This younger brother seems to play around at ordinary times, but he still knows proper manners and especially respects his elders. He really didn't make any money these years. He's almost 30 years old, and he has no room or date. Everyone thinks that he has nothing to do and his elders have some influence, so they don't have a good attitude towards him.
The old man finally arrived and the driver drove him here. The arrival of the elder is magnificent, and everyone is waiting for him. He has arrived, and everyone can't hold the moon. Finally, the younger brother greeted the preparation and poured tea and cigarettes for the elders. My brother's cigarettes are not bad. He gave his hands to his elders, then took out a lighter and lit it.
Unexpectedly, the elder threw the cigarette directly on the table, took out his own good cigarette from his pocket and smoked it, ignoring his brother's existence directly! The younger brother still smiled and said, this is good smoke. I've never smoked. Give me a taste!
The elder didn't hear me, so the younger brother went to the car and took out two cigarettes smoked by the elder, handed them to the elder and said to the elder, I know you like smoking and didn't prepare anything else for you. I brought you two cigarettes. Don't be disgusting. Leave (inferior) cigarettes and make do with them! I usually smoke this kind of cigarette too much, and it turns my stomach when I smell it. Of course, this cigarette is what I bought now, not what I smoked. If you don't like it, you can throw it away. I don't mind.
My father hurried to make amends, knowing that his elders could not bear to throw this cigarette, and seeing that his younger brother was wronged, my father said, I have received all the children's wishes! It's not easy for these children. Their father died young, helpless and struggling alone. It hurts to look at it. The baby knows how to get up and buy things for you. He came to me empty-handed (my dad joked to ease the atmosphere).
The younger brother said: Uncle (my father), I am very casual when I am with you. I recognize what you have done to me, because you are qualified, but you will always only know that you love me and treat me as your own child, and you will not look down on you. You almost raised me. Do you think I can go to your house empty-handed? I should go back to my home and get used to it, haha. ...
At this time, the elders' faces were only embarrassed. He knows that he just moved a little, and his brother really cares! I think people give you cigarettes, first of all, regardless of the price of cigarettes, at least others respect you. Others kindly offered cigarettes, but you refused. This is not a wise man, but you don't respect yourself. You take yourself too seriously, but you actually look down on yourself. This is my stupid opinion, which made everyone laugh.
Is this a shame? There is even more humiliation ... once I went to the door to talk about cooperation with a boss and handed him a five-leaf god. After he took it, he threw it into the trash can, took out a bun from his pocket, and ordered it ... I came to talk to you about business to win * * *, and we made money together, not to beg you for a flash of light. If you can cooperate, you will cooperate happily. If you don't cooperate, I'll talk to someone else ...
A few years later, I heard that he went bankrupt, owed a lot of money to others, and ran away ... I was relieved to know at that time. Well, I admit that I gloated [covering my face] [covering my face]
This happened to me, too.
Once, I went to work with my friends. On my way back, my friend answered a phone call. He was invited to dinner. My friend refused, saying that I was inconvenient in the car. The man generously insisted that I join, saying that the atmosphere would be better with more people. So, we went to the hotel together.
There are six people on the table, all of whom seem to be important people. They called the man to meet us, warmly greeted us to sit down, introduced us one by one, and offered a cigarette.
I'm in an awkward position. I don't know anyone except my friends. Seeing that they were talking in full swing, I stood up and offered them a cigarette. I smoke a cheap cigarette of 16 yuan. When I handed it to a man named Vice President Zhang, he took it and put it on the table.
After a while, the waiter began to serve and asked whose cigarettes were scattered on the table. Vice President Zhang picked up the cigarette and threw it directly into the trash can. He took out a pack of expensive Chinese cigarettes from his pocket and put it on the table, saying that he was used to smoking this kind of cigarettes and others were not used to it.
At that time, my friends and friends of friends were surprised, and I was even more embarrassed. Friends rushed out and said that Vice President Zhang's quality of life is really good and he knows how to enjoy it. I happen to have a good cigarette from a friend here, and the vice president wants one. Zhang Fuzong took the point and handed it over.
I regretted coming with me then. You said a courier was joking in overalls, but he couldn't leave. He seems to be talking about some business. I invited my friends to see that I was a little strange, so they came over to chat with me warmly, asked how the business was, and said that your industry was very profitable, tired and ate vegetables.
