In terms of value, it is what a person looks like in his bones.
Because, what you said is the spokesman of your soul.
A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word is cold in June.
The value of words here is not to flatter others,
This can only be hypocritical self-deception.
It's all an excuse to vent your anger
Frankly speaking, this is not enough wisdom.
There are two ways to attack people,
One is to attack the body, and the other is to destroy the mind of language.
It can hurt people's flesh and blood and is a tangible weapon.
The pain of flesh and blood will be over in a while.
Psychological attack, attacking weapons with viruses,
Invisibly hurting people, attacking people's key points and hearts.
Branded in my heart, it lasts forever.
The perpetrators are either relatives or enemies, mostly the former.
In a bad mood:
Lighter, small to inferiority, self-blame, irritability, arrogance,
Diffuse pessimism and indifference, painful remorse.
The worst, small give up, resentment attack, self-repression. Give up treatment and life.
Emotional instability, irritability, indifference and unresponsiveness.
Social function impact:
The ability to study and work has declined. Not active in study and work, not actively fighting for it. No achievements, mistakes, delays, missed opportunities, indecision.
The so-called peace of mind, although the appearance is calm, the heart has already been choppy.
In interpersonal communication, people tend to be nervous, prone to interpersonal conflicts, dislike people, avoid real conflicts and problems, be indifferent, aggressive or flattering.
This kind of revenge is not a gentleman, this kind of revenge is too hurtful.
People who hurt others will also hurt themselves, and self-injury is also hurting others.
The internal sword must pass through itself before it can shoot at the other side.
Then the criminal should not only bear the guilt of conscience,
And feel guilty about it.
So, the revenge in my heart is still not reported?
Report, must report.
Anyone who knows psychology knows such a rule.
How a person is treated,
How to treat others.
Once in attack mode,
It has been completely mastered and internalized, and has its own self-improvement function.
Here, I will analyze The Avengers's attack mode from a psychological point of view, just sharing it, and I hope it will inspire me after reading this article. If you dare not judge a person as a teacher, please don't sit in the right place, let alone analyze your family, if you pass psychological analysis. Can give you some inspiration, let you better understand yourself and your family, I will be delighted to admire.
The psychological analysis of The Avengers is as follows:
There are four points to share with you:
First, make a new face and kill people with this knife.
Hold high the banner of justice, kindness and integrity,
Standing at the highest point of morality,
Through various theories or famous scholars,
As a powerful killing weapon,
To attack each other (the closer the distance, the stronger the attack, because attacking outsiders will lead to death, at least not so safe),
All this stems from being so "taught" by the "head of the family" when I was a child and learning a childlike skill.
Second, it's a joke to hide the knife in the smile. It's a slip of the tongue, but it's a hidden murder.
Hide the identity of the real murderer (the highest level of hiding is to forget that you are hiding,),
As a civilian, stab a knife in the back with jokes.
Or a slip of the tongue to resist inner hostility.
Attack with the realm of "no self",
Only by deceiving yourself can we attack without hostility.
Avoid confrontation, defend against counterattacks and protect yourself.
Even if the victim cries because of pain, the injury is purely accidental.
Because I really don't want to hurt you,
You are wrong about me, wronged me, too sensitive.
Victims have nowhere to complain,
Those who do harm have no guilt or remorse.
A case of intentional injury turned into an accident,
Even the thrower doesn't know.
Psychologist Freud once said, "There is no such thing as a joke, all jokes have serious elements."
Third, silence, indifference and isolation.
Of course, not all silence is an attack, sometimes silence is to better protect each other, because words will hurt people once spoken, so silence is the best.
Cold isolation is a silent attack,
It is a kind of disdain and contempt in my heart.
The opposite of love is not hate, but indifference, which has nothing to do with you.
The second and third measures above are all from the "vulnerable groups" in the acquisition family.
Fourth, attack each other by self-attack, self-destruction and self-abandonment, so that they feel guilty.
Everyone's problem is a matter of relationship.
Buddha has three senses: self-knowledge, knowing people and knowing perfection.
Mr. Liang Shuming pointed out that life needs to deal with three kinds of relationships:
The relationship between man and himself,
The relationship between people,
The relationship between man and nature.
We want to ask
How can you understand others if you don't understand yourself?
If you don't know your heart,
What do you use to communicate with each other?
Even if it is a matter exchange,
You should also know how much you weigh.
If you don't know yourself,
Even if someone understands you, you will mistakenly think that he doesn't understand you.
If you don't know yourself,
It is easy to be drowned in other people's values and judgments.
If you don't know yourself,
How to love yourself better?
If you don't understand each other,
How can we love each other?
If you raise a potted flower, it may wither if you don't understand it.
If you keep a small animal, if you don't know it, if you give it your favorite chocolate, you will get sick and die.
If your children, parents, lovers, friends,
You don't even understand them,
Treat it in the way you are used to,
What will happen?
In the end, people hurt themselves.
How can we know ourselves?
If you are willing to invest time and money,
You can find a counselor to explore life with you.
Psychological counseling not only solves psychological problems,
More is to promote a person's spiritual growth.
In principle, you can also take psychology courses.
Psychoanalysis, painting psychoanalysis, dream interpretation course, etc.
Share several methods of self-awareness in daily life:
Psychological point of view: cognition? Emotion? Behavior? habit
Behind every habitual behavior is emotion (there are 10 thousand reasons for doing or not doing something, and almost all of them choose to do it comfortably).
Behind emotions are cognitive concepts rooted in the heart.
The seeds of cognition come from the moment we are born,
I keep planting seeds in my life,
Especially in the unconscious state,
It is the best hypnosis when you are exposed and imperceptibly exposed.
We don't even know what system we're using,
But we did gradually become a habit.
Know yourself, starting with the awareness of daily habits:
1, the habit of oral expression,
2, the habit of dealing with problems
3. The habit of high spirits
4, the habit of thinking mode
5, unintentional songs, slips of the tongue, mistakes
Behind every action is your unknown self.
The value of word is a mirror of itself,
Reflected in the appearance of my soul.
Others are their own mirrors,
Seeing others is seeing yourself.
Only what is outside and what is inside can be seen.
There is nothing outside, but there is something in your heart, and you can see it (this is called projection in psychology, and you can also say that you are a villain's heart and a gentleman's belly).
There is it outside, but not in your heart. You will turn a blind eye, listen but not hear.
Blind = dead+eyes =?
Some people used to be illiterate, but now some people are blind.
Illiteracy will affect a person's achievements in life,
Blindness can make your soul feel like hell.
There is such a famous saying to encourage everyone.
Psychologist jung once said:
If the first half of your life belongs to someone else,
Live in other people's minds.
And give the rest of your life back to yourself,
Follow your inner voice.
I look forward to sharing with you how to deal with emotions in the next article.
If life is a pilgrimage,
May all practitioners,
Look at yourself, look at the world, look at all beings.
Observe the value of words with words, and may the value of words cross the face.