Perhaps everyone knows that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a headache, but few people know that the relationship between the son-in-law who comes to visit and the daughter-in-law's family is actually also a headache. Why do fewer people know about it? Because men are born to save face, even if they have suffered great grievances, they will not easily reveal it to outsiders unless the other party is his best friend.
I have a best friend who acts as a son-in-law. When they were talking about getting married, the male best friend's wife used the reason that her parents were too old and demanded that after marriage, the male best friend must go back to her parents' home with her to take care of her elderly parents. In order to satisfy his wife, the male best friend directly agreed to the matter without discussing it with anyone in the family. After the marriage, he followed his wife back to his parents' home and stayed there to develop.
But just yesterday, my male best friend suddenly sent me a WeChat message telling me that he really shouldn’t be this door-to-door son-in-law. . He said that since he went to his wife's house, he treated his father-in-law and mother-in-law as filial to him as his biological parents. His father-in-law and mother-in-law were also good to him, doing laundry and cooking for him, and the family was harmonious. However, the good times did not last long, and conflicts gradually emerged.
The male best friend loves his wife so much that he turns over all his salary every month, leaving only some pocket money for himself. Once, in order to please her mother-in-law, her male best friend took the initiative to give her two hundred yuan. On the surface, her mother-in-law looked very happy, but secretly she complained to her daughter that her best friend was hiding private money. As a result, The couple had a big fight. From then on, the male best friend became wary of her mother-in-law and did not dare to give her money casually.
The male best friend also said that his wife is the eldest daughter in the family, and he also has a younger daughter. They were divorced a few years ago. They have no job and no income, and they don’t care about anything. Therefore, the two old people’s basic necessities, food, clothing, housing, and transportation are all covered by major illnesses. He and his wife are solely responsible for the pain. A year ago, my sister-in-law rented a house near her parents' home. This made my mother-in-law very happy. She would call her every time she ate. It didn't matter if she ate ten or eight times, but she would eat it for more than half a year. My best friend has an opinion.
One time when my sister-in-law came to eat, he deliberately embarrassed her with a dark face. From then on, my sister-in-law was embarrassed to come. The male best friend said that it was not that he had a small belly, but that his sister-in-law was too scoundrel. She just ignored her parents and came to the house to eat and drink. It was really outrageous.
Although the mother-in-law said nothing, she must be blaming him in her heart. Later, the mother-in-law stopped calling her daughter to eat, but she would leave a bowl of food hidden and secretly deliver it to her daughter when her boyfriend was not at home or not paying attention. My male best friend has discovered this kind of thing several times, and every time I wanted to tell it, but in the end I held it back. Poor parents in the world, maternal love has no right or wrong, so what can he care about with a mother?
However, something happened recently, which made my male girlfriend really unbearable. A few days ago, my mother-in-law went for a walk in the mountains with her friends. When she came back, she suddenly announced that she had chosen two cemeteries on the mountain. The feng shui was very good, and they had rich descendants. She had to buy them quickly to avoid being snatched away by others. .
At first, the male best friend felt that this incident was too unexpected. The two old men were only in their early sixties and were in good health. They were so anxious. Then they inquired about the price. The male best friend asked My son couldn't bear it anymore. The price of two cemeteries was 30,000 yuan, and each of them was quite a lot.
He and his wife are just ordinary wage earners. They have to support both the elderly and the children. They can’t save any money. Now they are asked to spend 30,000 yuan immediately to buy two pieces of land as big as a palm. , is really powerless, even if he has the ability, he is not willing to buy it, because his wife’s hometown is in the countryside, and the family has a large piece of land. It’s hard to choose a cemetery. Do you have to spend this unjust money?
When the male best friend told his mother-in-law his idea, the mother-in-law disagreed. She said that there was no Feng Shui treasure in her hometown. Otherwise, after so many ancestors were buried, why didn’t any of the descendants prosper? The male best friend thinks that the mother-in-law’s ideas are too conservative, and it can even be said that she is a bit superstitious. The feng shui of Qin Shihuang’s imperial mausoleum is good enough, but Qin Shihuang only died a few years ago, so why did the Qin Dynasty perish?
My male best friend said that if he had known that being a door-to-door son-in-law would be so frustrating, he would never have done anything.
After listening to him pour out his bitterness, I realized that not only the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was difficult to handle, but also the relationship between the son-in-law and the mother-in-law who came to the house. In short, both men and women have their own difficulties.
I advised my male best friend that if he had not married him as his son-in-law, but the woman had married him, he would not have to face his mother-in-law anymore, but his wife would have to face her mother-in-law and deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. It's okay of course, but if it's not handled well, family conflicts will arise. At that time, he will have to be caught between his mother and his wife. No matter which side he favors, he will offend the other. It's really Zhu Bajie looking in the mirror - —There are no human beings inside or outside.
Instead of doing this, it would be better to be someone's son-in-law. Besides, as a man, he can't even resolve family conflicts, so how can he work hard outside in the future? Finally, with my persuasion, my best friend finally thought about it. He decided not to vent his anger on his mother-in-law, but to deal with the matter in a gentle way.