After dinner and drinking, we sat and chatted. Vice President Zhang picked up the cigarettes on the table and brought them to us. He handed it to me and said, try this cigarette. Yes, I took it and I didn't know what it was.
My friend said to go to the bathroom, and I want to go with him. When he pressed me, I just sat there listening to them chatting and smoking a stuffy cigarette.
My friend is back, and I seem to have put something in my pocket. A message came in the mobile phone, which was sent by a friend who just went out. I bought you two packs of good cigarettes and put them in your pocket. I understand that my friends are defending me, saving my face and buying cigarettes.
I took out my cigarette and handed it to Zhang Fuzong. I saw that his face was obviously different. He should be embarrassed, too My friends suddenly calmed down and looked at us. He took the cigarette and didn't light it. He is playing with it in his hand.
After I finish smoking, I put the good cigarettes in my pocket, or take out the cheap cigarettes I have smoked and light them myself. I'm used to smoking this habit, not to smoking anything else. Look at my life.
Vice President Zhang was on pins and needles.
My eldest brother 1985 went out to work and worked as a handyman in a restaurant called Yingbin Restaurant. No sooner had he gone out than he spoke his hometown dialect. Boss Zhao took him to see the chef, saying that Liu recommended him and asked him to practice well.
My big brother is very nervous. After all, it was the first time I saw such a big scene. The kitchen was bigger than our humble hut. I handed the chef a cigarette with trembling hands. The cook took a look at it, then showed it to the guys, and they gave a burst of laughter.
Then the chef put the cigarette under his nose, smelled it, closed his eyes and took a deep breath, then slowly opened his eyes with a sly smile, flicked his thumb and fell into the trash can next to the cutting table.
My brother is very sad and embarrassed. That's when he borrowed fifty cents from others to buy cigarettes. He rushed to the trash can to pick up cigarettes. He never smokes. He borrowed a match from the dishwasher and lit it.
This made him cough, and while coughing, he said that it was the smell of cigarettes. What a shame. No wonder the chef doesn't want it.
That shop is a northern dish, not spicy. My brother is a spicy person, so he went to the food market and bought half a catty of peppers, 1 green peppers and white peppers. After frying, he chopped them into hot sauce and put a spoonful in every working meal.
Boss Zhao also had a working lunch with employees that day. Seeing that the noodles in my brother's bowl are different from others, I asked him how he did it. My brother said it was spicy. I'll make you a bowl if you like.
Knowing that northerners like to be jealous and my brother wants to be jealous of noodles and vinegar jiaozi, he cooked a bowl of hot and sour noodle bone soup for Boss Zhao, who ate his thigh and said that he had never tasted it. Colleagues who look away are jealous.
The next day, my brother was transferred to another store by boss Zhao, which had a Sichuan food department. The boss told my brother to study hard, patted him on the shoulder and said he had a future. Teach him to the chef so that he can get proper training.
My brother handed a cigarette to the chef, who stuck it in his ear and said that he couldn't smoke during work hours, and asked my brother to change clothes and practice fencing.
The first step for a chef to practice knife work is to cut shredded potatoes and radishes every day, and then make these shreds into a working meal. The waiter in the front office is afraid to meet the new employees because there will be a meal of potatoes, shredded radish.
At noon, the chef took off his apron and went to the back to smoke. Later, he came back and asked my brother where he bought this cigarette. Why hasn't he seen it? My brother said he bought it at Uncle Hutongkou's tobacco stall. The chef said it was not bad. It was smooth. Brother hurriedly presented the remaining half box with both hands respectfully. The chef readily accepted and asked him to practice hard. This sentence gave my brother great encouragement.
The girls at the front desk have had enough of robbery and potatoes. My brother asked the chef if he could lend him 2 yuan. He is going to buy meat and shred it. The chef smiled and asked him, do you want to practice fencing or please girls?
Answer truthfully, borrow. My brother said that he had everything and wanted to practice his swordsmanship to please girls. The cook patted my brother on the shoulder and said he had a future.
After practicing for more than half a year, my brother didn't even earn enough money. He also wrote that he would not go home for the New Year without travelling expenses. My parents were lost for quite a while and stood at the entrance of the village every day.
