In the theory of sexual psychological development stage, there are two psychological phenomena-fixation and degeneration. When you are over-satisfied or seriously lacking at a certain stage, it will lead to a person's psychological fixation at this stage.
Regression means that when a person is frustrated in the advanced stage of development, he will push it to the lower stage in order to seek the satisfaction of the lower stage.
Anal period
Then there is the period of anal desire, which, as the name implies, is related to defecation. Teacher Wu once went for a walk with his brother who had a dream. He often dreams that he is standing on a stool, which is disgusting.
Teacher Wu listened to his dream and said that shit is money. My brother suddenly realized, yes, I forgot. As mentioned above, free association is very important in free association, and the stuck place is also very important.
If you suddenly can't remember, the psychoanalyst will ask you: Is there anything you don't want to think about? Is there any experience you don't want to touch?
For example, for a senior, he is very professional, but this important dream has never been carefully interpreted by himself. When he really wanted to interpret, he didn't think about what he had learned. Because he didn't want to touch it, his inner experience of defecation was not smooth. I can't recognize the true face of Lushan Mountain because I am there.
The second time, my brother had a dream about money, saying that he was not only standing on a stool, but also blindfolded, which made him feel sick and woke up immediately. Although he knows the basic principles of psychoanalysis, he can't do this analysis well, so he needs Mr. Wu's help.
So I asked: Is there any other feeling before the disgusting feeling? He thought for a moment and said, the disgusting things on his hands are actually dry, soft and warm. I feel good and like them very much. Say that finish, he couldn't help laughing.
Teacher Wu also joked: Congratulations, brother, you have dry goods in your hand. This dream may be a little disgusting, but I can't help it. I must continue. You might say that dreams are different from reality, right?
But Mr. Wu believes that dreams will reflect real psychology. If you want to believe Mr. Wu's analysis, why does our attitude towards money come from our attitude towards shit?
This is going to talk about the anal period. In the oral period before the age of one, the baby is actually exploiting and absorbing, and can't create things by himself. The milk is good, but his mother's breasts are produced, and there is nothing he can do.
At this time, the baby's stool has not yet formed. Freud said that during the anal desire period of 1-3 years old, the pleasure center shifted from the oral cavity to the anal position. At this time, children will find that it has its own creation and can control it by itself.
Teacher Wu believes that the creation that a person can control by himself is also his first creation, which is very important for children.
Attitude towards creation
Since this is my first creation, this is also the origin of all my creative attitudes towards myself. When I was a child, I had an attitude towards my own shit, and when I grew up, I also had an attitude towards my own creation for him. Of course, this is teacher Wu's analysis and summary. If you think it is not desirable, you can take it as a different opinion. Tell me about it.
For example, some adults will take a look before flushing the toilet. For example, Mr. Wu and his girlfriend have cats. As a "shovel officer", Mr. Wu will clean up in time but has serious resentment. His girlfriend will study it with strong curiosity, and sometimes it will be fun.
Adults see shit as dirty, smelly and unsanitary, but children are indifferent and will naturally fall in love with their first creation. For example, many mothers feedback that children not only don't think their stools are dirty, but find them interesting and even cute.
For example, a child says, mom, this must be delicious. Do you want a bite? I want to eat. Another consultant said that his daughter would invite her parents to eat her booger.
Of course, shit is really smelly and unsanitary. Children need to learn to control their own shit, but don't be too strict when training children how to control shit, otherwise it will give them a feeling that his creation is dirty and disgusting. And when children learn to control their own urine and urine, they are also practicing their self-control ability. Parents should not spoil this process too much.
There are two different attitudes: let children be self-disciplined, or let parents and other caregivers rule others.
To sum up, the reason why you don't make a lot of money may be because you have a problem with shit, because it may affect your attitude towards your other creations.
For many people, this article destroyed the three views and showed the charm of psychoanalysis. Freud's contribution to psychoanalysis is immeasurable, but many people later developed or refuted his theory, so we must add our own ideas when absorbing it.
Secondly, this article is a personal opinion, which I believe can be applied, and it doesn't matter if I don't believe it.
Summary:
1. Anal desire period is the second stage of sexual psychological development, and the pleasure center shifts from the mouth to the anus during the oral desire period.
2. Shit is everyone's first creation. How we treat this creation will seriously affect and even determine how we treat our other creations in the future.
3. Apart from creation, defecation is the first thing that people can completely control themselves. Learning to control will give children a great sense of control.
4. How children treat their own stools is naturally decided by their parents' caregivers. At this time, I suggest that you don't train your children too strictly, but let them form self-discipline.
Dialogue technical tips
Expectation for feelings, attitude towards the latter. "Before you feel this way, do you have any other feelings?"
This is a kind of conversation skill of psychological counseling. In order to find out our hidden feelings, especially the first feeling when the stimulus happens, it is to find out more feelings forward.
"What do you think of this feeling?"
Although we are talking about feelings here, it is more like looking for our attitude towards our first feelings.
Thinking:
There is an old saying that money is treated like dirt. I don't know if our ancestors had the foresight to treat money as dirt and dirt as money. Bullshit has something to do with money. It's really ruined.
I am the kind of person mentioned in the article who will take a look after defecation. But in fact, since I wrote an article, I seldom look back at what I have written before, unless what I want to write is related to the previous content, which may be too much. After all, it is more than 654.38+00,000 words (pride).
I feel that writing an article is like defecation. Before writing, I knew that my article had not been written yet. I always remember that when writing, I sometimes have a feeling of defecation. I feel that this kind of article is not very effective.
Want that kind of relaxed and freehand feeling, be inspired, make an outline, brush and write it out, and think this is the ideal state. Maybe it's because I don't like my work.
Because sometimes other people's disgust is usually a projection of their own disgust. Maybe a part of you is annoying, but you can't make yourself realize it, or you don't want to admit it, so you will be particularly sensitive to the same part of others, have particularly good taste, and seem to hate others.
Looking forward is emotion, looking back is attitude. My understanding is, what was it like at the beginning? What's your attitude towards this feeling? More importantly, you should pay attention to your own feelings and your own creation.
Thank you for your appreciation. This view comes from Wu Zhihong's psychology course. Do you have any other opinions? Welcome to leave a message and discuss with me.