First, let the children do their homework on their own initiative.
Your child is obedient and a tame horse, but people often say, "You can take the horse to the river, but you can't make it drink water." Indeed, unless the horse is thirsty, even if it can be brought to the water, it should not be allowed to drink water on its own initiative.
The first trick is not to do homework for too long.
The second measure is to enlarge the advantages of children.
The third measure, learning should not be rushed.
The fourth trick is to let him bring the girl he likes home.
Fifth, let the children have fun first.
The sixth trick is to stimulate her and let him go all out.
The seventh move, on the other hand.
The eighth measure is to change the learning environment frequently.
Ninth, make a homework schedule.
The tenth trick is to let the children do their homework first.
The eleventh trick is to let the children draw lots by themselves.
Twelfth, don't judge teachers in front of children.
Second, how to make children obedient and sensible
When communicating with children, we must listen to him carefully and let him feel the concern and respect of parents, so that children's small self-esteem will be established, and they will seriously think about what they think and do and express their views in conversation with adults, which will also help children's rational thinking habits. Of course, adults should also pay attention to some details when communicating with children, so as to communicate with children quickly.
The first trick is to praise the child through the mouth of a third party.
The second trick is to communicate feelings with children through letters or diaries.
The third trick is to speak in a gentle tone.
The fourth measure is to let the children know what is wrong in time.
The fifth measure is to subtly divert the child's attention.
The sixth measure is to integrate into children.
The seventh trick is to talk about one thing at a time.
The eighth trick is to always express your trust in your child.
The ninth trick is only to make constructive suggestions.
The tenth trick, don't blame the frustrated children.
The eleventh measure is to correct the child's bad life details in time.
The twelfth trick is to praise the children more.
Third, how to guide children to be conscious?
There is a saturation principle, that is, children are usually bored. Although I strongly hope to have a goal, I can also appreciate the fun of finishing things. But I can't continue to take the initiative because I have many courses in my heart. If I lower my requirements and reduce the weight of my homework, I will continue to cultivate children's vitality at low tide, so they will improve their sense of responsibility and do their homework more actively after low tide.
The first measure is to appropriately reduce the requirements for children.
The second trick is to let children do subjects they don't like first.
The third measure is to enhance the initiative at the same pace.
The fourth measure is to let the children suffer first.
Fifth, interest is the best teacher.
Sixth, the mother's motivation is the most important.
The seventh measure is to change the child's attitude first.
The eighth trick is to occasionally talk to your child with pleading evidence.
The ninth trick is not to scold children when they are frustrated.
Tenth, it is also effective to give children proper remuneration.
The eleventh trick is to make children closer to nature.
Twelfth, success is not as difficult as you think.
The thirteenth trick is to cultivate children's initiative and self-motivation.
Fourteenth move, turn anger into motivation for learning.
Fourth, how to let children learn to manage emotions
Adolescent children are often dissatisfied with their parents, because the self-requirements accompanying their growth conflict with their parents' regulations. Parents must try their best to overcome this transitional difficulty and let their children grow up smoothly.
The first trick is to guide children to vent their dissatisfaction.
The second measure is to give children the right to choose multiple-choice items.
The third measure is to listen carefully to the child's dissatisfaction.
The fourth trick is to turn the role of the customer into a child.
Fifth, don't let busy work be your excuse.
The sixth measure is to deal with children's unreasonable demands in a democratic way.
The seventh measure is persuasion and education.
The eighth trick is to deal with wayward attitude with actual advantages and disadvantages.
The ninth trick is to guide the children's herd mentality.
The tenth trick is to give children a space to vent.
Five, how to make children love learning?
Under the cramming education model, learning itself is a patterned process, not even like it or not. Whether children are interested in learning or not, they should sit at the desk and read the textbooks over and over again, which is also the reason why children feel tired.
The first trick is to tell more inspirational stories to children.
The second trick is to motivate children with recent learning goals.
The third measure is also very important, distracting children.
The fourth measure is to get rid of the habit of children having a fever for three minutes.
The fifth measure is to stimulate appetite to promote learning.
The sixth trick is to teach children to learn to preserve their strength.
Seventh, moderate exercise can make children's brains more flexible.
The eighth trick is to stimulate children's learning.
The ninth trick is to promote learning efficiency with crisis awareness.
The tenth trick is to keep the learning content fresh.
The eleventh trick is to adjust the reading atmosphere with different themes.