My brother's craft has made great progress because of the Spring Festival.
Everyone in the shop has left, leaving only the chef and my brother. The cook worked outside all the year round, and his wife ran away with someone. He didn't want to go back to face the gossip, so he sent money and gifts to his family.
Boss Zhao has many social activities. Every day, friends come to the store to eat, and often ask the chef to accompany them. I'll leave the simple chef in the back to my brother. My brother likes to cook fish stew chicken and stir-fry pork in his hometown, but his family is poor and he has no chance to do it once a year or so.
Both the boss and the guests praised his delicious food, saying that the young man worked hard and had a bright future. None of the New Year's Eve guests went back to their hometown to celebrate the New Year with their parents. Those people all gave my brother lucky money.
My brother is so happy that he has never seen so much, tens of dollars. He thought about it, kept 300 yuan for himself, and gave the rest to the chef. From then on, the chef called him more diligent and cruel, not that he was slow and the oil temperature was high, but that the technology was wrong.
Fish-flavored shredded pork was scolded and cried, either too sweet or too spicy or too thick.
Under the repeated scolding of the chef, my brother's craft improved rapidly, climbing from the tail chef to the third position.
1998, the first store where my brother stayed closed, and Boss Zhao left some employees to be assigned to various branches.
At that time, my brother was already the chef of a new store, and the chef who taught him to cook in the second store was promoted to the executive chef of all stores. The chef who threw my brother's cigarettes came to my brother's shop as an apprentice with 17 year old son.
The lobby manager led the father and son to the kitchen and gave them to my brother, saying that Boss Zhao had ordered a good training, and he went out.
My brother is teaching beginners to set the dishes. Father and son greeted my brother politely. The cook handed a cigarette and his son lit a match. My brother readily accepted, and the chef said, I'm sorry, brother. I was young and ignorant, please forgive me.
In the future, my dog expects more attention from you. Adults don't remember villains. My brother pretended to be surprised and asked him what he was talking about. Do we know each other? Have we met?
My brother said, I will teach whoever is willing to study and who works hard. The cook shook hands with my brother heavily to say goodbye.
Maybe he was influenced by his father since he was a child, or maybe the boy was smart and smart. He learns faster than any apprentice in the shop, and my brother likes him, too. Later, he visited the store with the executive chef and exchanged experiences with chefs in various stores. My brother took this apprentice.
On the day when the boy was officially promoted to chef, his grandparents and parents were invited to the store, along with Boss Zhao and the executive chef.
During the dinner, the family raised their glasses to propose a toast to my brother, and the chef told the story of my brother's cigarette thrown into the trash can in front of Boss Zhao. His father said that I didn't educate my child well, which made him so arrogant. Thanks to my brother's generosity, let bygones be bygones.
What if someone loses it on the spot?
Others threw away your cigarette on the spot, but they thought you were in a bad position and denied you.
1, quietly, continue to send it to the next one.
2, self-teasing, bent down to pick it up and apologize: I'm sorry I didn't hold it steady.
Praise the other person's good habits and tell him that I want to quit smoking, too.
No matter how high your position is, always remember that the wind and water turn, the mountains don't turn, the earth is round, and don't leave future troubles for yourself and future generations.
Many friends, few enemies and few regrets. Be tolerant, high-profile and low-key.
I suggest you go straight back and throw away your cigarettes in front of yourself. That's a complete loss of face. There's no need to save face for each other. It happened before me that the younger generation handed cigarettes to the elders, who threw them directly under the table. Look how we fought back.
Two years ago, during the Spring Festival, several of our cousins went down to visit the uncle's aunt under the guidance of the uncle. Because we are close, we haven't seen each other for a long time during the Chinese New Year, so it is inevitable that we will have a few drinks and ride a tricycle to visit our relatives.
When we arrived, a relative who came back from the city, according to his seniority, should have become an uncle and came back early in the car driven by his son. As we are juniors, a cousin who went with me saw my uncle coming back and quickly took out his cigarette and handed it to everyone (I don't smoke, and I didn't pass it). My uncle and his son didn't reach for cigarettes. I began to think that they didn't smoke like me.
