Capturing automatic thinking means starting from the most easily captured thinking, trying to dig a deep well in experience and subconscious, and then doing work in physical and emotional processes, thus bringing about profound changes.
In consultation and practice, you need to capture automatic thinking, follow it freely, and see what you will think from this idea, what you will think, and what you will think until you touch a profound experience.
In the process of returning to that time, in a safe and supportive situation, I constantly experienced the terrible physical and emotional processes at that time, so that the stagnant and injured physical and emotional processes could fully flow.
As a result, the inner experience has changed, and the thinking in the mind as a projection has also changed.
It is not enough to work only at the level of thinking or belief. We must start with thinking and belief, experience deeply, and the change at the experience level is the real change.
The last article is from the theoretical level. Here is a supplementary case, which was personally experienced by Teacher Wu Zhihong. So it is referred to in the first person below.
Once in my psychology class, when I was doing a dream interpretation exercise for the students, a student, Zheng Xiao, volunteered to be a "white mouse".
He is a little afraid of heights, especially on roller coasters. Before going to bed the night before, he repeatedly said to his subconscious, "I want to know why I am afraid of riding a roller coaster." Please dream to guide me. "
That night, he really had a dream. The content of the dream is very simple. He saw a man fall from a height and fell to the ground and died.
In the process of falling, the man's face has been facing him, as if he had something to say to him, but he didn't say it. Looking at the man's face, he felt very scared, and he suddenly woke up.
In my class, please ask Zheng Xiao to sit in the middle of the class, close his eyes and relax, and then recall and experience his dream. He closed his eyes for a while, and I asked him, Did you feel the feeling in your dream?
He said he realized something. I said: Good, this feeling reminds you of something for the first time. Don't bother, just say what comes to mind for the first time.
He suddenly got excited and said, I got it. I know the meaning of this dream. Then he told a sad story.
About 15 years ago, Zheng Gang Jr. worked in a construction site. One day at noon, he went to the canteen to cook. The canteen is on the fifth floor of a building under repair. After dinner, everyone gathered in the corridor on the fifth floor to eat.
While eating, suddenly a worker who was one meter away from Zheng Xiao fell down. Zheng Xiao saw this scene for the first time. The workmates faced him and opened their mouths as if they had something to say.
This is a traumatic event, and the common way to deal with traumatic events is to let the parties remember it completely. So I asked the details of the Zheng Xiao incident in great detail.
For example, what he saw, heard and smelled at that time, whether there was any obvious feeling in his body, what he thought at that time and what happened later.
At first, Zheng Xiao could only remember the scene where the man fell, but slowly, he recalled one detail after another. He remembered and went back to the dormitory on the fifth floor. A worker also asked him: That man is your subordinate, why did you come back? You should deal with this matter.
I asked Zheng Xiao Yi to tell the story from the beginning again and again. After speaking for three times, it was basically clear, but Zheng Xiao still didn't seem to feel relieved. I feel like something is stuck, too. It is no help for Zheng Xiao to keep asking about the death of a worker who fell from a building.
Since I don't know what to do, I might as well ask Zheng what to do, so I asked Zheng what you want to say most now. Zheng said, I remembered another nightmare more terrible than this.
In the dream, he slept in a room about 5 square meters with a workmate. Suddenly, a mouse climbed in, climbed to his chest and disappeared. He jumped out of bed in extreme panic.
The workmates are awake. He asked his workmates, did you see where the mouse went? The workmate said he didn't see it. Obviously, the key link of this dream is that the mouse climbed to Zheng Xiao's chest and then disappeared.
So I asked Zheng Xiao to close his eyes and relax, and then recalled this dream, and realized in detail the feeling when the mouse climbed to his chest and disappeared.
Soon Zheng entered the state, and I also felt the feeling of current, which was a little creepy. I think I felt his feelings. Afterwards, many students in the class said that they felt it at that time.
I asked Zheng Xiao, is that feeling coming again? Zheng Xiao nodded desperately. I then asked, what did this feeling remind you of for the first time? Zheng Xiao said, my mother.
This answer made me dizzy for a moment. I thought this feeling had something to do with the death of a workmate. I didn't expect Zheng Xiao to think of his mother.
However, this is a common situation in psychological counseling and treatment. Whenever this happens, the counselor will give up his judgment at the first time and pay attention to the information sent by the case.
So I asked Zheng Xiao, please be specific. What do you think of your mother? At first, he said, I don't know, I just feel that my mother is standing in front of me, and I am under great pressure.
I said it doesn't matter. At this time, you may want to run away and stay away from your mother, but try not to run away, try to face your mother and see what her mother is saying to you.
He tried for a while and said, "I heard my mother say to me again and again,' Why are you so disappointing?' "I asked him to open his eyes and choose one of our students who looks like her mother.
He chose a very strong female student, and I asked the student to imagine that he was Zheng Xiao's mother. Then he said to Zheng Yi over and over again: Why are you so disappointing?
Zheng Xiao made the right choice. Female students came up, one hand rested on her hips, one hand pointed at Zheng Xiao, and said this sentence loudly.
After hearing this voice, Zheng Xiao burst into tears, collapsed from his chair and muttered, "Don't do this, don't say that."
I asked Zheng Xiao what it felt like when the mouse got into his chest and disappeared. Is that the feeling? Zheng nodded and said, yes, it is this feeling.
I asked the female student to go down and go back to her seat and her role. Next, I once again asked Zheng Xiao to recall the details of a worker who fell from a building and died.
