There seems to be a misunderstanding about psychology. Every time I tell my friends that I study psychology, there is such a dialogue:
"Do you study psychology?"
"hmm."
"I'm curious, want to ask ..."
"I don't know what you're thinking. Hypnosis is real, but I can't, I can't interpret dreams. My classmates and I are normal, but science is not enough. Freud was not a pervert. Please go to the professional consultation center of a university or hospital for diagnosis. I'm not a consultant after graduation. Whether you can find a boyfriend/girlfriend has nothing to do with what you study ... what do you want to ask? "
"No. ..
When I was in high school, I decided to study psychology, because I thought psychology was a mysterious and noble subject. At that time, I had a high school friend who was depressed. Later, she dropped out of school for a semester. When she came to school again, she said that she had gone to do psychological counseling. Suddenly, she feels that psychology is a very useful subject, which can make a person who looks seriously ill look brand-new.
I finally got my wish and studied psychology at the university. After four years of systematic study, my views on psychology have changed greatly.
I studied basic psychology in college, and basically understood the framework of psychology, including knowledge, emotion and meaning, that is, cognition (language, perception, feeling ……), emotion and will. Studied experimental psychology and statistical analysis, and verified psychological phenomena with scientific data. I also studied abnormal psychology and some basic medical courses, and learned about the structure and relationship between psychology and brain. There are also many social psychology, which clearly explain the phenomena of social psychology, such as the first reaction effect, which is very useful for our daily social interaction.
The more you study, the more you find that it is quite different from your imagined psychology.
I sincerely admire every teacher and have high attainments in psychology. Psychology is not how tall it is, but a pure science. When studying abnormal psychology, our whole class felt sick, either depression or various psychological diseases. I will apply some knowledge of psychology to myself, and I will be more empathetic. The psychological knowledge that I just started to learn is interpreted by a concept.
For example, the teacher observed that she was in the wrong posture in class today. She used to be full of energy. Today, when she came in, she had a hunchback and put her hands on her chest. She is usually such an elegant teacher. We were all whispering below, and the teacher put his arms around his chest, which showed that he was very defensive. Something should happen today. As a result, the teacher heard our discussion, "Don't talk nonsense, I just changed my underwear today, and I am a little tired and not used to it." We were all laughed at, so we began to study psychology. We can't help but analyze the actions and expressions of people around us.
Perhaps this is a period of time that beginners of psychology will experience.
Violence analysis is not desirable, but you can try to play with friends. At that time, I studied measurement psychology and spent three classes doing Minnesota Scale. I began to understand my personality traits and learn to make my own scale, although the reliability and validity are relatively low.
In my opinion, the biggest advantage is that empathy has become better.
I think I can think from someone else's point of view. Friends around me say that I am a very considerate and trustworthy person. I can understand many things, even if I don't agree with my ideas, I can still think from the perspective of others. Don't feel wrong or look down on others.
The biggest feeling is that all changes can only be realized with down-to-earth efforts. Any utopian theory, no matter how perfectly explained, will deeply shock you. If you wake up the next day and still choose to go your own way, then everything will be in vain. And those who have determination, perseverance and self-control can find their own way without knowing any theory, analysis and introspection.
I was once addicted to learning psychological theory, especially psychoanalysis, and analyzed my subconscious with various lame psychological motivation analysis methods. Now, it seems that this kind of effort is basically equivalent to people who learn Feng Shui gossip to get up early every day to observe the weather, throw a few copper coins to calculate divination, and then check their previous interpretation of divination one day to see if their level has improved. Both of them are actually a kind of self-entertainment, which has no practical help to life and growth.
However, after a long time, I began to look at real life and people who have never been exposed to psychology. Did they miss anything? Do they have any shortcomings and unhappiness than me? Not exactly. So I know that psychology is not a science that makes people happy or grow up, but a method to explain the psychological behavior of individuals and groups. Of course, the world can be explained by economics, biology and psychology, but this is just a pair of sunglasses with different colors. The world has not changed its true colors because of them, but only the mind of the viewer.
From then on, I am no longer obsessed with using psychology to explain myself and the world around me, but simply live in the current feelings and events. As a stop in my heart, psychology has completed its phased mission, which may or may not be met again in the future life. But I am sure that when I am bored in the future, I will still pick up this colorful sunglasses and take a look at the world around me to make a biased explanation for entertaining myself.
I have studied psychology myself for half a year, mostly by reading books. Learned to listen to others, understand others and have a harmonious family relationship. Most of them are good to people and learn psychological knowledge. I am more confident and optimistic. There are more different views on one thing. There is a saying that the world is the same, but the eyes that look at the world are different.
I am thinking about me, thinking about me, thinking about me, so I am, separating myself into two individuals, doing more empathy, and rationally analyzing and judging questions from the perspective of onlookers to get the best answer.
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After studying psychology, the biggest feeling for me is that all problems are my own problems.
For example, I want to be friends with you, so I give you my heart and even the spicy strips, half and half. However, in the end, you left me alone. At this time, I will definitely be angry and depressed. Why am I so kind to you, but you wave your hand and make me sad?
After studying psychology, I understand that everything has two sides. The positive side of this example is that I want to be friends with you. I am good to you, so you are good to me, so we are good to you and good to everyone. But, here's another but. On the contrary, I want to be friends with you, which is good for you. However, you ignored me and even turned away. At this time, you can't blame others, but reflect on yourself. Why do we have such feelings when the other party leaves? How should we understand and accept them?
