off soon after he returned to the United States from China.
When dealing with the problem of Sue's family, he failed to grasp the crux of the problem. He can't see clearly that the root of all the problems in the family is not that the children are unfilial, but that Su Daqiang wants to "stand tall" and want to make a living. Not only did he fail to properly solve his father Su Daqiang's pension problem, but he also frequently dragged others down and even put his small family in jeopardy. In the process of watching the drama, I found that all the problems Su Mingzhe dealt with were "pressing the gourd to float the ladle", and finally Su Mingyu came forward to clean up these mess.
Although Mingyu only graduated from an ordinary normal university at home, her vision and pattern, under the cultivation and guidance of the noble old Mongolian, and her own cleverness and unremitting efforts, are very unusual.
The most classic is a plot in which Su Mingyu resolves the feud between his second brother Su Ming Cheng and the female boss Zhou Jie. After Su Mingcheng's participation in the project invested by female boss Zhou Jie failed, they turned against each other. Sister Zhou took every opportunity to attack Su Mingcheng and told her that Su Mingcheng had left the company, saying that unless Su Mingcheng changed industries, she could not find a job at all. In order to help Su Mingcheng, Su Mingyu used the cooperative relationship to find Zhou Jie. I used my own experience to tell Zhou Jie to take advantage of his position to take revenge. If she wins, she wins. Besides, "feng shui turns", people should leave room for others and themselves.
I have replayed this story many times, and I have gained two things: First, I am helping my second brother to settle the feud with Zhou Jie. Mingyu didn't shock Zhou Jie with her own background, but put down her figure and was sensible. After many times of persuasion, I said the words "Feng Shui turns". Warning Zhou Jie to fight to the death, only lose-lose, no winner. Choosing cooperation will bring a win-win situation. This carrot-and-stick dialogue helped Su Mingcheng solve the problems of work and life.
The second gain is that Mingyu is very clear-headed when facing the pressure from the female boss. She doesn't dwell on grievances, flattery or complain about injustice. Instead, I put all my energy into my work, speak with performance and strength, and soon I will be on an equal footing with my former female boss. Later, the former female boss has retired to Mingyu. Mingyu also wanted to retaliate against the female boss who once made a fool of herself, but in the end she chose tolerance and understanding.
Su Mingyu's handling method is really admirable, that is, how many men have such courage and mind.
She is good at grasping the essence of the problem and the root of the contradiction, and the method to solve the problem on this basis is also fast and accurate. In the face of complicated problems, we should slow down, wait patiently for opportunities and dig out the truth, instead of rushing to attack, throwing her partner Liu Qing out of more than ten pieces. But once the truth is found out, it is decisive and the methods and means are vigorous. So that his master, Lao Meng, always asks Mingyu for advice when trying to solve the problems of family interests and enterprise interests before the company goes public.
From this perspective, it is no accident that Su Mingcheng, who graduated from a prestigious school, failed in the workplace, and Su Mingyu, who lives independently at the age of 18.
3? Diligence without the right method is only a light year away from success.
When I was a child, my teacher often said, "Diligence can make up for mistakes" and "Stupid birds fly first". It took me several years to understand that without the right method, the gap between diligence and success is at least one light year. Su Mingzhe is the best example.
He is diligent and eager to learn, trying to change his fate through exams, and finally realizing his dream of going to a world famous school. However, the learning experience of famous schools has not changed Su Mingzhe's way of thinking and broadened his horizons. His arrogant and painful personality is exactly the same as his father Su Daqiang. On the contrary, the experience of studying in a prestigious school boosted his self-esteem, which led him to turn a blind eye to the essence of things, unable to master the correct methods and ways of thinking, and unable to properly handle and solve various contradictions and complex problems facing his family and work. As a result, Su Mingzhe, who always wanted to change his destiny through diligent study, finally reached the position of working as a blue-collar worker in the United States to make a living.
I remember CCTV had a classic interview about herding sheep. The reporter asked the shepherd boy, "What are you herding sheep for?" A: "Selling money." The reporter asked again: "What is the money for?" Answer: "Marry a wife." The reporter asked, "What does a wife do?" A: "Give birth to a baby." The reporter asked: "What does the baby do?" Answer: "herding sheep."
If the shepherd boy doesn't change his way of thinking and learn the right method, even if he is diligent to the extreme, there will be a difference between 500 sheep and 50 sheep compared with his parents. Of course, the example of herding sheep is more extreme. In the book Scarcity, this short-sighted and narrow way of thinking is called "peep effect".
The reason of "peep effect" is beyond the scope of this paper. The reason why I mentioned the story of herding sheep baby is only to give an extreme example to illustrate the importance of correct methods and ways of thinking. If we don't fundamentally change our way of thinking, even high flyers, a world-famous school in Su Like, can't easily solve the contradictions and problems in life and work. Therefore:
Correct methods and ways of thinking are the key factors that determine success or failure.
Diligence and study without correct methods are meaningless.
Einstein said: success = hard work+correct method+less empty talk.