After three rounds of drinking at dinner, my uncle began to brag about where his son worked and how much he earned a month. This year, he bought a house in another place and was going to settle in another place. He also said that we can go to see his son when we go out to work in the next year. As he spoke, he took out a packet of flowers from his pocket and smoked it himself. Because he is an elder, it is reasonable for him to smoke his own hanako cigarette.
After a while, my cousin took out cigarettes and gave them to everyone. Because he didn't answer at first, I guess my cousin thought he didn't smoke, too. Just watching him smoke Hanako, I knew he smoked, so my cousin handed him a cigarette first. At this time, my uncle said that he couldn't get used to smoking other cigarettes and didn't mean to reach out and pick them up. My cousin has been standing there with a cigarette in one hand, which is very embarrassing. It is estimated that after drinking a few glasses of wine, he replied: I am not used to smoking today. This cigarette is no more difficult than your flower.
Seeing my cousin's heavy tone, so many people watched, my uncle reached out to pick up the cigarette, and then Sao came to operate. After he took the cigarette, he didn't smoke it, but put a lot outside the table. When the table moved, the cigarette fell directly to the ground. Then he took a flower from his cigarette case, lit a cigarette and said that he still smoked this.
We can see that the young people we went to were stupid, which obviously looked down on people, so after this cigarette, we just ate our own food and drank with each other. As for my uncle, he likes drinking or eating, and no one will give him a toast or light a cigarette. Until after dinner, my uncle sat there alone, very embarrassed. Nobody wants to talk to him anymore.
After dinner, we went to the cemetery. We walked fast with paper and guns, leaving my uncle behind. After going to the grave in the field, we went back. Going to my uncle's aunt's grave later will avoid going on the same day as my uncle in the city.
In fact, when someone gives you a cigarette, you don't have to answer it if you don't smoke. Those who don't smoke this brand can take it first. If you don't smoke, others won't say anything. When someone gives you a cigarette, it's as if you are showing friendship. It is very wrong of you to give other people's cigarettes directly to the ground. I hope my friends will remember that you must not return the cigarettes handed over by others in front of others.
After graduation, my distant uncle came to my home to visit my father. Father asked me to take out the good cigarettes and give them to him. Unexpectedly, he picked them up, took a look and threw them on the table. He said, I don't smoke this inferior cigarette. I was so angry that I didn't expect my father to be unusually calm. Afterwards, he made my uncle feel ashamed with a move.
Dad has been in poor health these years. My distant uncle hasn't come back for many years since he moved out of town many years ago. That year happened to be the transfer of his old house, so he had to come back and deal with related matters himself. When he came back, he heard that my father was ill and came to see me.
After graduating from college, the original plan was to find a company in the provincial capital, but because of my father's physical reasons, my mother took care of it alone, and some of them were not at ease, so I didn't worry about finding a job, but went home first to help my mother do what she could and spend more time with my father.
Dad heard that my uncle was coming to visit, so he asked my mother and I to go to the market to buy food that morning. He is going to cook and cook. My uncle in my impression likes me very much. He and my dad used to have a drink and chat together.
But that day, the moment my uncle came in, I felt very uncomfortable.
My home is an old neighborhood of a small town. My uncle has been here before, but this time, I want to greet him warmly. I didn't expect him to say: Why is this community still there? I haven't found such an old house for a long time. Why don't you buy a house downtown?
I'm speechless. The friendly "old uncle" who just hung up on me also swallowed abruptly. I rummaged through my slippers in the shoe cupboard to find him a pair. He asked me if I had a shoe cover, which was more convenient. I said no, so he threw it away. You see, your floor hasn't been cleaned much, so I just don't wear it.
Say that finish, and went in.
Dad is busy in the kitchen. When he saw my uncle coming, he came out to greet him warmly and told me to take out the good cigarettes at home and treat him well.
I rummaged through everything and finally found a good cigarette hidden by my father. Then I took out two bags, opened them and handed them to my uncle. At this time, my father was cooking, and he came out to talk to my uncle. I didn't expect to meet my uncle throwing cigarettes.
He looked at the cigarette and picked up the cigarette case, then his face changed. Then he threw the one I handed him on the table, and then angrily spit out a sentence: I don't smoke such inferior cigarettes.
