The secret of a woman's happiness in marriage is that it is not easy to stay together for a long time. Now many families can't stand the pressure and break up, and the divorce rate has been increasing. I don't think anyone wants to get married and leave. Let's look at the secret of a woman's happy marriage.
The secret of a woman's happiness in marriage is 1 1. Marriage between men and women must be both rigid and flexible, and yin and yang should complement each other;
There is a saying in the Book of Changes: "When it comes to it, women are strong and don't take women." That is to say, this woman is too strong, and it is better not to marry. Some people can't help but say, isn't this male superiority?
I don't think so, do you? ! In fact, it just means that men and women get along generally. Under the condition that men play an active social role, this is a general demand for women's social role. Every society has a problem of how to find a marriage model for men and women.
For example, many "matchmaker" companies in western countries now check the genes of men and women who are seeking marriage in the way of matching men and women, and take your genetic information as the basis for the best matching. Our ancestor didn't know what genetic genes were, but he knew that the main factors affecting the marriage of men and women were related to their own genetic information that could reflect their personality and psychological characteristics.
This thing is in ancient times. What is that? After countless theoretical and practical tests, they found that the psychological characteristics that can reflect a person's personality are related to the information of this person's birth, which is the later eight characters.
Judging from the eight characters, a strong person has the following characteristics: first, he is healthy and can naturally adapt to different harsh natural and social environments; Second, the ability is not necessarily poor. As we all know, in ancient times, a person's ability may not be measured by how high your strategy and wisdom are, but mainly by your physical strength and courage; Third, strong personality, perseverance, courage and fearlessness.
I think the reason why ancient people did not advocate marrying a strong woman may be from the perspective of altruism. Because women are stronger, their physical strength may be much worse than men after all; In an ancient society that mainly relied on physical strength and economy, it was often faced with a complex and harsh environment. After all, if the physical strength is not as good as that of men and the courage exceeds that of men, you will inevitably face many life and death problems. On the other hand, it is not conducive to taking care of families and children.
In modern society, whoever is too strong-willed will never know how to advance and retreat. In a society that needs more wisdom and rationality, it is often difficult to stand and survive. This is especially true of women's life. After all, today's society is still dominated by male power, and women also undertake many family responsibilities and functions. Therefore, women who are too old often cannot get married smoothly. The main reason, of course, is the society's expectation of women's social roles. And this expectation has certain rationality.
Therefore, for women who are too strong in the eight characters, the core problem is how to make themselves more feminine if they want to have a happy marriage; Gentle; Be more careful and take care of your family.
From the perspective of marriage, I want to find the opposite sex who is slightly weaker than me as the marriage partner. This is actually a role exchange, so that men can rely on you. Of course, you also like others to rely on you, which is a combination of rigidity and softness, and yin and yang complement each other. It is also a good balance system, which is naturally not easy to be broken. If I also find a strong man, there will be many disputes and contradictions in my marriage, and it will be difficult to have happiness.
Similarly, for weak women, it is best to match with the strong opposite sex.
It is necessary for men and women to get married. Supplementary birth season;
In the eight characters, the Japanese stem represents himself and the Japanese branch represents the spouse; Two people, the sun is shining and the earth supports each other, which shows that the two people have a good relationship and can help each other. Whether you like it or not, at least the relationship between two people will not be bad.
The Japanese yen relationship between the two characters is as follows: Party A and Party B are consistent; B and g are consistent; Propane-octyl combination, butyl-nonyl combination and pentadecyl combination; The relationship between them is that Party A, Party B, and Party B are born with fire; Ding Binghuo gave birth to Wuji soil; Wuji was born in gold; Geng Xin Jinshengren Water; Non-dodecyl aquatic A wood.
The combination of Japanese branch and Japanese branch mainly includes Liuhe, Sanhe, Bansanhe. The facies formation mainly depends on whether the five elements of Errenzhi gas reservoir are facies, and its facies formation principle is basically consistent with the facies formation law of Tiangan gas reservoir.