The twelfth trick is to deliberately change the children's learning environment.
Sixth, how to eliminate children's learning tension?
As parents, we must be sensible, try our best to give our children proper guidance and comfort, let them get rid of the anxiety of being swayed by considerations of gain and loss, and often use optimistic and humorous tone to ease their hidden fears, so that children can have high confidence and courage to face the following challenges.
The first trick is to accompany the child and make him feel safe.
The second trick is to dilute the child's failure with an optimistic and humorous tone.
The third measure is to say that a month is thirty days.
The fourth measure is to pay more attention to the importance of children's psychological construction.
Fifth, breathing can regulate children's emotions.
The sixth trick is to deliberately say the wrong thing in front of the children.
The seventh trick mascot to stabilize the mood
The eighth trick is to solve the problem and eliminate the tension.
Seven, how to make children concentrate?
Mothers should moderately adjust the progress of their lessons instead of sticking to the established plan, so as to get the performance of taking care of both. Some children even read books while enjoying other people's games, which will affect their interest in reading in the future.
The first technique is the roundabout suggestion technique.
The second measure is to make an irregular segmentation schedule.
The third trick is the magical use of the alarm clock.
The fourth trick is to establish a flexible homework schedule.
The fifth measure is to get rid of the lax consciousness of "doing it at any time"
The sixth measure is to assign children to do housework purposefully and moderately.
The seventh trick is to let children guess questions and improve their attention in exams.
Eighth move, warm up.
The ninth trick is to use "quantity" to drive forward.
Eight, how to eliminate the confusion of children's learning?
For a mother, trivial things in her eyes are sometimes a heavy burden for her children, so she should always put herself in the child's shoes and help her children solve problems in life as a bystander.
The first trick is to guide children to make the most correct choice.
Inductive inquiry method in the second choice
The third trick is to ask questions skillfully on the premise of a choice.
The fourth trick is that the milk of black cows is also white.
The fifth measure is to clear the fog of panic when something happens.
Sixth, when you cross the bridge, will it succeed?
The seventh trick is to experience it yourself.
Eighth, fate is hidden in our minds.
Nine, how to make children turn negative into positive?
Life can be without many things, but it can't be without hope. Where there is hope, life is endless! For children, we should always encourage them and don't let them have negative emotions.
The first move is to find the internal causes of children's negativity.
The second measure is to let children publicly announce their goals.
The third measure, physical health, is the basis of establishing a positive attitude.
Fourth, good living habits are the magic weapon to keep a positive attitude.
The fifth measure is to let children develop the habit of reading aloud.
The sixth trick is to let children develop the good habit of getting to school early.
The seventh trick is to let children make more positive and optimistic friends.
The eighth trick is to let children develop the habit of writing big characters.
The ninth trick is to let children do some housework and get rid of depression.
The tenth trick encourages children to try new things.
The eleventh trick is to let children develop a sense of responsibility for housework.
Twelfth trick: Don't always ask yes and no questions.
The thirteenth measure is to cultivate children's positive attitude of asking questions.
Fourteenth trick: more praise and less criticism can make children more motivated.
Article 10 How to Cultivate Children's Self-confidence
The value of life depends on ourselves! Tell children that people, as independent individuals, are unique and never forget this. Let the child know the value of his existence, enhance his confidence and work harder to create his own personality and future.
The first trick is to tell the child that he is priceless.
The second trick is to let children do something easy to do.
The third measure is to weaken children's mistakes and highlight their achievements.
The fourth measure is to pay attention to the efforts made by children.
Fifth, praise the child first, and then blame him.
The sixth measure is to strengthen the advantages and let the children make continuous progress.
The seventh trick is to build children's self-confidence with high goals.
The eighth trick is to build mutual trust with children by "primitive dependence"
Ninth, parents should not blame each other in front of their children.
The tenth trick is not to blame the child in front of a third party.
The eleventh trick is to convince children that the god of luck will come at any time.
The twelfth trick is to let children recall past achievements and rebuild their confidence.
Chapter 11 How to Eliminate Children's Sense of Inferiority
Eliminating inferiority and cultivating self-confidence are actually two sides of a whole and must complement each other. However, the skills of cultivating self-confidence mentioned in the previous chapter are not specifically aimed at children with poor ability, that is to say, children with defects or poor grades often cannot play their role. This chapter is different from the previous one and can be widely applied to children with poor ability.
The first step is from "defect consciousness" to total negation.