At this point, my stomach is full of anger, and I am about to overcome it. Dad slowly sat down next to my old uncle and said quietly, this cigarette may not be to your taste, but my distant relative brought it to me. Because I'm sick, I should smoke less than I want to.
Say that finish, my uncle expected something, and then picked up the cigarette case and looked at it. My face turned red in an instant and I didn't talk much. On that day, my uncle left without eating. For other things, he left early.
While eating, I curiously asked my dad who sent this cigarette and why my uncle stopped chewing when he looked at the cigarette case.
Dad said with a smile, your old uncle may not have returned to his hometown for a long time, and he is used to the life in the big city, the rich life and many habits. Don't be so angry.
I bought this cigarette on behalf of a friend, and the place of origin is your uncle's side. Do you remember my uncle's son, your brother, who also works in a cigarette factory there?
I understand a little, but I still ask with a grain of salt, is this cigarette produced by my brother?
Dad smiled and stopped talking.
I feel a little carefree when I think of my embarrassed expression when my uncle left.
You don't say thank you when someone gives you a cigarette. Instead, you just throw it away. This is not taking smokers seriously.
Many times, our manners and manners can determine a person's literacy. We don't look down on others when we are rich, and we don't give up when we are poor.
Details determine the success or failure of a person's development. In fact, many rich people are not arrogant towards the people around them. On the contrary, they are humble, kind and tolerant of more differences.
This incident also made me understand that we don't have to vent our views and opinions by growling, but we can use peaceful language to convey more direct results.
First, it is better to keep a low profile. If you smoke, people respect you out of respect, even if you smoke at a low price. Second, if you can't smoke, you must refuse it in person, and don't make uncomfortable moves to step down. You also learned your character in public. Third, these movements, pure and broken, are personality problems, and personality is in doubt. Fourth, people's every move, every word and deed, you don't pay attention, you think it doesn't matter, others are clear.
The old man in the countryside said, "People respect you one foot, but you return one foot.". If you give someone a cigarette, others will throw it away directly on the spot, which means that others can't see you at all, and even think "who are you?" For such a person, if you respect him, he will treat you in turn, so there is no need to overlap in the future. Black him out of your life.
People live all their lives. Some people say "always know how to compromise and pursue perfection", but I don't think it's easy to live a lifetime anyway. Why can't we live happily?
When you give someone a cigarette, you can't just throw it away even if the other person doesn't smoke. This is a matter of common sense. The other party doesn't even care about this common sense. It can be seen that the other party can't even give you respect. Since there is no respect, I don't think it is necessary to continue to communicate. This kind of thing in the countryside is the rhythm of old age and death.
Seeing your question reminds me of an incident I experienced. It is also the time to chat at home during the Spring Festival. I took out my cigarette and gave it to everyone. Many people hold it directly in their hands. Two of them said, "I don't mind being shabby when I smoke this kind of cigarette in the New Year. I don't smoke this kind of cigarette because it hurts my throat. " Well, if you don't smoke, I won't give it to you. I gave it to you out of respect.
So, regarding your question, I think that since you gave the other person a cigarette, the other person lost it directly on the spot, and there may be other people around, and the other person embarrassed you. In this case, you can choose to "black" each other from life, for fear that you don't understand the minimum respect. This kind of person does not need to continue to associate, and his character will not pass.
That's my answer.
I don't smoke. I have offered cigarettes to my guests many times. This has never happened to me. If such a thing happens, although I will be very unhappy, I don't think it is necessary to care. People who worship cigarettes can be silent and laugh it off. Because people who don't even have the minimum respect for people's quality, even if the other party has more rights and more money, will not be much better. More importantly, I have seen a man because of a cigarette! Personal opinion only.
I once smoked cigarettes for my colleagues. As a result, my colleagues didn't even look at it, so they just threw it on the ground and said, you deserve my cigarettes, too.
The first time 1 encountered this situation, I was deceived. Fortunately, I reacted in time and saved face.
Point 1, personal experience. I participated in more than one internship when I was in college. The so-called internship is nothing more than working in a company. Although the salary is not much, I can always learn more.
Moreover, some companies are also very kind to their employees and enthusiastic about working in the company, but when I was working in one of them, I went too far and robbed some people of their scenery.
The thing is, at that time, a company just admitted five students from our school, and the boss of the company said it was fate. Let's make a comparison.