There are many such examples, and we often have such expectations, always trying to change some others' views and opinions to cater to ourselves. If we can't do it, we will feel depressed and even angry, but why should others cater to ourselves?
Why do we always want to change others? In fact, it is basically impossible to change others. What you can do is to change yourself, so as to influence others to change through your own changes. Of course, it is unknown whether this change is good or bad, but only if you change yourself first will others change.
The process of learning psychology is a process of continuous learning and improvement.
Blessing ~
In fact, I studied psychological counseling, but I also studied many basic subjects when I was a graduate student, such as general psychology, developmental psychology and psychological statistics experiments.
My biggest feeling is that my mind is Wang Yang. People who study management psychology may be different from those who study basic research, and those who study basic research may not understand the field of psychological counseling.
So it's like walking through a mountain. If you are on the other side of the mountain, don't guess what it is like here.
For example, two days ago, I had an argument with a classmate. He studied basic research, and he just said to me, "I think you are paranoid personality disorder." My thought at that time was, "I have studied abnormal psychology three times, and I can recite the diagnostic criteria of paranoid personality disorder." Can you recite one for me? " Moreover, apart from professional clinicians, general counselors need six months to one year's consultation to get a more professional diagnosis for such problems as personality disorder. But if you learn to consult, your basic research ability is very weak. For example, I am weaker than him in some professional statistical problems such as intermediary variables and adjustment variables, and I may not see some professional research problems.
So many people think that learning psychology can guess other people's thoughts, but it is not necessarily true. In the psychology part of the partial field, what everyone is doing is actually similar to that of the people in the department of mathematics and the department of physics in our school. So, if other children are interested in psychology, you should find out which part of psychology you are interested in. In fact, even in the research part, there are many interesting parts. Some students are not interested in psychological counseling at all, but they are interested in "Are introverts more willing to make friends?"
It's probably sauce purple.
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First of all, answer the question in the title description: "Is it really good to study psychology?"
I think no matter which subject you study, whether it is good or not varies from person to person. Therefore, there will naturally be different voices, such as "definitely good" and "very helpful"; No, it's useless. Nothing special.
Did you find out? What you learn depends on whether you want to learn or not, and whether you can internalize it into your own things after learning, rather than just understanding the fur of this subject.
So, what is the biggest feeling after studying psychology? On this issue, we collected many people's thoughts: (Click to enlarge the picture)
I believe that many people who have studied psychology will hear such a stalk, and even it really happens to them:
People who study psychology say they don't want to talk about it … because they can't see through what others are thinking and can't predict what will happen in the future.
But it is undeniable that if you really study psychology with your heart, you will actually gain a lot. More scientific psychology can help you better understand yourself, others, the environment, and look at problems from multiple angles, so as to solve problems better.
A friend who studies psychology said that in fact, people who study psychology are nothing but purely looking at problems. Isn't this one of the highlights of life? Of course, not everyone who has studied psychology can do this.
I can't say how much I know about psychology, because psychology is a very profound and long-term knowledge.
The biggest role of psychology is to help yourself and many people.
I just gave birth to a child, suffered from postpartum depression, and was exposed to psychology when I was unemployed. After studying positive psychology, I was able to walk out of my own world slowly and look at my bad state in a scientific way, which rekindled my hope. When I realized that my psychology became a normal and ordinary psychology because I studied psychology, I was able to face all this calmly and have the confidence to change my life.
While I am engaged in psychological research, I have helped many people, not only my friends who are influenced by my active lifestyle, but also my various visitors, middle-aged people who are full of anxiety about life, girls who are hurt by love, college students who just graduated and don't know what to do, and parents who don't know how to give their children a good family environment.
I think the greatest significance of psychology is to give people a spiritual direction and dependence, so that everyone is no longer afraid and lonely.
The biggest feeling is that half of my present situation is related to my childhood experience, and the other half is deeply influenced by that half.
Freud said that adult personality has been formed within five years after birth, and subsequent development and maturity are carried out on this basis.
After studying psychology for so many years, I have come into contact with many personality theories, which is nothing more than discussing how heredity and environment affect the formation of personality. Freud regarded "sex" as the motive force of personality development, and believed that the degree of development of "sex" determined the degree of personality development. For example, he divided personality development into five stages according to the energy development and organ changes of "sex". The organs of "oral and labial period" and "sex" are in the oral cavity and labial area, which are satisfied by sucking breast milk, fingers and so on. "Anal period" and "sex" are satisfied in the anus, and they are satisfied by defecation and defecation control. Wait a minute.
If these stages develop smoothly, personality development will be relatively harmonious and complete, and if it is found to be lacking or excessive, it will affect personality development.
For example, in the "oral period", due to various reasons, there will be defects in the oral part of personality development, such as alcoholism and smoking; There is no virtue in the mouth; There is no door in the mouth and so on.
Here Freud put forward an unsmooth concept about personality development: fixation.
The former means that if one of the five stages does not develop smoothly, he will retreat to that personality stage and adopt the behavior at that time to face the current problems when he encounters the same problems as when he was a child in his later life.
In a word, Freud's thought is one of the thoughts that I feel most deeply and can understand most. Of course, there are behaviorism, Jung's thought, Adler's thought, Piaget's thought on children's development and so on. , have brought me many different influences, which will be mentioned later.
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Let go of yourself and others.