The second measure is to use affirmative sentences frequently.
Third, mothers should also have skills in talking to their children.
The fourth measure, for specific reasons, relieves the child's heart.
The fifth measure is to eradicate children's psychological barriers with words.
The sixth trick is to let children read biographies of great men in the world.
The seventh measure is to let children objectively face their peers with excellent grades.
The eighth measure is to cultivate children's special talents.
The ninth trick is to weaken the child's inferiority complex by luck.
Chapter 12 How to Turn Children's Disadvantages into Advantages
Because the mother always reminds the corrected shortcomings, the child will know it himself, but the child with high self-demand will often worry about his own shortcomings, so the mother's direct scolding will often be counterproductive and make him less confident.
The first trick is to let children face up to their shortcomings in an appropriate way.
The second trick is to accuse other children of their mistakes in front of them.
The third measure is to distinguish between shortcomings and personality.
The fourth measure is to change the child's position and let him be self-disciplined.
Fifth, the shortcomings and advantages of children are interchangeable.
The sixth measure indirectly eliminates children's dissatisfaction.
The seventh measure is to use the implied effect of moderate punishment or threat.
The eighth trick is to hint at the child's shortcomings through soliloquy.
Ninth, don't use authority to suppress children's resistance.
The tenth trick encourages children to "do what they can"
Eleventh move, kid, you can do it.
Educate children 2010 Tuesday, June 22nd 03: 10 If children have such problems, the responsibility lies with their parents. There is a phenomenon that children study for their parents, so they lack initiative in doing homework. Without the supervision of parents, children relaxed their demands on themselves. The reason is that children have not tasted the joy of learning and feel that learning is a painful experience.
Parents have shrunk their love for their children. Everyone wants their children to get ahead and be better than others' children. As a result, they impose adult consciousness on children and deprive them of their rights. They should take care of them all day, not treat them equally. Parents bear the responsibility that should be borne by the children themselves, and the children are learning for their parents and lack initiative. Therefore, the responsibility should be returned to the children.
First of all, we should do a good job in parent-child communication, and then improve it through other aspects, such as cultivating various hobbies, enhancing our sense of independence and self-control through personal experience, or changing the familiar environment.
Kung fu is outside the poem, don't treat the headache and the foot pain. Children's emotions and psychology can be adjusted through other activities, which is very helpful for learning poetry.
Many parents have a headache for their children's disobedience. In fact, this is the result of parents' "product development". Children always struggle, fail, struggle again and finally win; Parents struggled, struggled, struggled again and finally failed. Because parents love their children too much, but they can't love them too much!
Educate children and correct their bad habits, "knife mouth, tofu heart", but not "tofu mouth, tofu heart", especially when children eat. How many parents go to great pains for their children at the dinner table, and almost 36 plans are the best policy, but there is nothing they can do! In fact, eating is eating, and children cannot be willful. Parents should be "tofu mouth, knife heart": in the face of children's unreasonable troubles, follow a principle, that is, the attitude should be calm, the principle should be adhered to, and the high-voltage line should not be touched. A calm attitude is to educate children while maintaining their reason, and not to lose control of their emotions and let the knife hurt their self-esteem. When you are rational, your parents can keep their mouths shut and know what to say and what not to say. If parents are naive enough to want to beat them up, they'd better walk away for a few minutes to calm themselves down. Under the premise of "tofu mouth", we must adhere to the principle until the child realizes that there is no hope and it is a forbidden area. This is called "knife heart".
Some things are actually very simple. Let children know what they can and can't do from an early age. Just stick to the principle, let the child know that it is impossible to cross the line, and tell her that everything you do is for her own good. Of course, parents think that there should not be too many rules and regulations, which is not conducive to the development of children's personality. In fact, education does not exclude punishment. For the place that should be punished, it is a responsibility to the child when it is time to shoot. The key is to grasp the scale of tofu mouth and knife heart.
Education needs wisdom. In the same way, in what way, the result may be very different. More and more parents realize that "fist education" is too simple, ineffective because of simplicity, and even counterproductive; "saliva education" is too vague, because it is vague and powerless, and it is becoming more and more ineffective. In fact, educating children focuses on guidance!
First of all, parents should adjust their mentality and return to teaching their children to talk and walk. Children live in a huge world, and their hearts are very fragile. In the specific operation, give priority to with positive incentives, tell children how to do it, and point out the development direction for children; As a supplement, appropriate reminders can not only give children face, but also give them a certain psychological experience.