The seasonal requirements of birth should also be complementary. For example, people born in hot summer often complement each other in winter; For those born in winter, the supplementary object is mainly born in summer; People born in spring often bring out the best in autumn; People born in autumn often need spring to complement each other. This is actually a simple statement, and the core issue is to take into account the specific requirements of the eight-character god complementarity and weather regulation.
Such a marriage relationship can naturally be harmonious, and happiness can naturally be expected. Of course, this is a question that needs to be considered before getting married.
3. How to control the balanced development of marriage and family;
This question, which I once mentioned in my blog, is how do you grasp and maintain the balance and stability of your family? Without balance and stability, how to manage the crisis?
In the final analysis, the core of marriage relationship is the balance of yin and yang, which is different from the law of winning by the five elements. Therefore, dealing with marriage and family relations must follow the law of interaction between yin and yang. How to keep the balance of yin and yang? Yin and Yang home found:
Yin and Yang are opposing concepts, and the opposing sides can restrict each other. However, it shows a rule that the strength of mutual restraint between yin and yang is inversely proportional to its own rise and fall, and directly proportional to the rise and fall of the other party.
That is, when yin and yang are out of balance, the weak side has greater restriction on the strong side than the strong side does on the weak side; Moreover, the restraining force of the weak side against the strong side will increase with the disparity of strength between the two sides; The restraining power of the strong side to the weak side narrows with the disparity between the two sides, thus disappearing.
This is why we often find that there are contradictions in the marriage between men and women. Compared with the other side, one side seems to have a great disparity in strength. Often one side suppresses the other, which will only lead to many contradictions, resentment, dissatisfaction and so on. But the timing of a real divorce is often the luck that the disadvantaged party becomes strong. The reason is that the weak side has played a less restrictive role in the luck of these years.
The secret of a woman's happiness in marriage is 2 1. Don't look in the mirror in front of the bed. Because the mirror has reflective power, if it is facing the bed, it will cause people's mental fear, and it is easy to have nightmares and affect the feelings of husband and wife.
2. Keep a red or pink fish in the corner of the living room. This fish that swims in front of you every day is the catalyst that touches each other's desires. However, it depends on the fate of the Lord. Numerology likes the availability of water, otherwise it will not be available.
3, the bedroom light should be comfortable and soft. Too dark light can easily tarnish your love, and too bright light can easily increase the friction between the two sexes.
4. Put a curtain over the bed or put a curtain or mosquito net around the bed. Such a peach blossom game will make the lust of both sides overwhelming and out of control!
5. According to the zodiac, insert a pink rose in the peach blossom position, or a bunch of peach blossoms and a silver willow to stimulate each other's sexual desire.
6. The layout of the bedroom should be neat and elegant, and there should not be too many sundries, which can increase the romantic atmosphere.
7. There should be no table corner, cabinet corner fist or neck around the bedside, otherwise it will cause suffocation, make people feel uneasy, turn against each other and break up their feelings.
8. The master bedroom should not be too big. Because the bedroom is too big, too bright, too many windows, the feng shui is easy to fade, Yang Qi is insufficient, and there are too many lonely Yin Qi and Yin Qi, so the relationship between husband and wife is easy to be cold, not harmonious and arguing. On the contrary, gas gathering is strong, and husband and wife love each other deeply.
9. Put a doll (male left and female right) on the pillow that matches your zodiac sign. For example, a horse can herd sheep, and a tiger can herd pigs (combination: rat with cow, tiger with pig, rabbit with dog, dragon with chicken, snake with monkey, horse with sheep). With this "sex" thing, it will be very difficult to stop having sex!
10, triangle or arrow patterns should be avoided for bed sheets and pillowcases. Because this design belongs to the fire line, it will make the sun be the spirit in the bedroom too strong, destroy the peaceful atmosphere and affect the love between husband and wife.