When I recalled the details of the worker's fall, I told him to look at the worker's face carefully. After he did this for some time, I continued to ask: Who is he?
At this moment, he said with a little epiphany, "Oh, I know who he is. He is my boss now. "
Hearing him say that, I began to feel dizzy again. Didn't this man fall to his death? Is he his boss now? However, I still asked him, is it really your current boss? You mean he didn't fall to death?
He paused for a moment, then said, "No, no, my boss now is not that worker. That worker must have died. I just want to see my boss's face now. Let me see the face of the fallen worker. I saw the face of my current boss. Why? "
I explained that it was a good association. Keep looking at this face. What does this remind you of for the first time?
He said that he thought of the boss's recent transfer and was promoted by the head office. When Xiao Zheng was in the party, he predicted that the boss's ability and position did not match, and he would definitely fall. Sure enough, a few months later, the boss returned to his original position and continued to be Zheng Xiao's immediate superior.
I reminded Zheng Xiao that I noticed that you used the word "fall" when talking about your boss. Zheng Xiao didn't understand at first, and asked: What would happen if the word "fall" was used? Then it dawned on him and he said, I see.
This is the real thorough understanding. The whole association process seems complicated, but after combing and summarizing, Zheng Xiao found that the "fall" of workers had such a great influence on him.
The reason why he is so afraid of the feeling of "falling down" when riding a roller coaster and so sensitive to the boss's "falling down" is because he is afraid that he will really become a "disappointing" boy accused by his mother.
In particular, the incident of a worker falling from a building is like telling him that "failing to live up to expectations" and "falling" will kill him, so it is a great stimulus to him.
I think when my mother said to him, "Why are you so disappointing?" She is really sending him a strong death energy, which makes him feel that it is better to die than to disappoint.
I think the story of Zheng Xiao is very classic, and it sounds very confusing. But when we use the keyword "falling" to connect all the previous contents together, we will find that Zheng Xiao's story can completely explain why we are afraid of something.
In fact, what we are afraid of is not the thing itself, but the feeling it brings us. And the reason why we are afraid of one thing, which brings us feelings, is often because it is very similar to something before, which reminds us of some previous feelings.
Therefore, it seems to be a very painful experience for Zheng Xiao to witness a worker fall to death. Therefore, it is considered that induced events directly lead to emotional reactions, and A leads to C, but this ignores the existence of belief B.
Zheng Xiao's story also shows that it is not enough to describe the inner process as faith. In fact, this is a complete physical process, emotional process and thinking process. Faith is only a part of information, and the experience process is actually more fundamental than it.
On the same day, I did a supplementary exercise for Zheng Xiao to stand in the chair where I was sitting and talk to all of us from above. At first, he was not used to it, and he was a little dizzy.
But we applauded him, and at the same time I calmed him down and felt the feeling of being on top. Finally, he felt very comfortable and liked it very much.
Two months after the end of the course, Zheng Xiao sent me an email saying that he had been promoted and his inner fear had been cured.
Although this story does not specifically use the technology of "capturing automatic thinking", it is actually used in many places. Teacher Wu has encountered many similar cases and gradually formed such a view:
Maybe we can start from any seemingly inconspicuous place and dig a deep well leading to the soul from the depths of the subconscious. That's what it feels like to listen to thunder in a quiet place.
1. What we are afraid of is not the thing itself, but the feeling it makes us feel. The reason why I am afraid of the feeling brought by one thing is often because it is very similar to something before, which reminds me of a certain feeling before.
Therefore, the induced event leads to the current emotional response through a complete physical process, emotional process and thinking process.
Maybe we can start from any seemingly inconspicuous place, dig a deep well leading to the soul from the depths of the subconscious, and listen to thunder in a quiet place.
I met a family member recently and thought she was ill because she had studied psychology. Of course, it may be that I am looking for a nail with a hammer in my hand.
Why do you feel this way? Because in the process of chatting, we transmitted a powerful death energy to me, which logically blocked the possibility of life. Sadly, this is reality, life.
Depression may be a sober and objective understanding of reality, while people without depression habitually overestimate themselves. I feel that she is constantly attacking herself, but these attacks on herself have not disappeared, and they have become the energy she passed on to the outside world.
I should be glad that I studied psychology. Although the effect may not be good, I am trying my best to seize the tentacles of these energies transmitted by her and want to turn them into living energy and return them to her.
I feel that she is still alive, because there is a place blocking her body and she can't get through. As Chinese medicine says, general principles do not hurt, but pain does not work.
Most importantly, I want to thank my positive self. After these months of study, I found that my understanding of people and human nature has opened a new world, which is amazing.
In countless media and literary works, mother is the embodiment of selfless dedication to love, but after studying psychology, "mother" walked into my heart and left the altar.
She is just a broken person. After having a child, she unconsciously abused the child mentally. Many pains and even sins in life began with her mother's dereliction of duty.
Adler once said: If we investigate many failures in life, we will almost find that they are due to the mother's failure to properly fulfill her responsibilities and not give her children a good start. If mothers fail, if they are dissatisfied with their work in the family and have no interest in their children, then all mankind will be in danger.
I may become a mother in the future. Now use these words to alert myself. Zeng Qifeng, a famous psychologist, once said: All memories will seek expression, even if they are deliberately buried and excessively depressed.
Thank you for your appreciation. This view comes from Wu Zhihong's psychology course. Do you have any other views on the content of this article? Welcome to leave a message and discuss with me.