One of the principles: trust children-learn to worship and learn to be proud.
Trust: Give children a trusting eye, gestures, language and the power of trust. When children's performance is not satisfactory, they need the support of their parents, so that children will be full of strength when they see their parents.
Learn to be proud: Just like a child is born, every parent is proud of his "life"-his child. Pride Even if people all over the world look down on your child, you will admire him with tears, hug him, praise him and be proud of him.
Learn to worship-because our children are the best children in the world. Every life is unique and incomparable. Just like the pine trees on Huangshan Mountain, they have their own strengths and are different from each other. Or return to the state of teaching children to learn to talk and walk, and see a bright future instead of children's shortcomings. Children grow up in this environment full of appreciation, and finally unconsciously learn to speak and walk.
Principle 2: Respect children-learn to listen and ask questions.
Respect: If you only trust your child without respect, the condescending trust is pale and powerless, and the child will not recognize it. Respect children, don't think that children don't know anything, impose their own consciousness on him, make decisions for him, pay no attention to his psychological needs, treat him as his private property, and abuse him at will.
Learn to listen: Listening is one of the signs of respect. Pay attention to the child's speech, pay attention to his emotions and help him solve problems in his study and life. By listening, you get to know your child, and he also exercises his expressive, analytical and communication skills, and also cultivates his open-minded and frank personality.
Learn to ask for advice: asking for advice from children is to study what children think and what is the most acceptable method. Education is an interactive process. Just as farmers need to know what is the best nutrient when planting crops, the education method that children like is the best.
Principle 3: Understand children-learn to appreciate and learn to accompany.
Reason: it is empathy, thinking about what the child thinks and worrying about the child's urgency. If you think from the child's point of view, the problem is not a problem.
Learn to be grateful: when children are young, parents don't complain even if they shit and pee on adults. When children grow up, parents are not grateful for their children's life, nor love them, but love their scores and their own face, and their hearts are full of loss.
Learn to accompany: talk calmly with children. It's not how much you use, but how much you use. Only companionship can communicate, understand and guide children. Children can also increase their knowledge and learn communication skills. A good communicator will certainly become a successful person.
These three principles are sunshine, air and water for every child's spiritual life. These three principles embody the word "love", which is wrong for people.
Principle 4: Encourage children-learn to explore and learn to share.
Motivation: On the premise of respect, tell the child what to do and point out the development direction of the child. Don't just forbid children to do anything, but still don't know what they should do.
Learn to explore: parents should have a pair of eyes that are good at capturing the bright spots on their children, constantly appreciate the bright spots and encourage them repeatedly, giving them the feeling of being discovered, recognized and valued. What kind of person do you want your children to be? Find the bright spot in this respect, even make a mountain out of a molehill and exaggerate infinitely.
Learn to share: * * Enjoy the joy of children's success, and constantly let children see success, and children will persist in their efforts. I used to say that if you don't work hard, you won't succeed; Now it should be: I will work hard when I see success! We should keep pace with the times.
Principle 5: tolerate children-learn to reflect and learn to wait.
Tolerance: not equal to laissez-faire. It is necessary to create a relaxed and harmonious environment to meet the spiritual needs of children. Instead of unconditionally meeting material needs; Tolerance is to accept first and then sublimate.
Learn to reflect: there are no bad crops, only people who can't grow crops. When you have a problem, you won't ask the child what's wrong. It's about ourselves. What's the matter?
Learn to wait: As the saying goes, Rome was not built in a day. Haste makes waste, and Rome was not built in a day. The rule for children to correct their shortcomings is: repeat in progress and advance in repetition.
Principle 6: Remind children-learn to criticize and learn to share.
Reminder: when the child makes a mistake, appropriate reminders are used as a supplement to give the child a certain psychological experience. You can also criticize directly. But be equal with friends, so that children can accept it easily.
Learn to criticize: not hurting children's self-esteem is the premise. Such as: story criticism; Humorous criticism
Learn to share: When a child encounters difficulties and setbacks, we should share sadness, and then encourage him to stand up from failure and share his strength.
These three principles embody the word "guidance", not for people, but for things. Teach parents how to foster strengths and avoid weaknesses for their children.
Children are a mirror of their parents, and how much their parents' attitudes change, how much their children change. Children may be repeated in the process of change, but parents will gradually form good behavior habits as long as they insist on doing it.