Compare what? Comparing our five employees, which one performs best, I will give you an extra subsidy of 5000 yuan. At that time, our brains were a little hot after listening to it.
It should be noted that it is remarkable to get a monthly salary of 1000 yuan during the internship.
The boss of the other company actually promised to give 5000 yuan for good performance, which is equivalent to five months' work. In fact, the boss of that company is not short of money, just to inspire our fighting spirit.
According to the normal process, then we will work hard. In fact, there is no effort, just doing our job well.
But one day I suddenly realized something was wrong. What's the matter? An employee standing next to him worked overtime to show himself, and he also worked overtime to show himself after work.
Needless to say what this means, everyone who has experienced it knows that it is true to roll it up. Once employees get involved, our life will be hard.
But other employees didn't take this 5000 yuan to heart, although only on the surface.
After all, this 5000 yuan is a huge sum of money anyway, so we all worked hard at that time.
Because I am also engaged in this major, I have some opinions on the content of this major. Sometimes when the boss has a meeting, I can also make some suggestions.
If you ask me if I have any intention to show, I can only have the cheek to say, yes, I am also showing myself. After all, who do you think is not interested in 5000 yuan?
In this way, I gradually became the little red man in the eyes of the company, and the boss patted me on the shoulder and said that I did a good job.
In fact, no matter how you look at it, it is nothing more than normal internal competition in the workplace, but I didn't expect what happened next to be beyond my imagination.
Because some seniors in the company smoke, I don't smoke, but I carry a pack in my pocket.
I gave a cigarette to each of these elders or colleagues in the company, including but not limited to those who came out of my school and came to this company for internship.
He didn't even look after I handed him a cigarette. He just threw it on the ground. By the way, such bad cigarettes can be thrown into the trash can. I'm afraid it will dirty my mouth.
My friend, of course, I think he is my friend. Having said that, my whole brain is circulating. What's the matter? What's the matter?
In fact, although I didn't know what was going on at that time, I almost understood it when I thought about it later. It is very likely that I was too conspicuous at work, which stole his thunder and made him mistakenly think that I was a strong competitor.
Although I didn't know what was going on at that time, I still had some IQ. I immediately decided whether the other party was hitting me in the face or not.
It's just that this thing has happened and it seems hard to change.
So I can only hold my breath and ask him, since this cigarette is not easy to smoke, why don't you take out one and I'll see what it looks like.
Then I was laughed at by him and even said something that was unlikely to be put on the table, and then it was over.
Some people say it is wrong. He has obvious intentions for you. Why not be tit for tat?
It should be noted that if tit for tat, it is different from Xiong Haizi's two quarrels.
In this case, my method may be more ingenious. I don't need to talk eloquently, and I don't need to stand on the moral high ground and accuse him. I just need to smile, and everyone will understand right and wrong.
Second, what should I do in this situation? No matter in the workplace or in life, we will always encounter similar problems. We kindly give others a cigarette. As a result, we didn't expect that the other party didn't receive this feeling and even spoke ill of themselves in front of everyone.
My little heart is pounding, and I feel that my whole mental state is not good. Have you ever been in such a situation? The answer is yes.
Whether you have encountered a similar situation or directly encountered this situation, listen to my advice, as long as you do the following, you can turn over the salted fish.
Just don't get angry, no matter how ugly the other person says, no matter how arrogant the other person is, you should pay attention to it. The more impulsive the other person is, the more calm you are.
Then the more advantageous it is, it's that simple. When you are calm enough, even to the extreme, you have stood on the moral high ground to a certain extent, and you have gained an advantage that others can't get at all.
Because everyone with a discerning eye can see who is right and who is wrong, you kindly take out a cigarette and let the other person smoke, even if the other person doesn't smoke.
I even told you that this cigarette is not good. This cigarette is not good This kind of cigarette is not smoked by people at his level at all.
The more intense, incoherent and aggressive he is, and the more he treats your goodness as something that has no return, the more dominant you are.
And this part of the advantages can also be seen by colleagues around you. The biggest fear is that the other party is impulsive, and you are impulsive.
Originally, you still occupied a part of the truth, but as a result, you said something you shouldn't have said, and didn't even occupy that little truth.