Why can't I get married? Many people say that there will be a year of widowhood every two or three years. Widowed years have many names. As we all know, it is called "blind year" in the south and "sliding year" in the north. There are many taboos in the year of widowhood. Why can't I get married?
Why can't I get married? 1 me. Why not get married?
1. The year of widowhood is called the year without spring in many places, because there is no solar term in beginning of spring in this year's lunar calendar, because the calendar in China is a combination of yin and yang. A year is divided into 24 solar terms according to the sun, and each month is divided according to the moon. By adding a certain month, the gap between the lunar calendar and the solar calendar is alleviated, so this is called leap month. So we will find that, in many cases, there are 13 months in a year, so it is possible to divide the solar terms in beginning of spring into the year before or the year after, so there will be no beginning of spring in this year.
2. Actually, it doesn't matter if a widow can't get married, but the name makes people feel scared and unlucky. In addition, China's beginning of spring solar terms are very heavy. Spring represents hope, full of energy and very auspicious, just like the feelings of men and women. Without spring, there is no result. Marriage can further carry on the family line, so it is naturally auspicious. No one wants to get married in a year without spring. The above is the introduction of why you can't get married in the year of widowhood. I hope it will help everyone.
Second, how to get married in 2022?
1, we can solve it by superstitious methods. First of all, we must look at the characters of the newcomers, combine the gods we like to use, and solve them in a five-element way. It can also be combined with the feng shui of the husband and wife room to resolve it.
2. Another way is to get married according to the couple's horoscope, which will be directly resolved.
Of course, it can also be solved by scientific methods. Although people can get married when they are widowed, many people definitely want to take the initiative to avoid disasters, so they can choose to get married at the end of the year, which can be comforting and meet the requirements of the chosen wedding date.
Why can't I get married in a widow's year? As the name implies, in the tradition of the ancients, it was believed that a woman who got married this year would be widowed, so that her husband died and became a widow. And this concept has been used to this day. However, with the development of science, some people no longer believe this statement, but from the perspective of marriage feng shui, there are still some taboos in getting married in the widow's year.
Marriage taboo 1: avoid eating wedding cakes.
Wedding cake is a symbol of happiness. The custom of distributing wedding cake is intended to share the joy of the wedding and convey the news of the wedding to every relative and friend through the wedding cake. When giving a big gift, the bride should remember not to eat the wedding cake given by the man, because it symbolizes eating her joy and should be taboo.
Marriage taboo 2: avoid the second incense
Many traditional families will tell their ancestors or gods to burn incense before they marry their daughters. In addition to offering cakes, the woman should also pay attention to incense and try not to insert the incense head askew. If it is crooked, don't pull it out and insert it again, because Erxiang means remarriage, which is unlucky for the newlyweds.
Marriage taboo 3: The groom is not allowed to sleep alone on the wedding bed.
New quilts, new pillows, new bedding ... impeccably dressed wedding beds should be placed on the eve of the wedding night. In this process, it is forbidden for the groom-to-be to sleep alone in the new bed, because it means loneliness after marriage, which is very unlucky. If the groom really has no other place to rest, he can find a big zodiac and an underage boy to accompany him (sleep), such as the dragon in the zodiac.
Marriage taboo 4: avoid saying "goodbye"
When relatives and friends leave after marriage, neither the newlyweds nor their relatives and friends can say "goodbye" because the word "goodbye" means parting and parting, which is very bad for newlyweds. Therefore, when the couple sends the guests off, they should nod or wave goodbye.
Marriage taboo 5: avoid visiting.
The taboo that brides don't need to visit relatives and friends on their honeymoon has been handed down from ancient times. Because most people have a taboo psychology towards the bride during their honeymoon, and think it is unlucky for others, and this ominous feeling will not be eliminated until after January, so the bride can't stop by during the honeymoon. In particular, some relatives and friends with elderly people should pay special attention not to visit during the honeymoon period.
Marriage taboo 6: avoid sending pregnant women.
On the wedding day, when the bride goes out, pregnant women can't see her off, because in ancient times, people thought that seeing her off would bring lotus disaster to the couple, so pregnant women should avoid it when the bride gets married. Moreover, when the bride goes out, fireworks are often set off. There are many people, the scene is crowded and noisy, and the air is turbid. For the sake of pregnant women's health, they should not be allowed to join the farewell party.
Marriage taboo 7: avoid staying at home within three days after marriage.
In the traditional custom of China, the groom will accompany his wife back to her parents' home three days after marriage, which is called "going back to her parents' home". It should be noted that on the day of "returning home", you must return to your husband's house before sunset to avoid the husband and wife staying at home together, because it is generally believed that this will bring bad luck to your family. In case you can't go home for special reasons, the couple should sleep separately to try to resolve the sense of foreboding.
Why can't you get married for three years? What's unlucky about being married for three years?
The time of our Spring Festival is very close to that of beginning of spring, and "beginning of spring" is the beginning of the 24 solar terms, which leads to the existence of "Widowed Years". The reason why "Widowhood Year" is not suitable for marriage is because in ancient times, I believed in the theory of Yin and Yang, and thought that "spring is the beginning of Yang, and if there is no spring, there will be no Yang", and "Yin flourishes and Yang declines" is naturally unlucky, so it was called "Widowhood Year". However, this statement no longer exists.
What should I pay attention to in the year of widowhood?
Not suitable for marriage: As mentioned above, getting married in the year of widowhood will lead to the prosperity of yin and the decline of yang, which will have a great impact on the husband's fortune. When the husband's fortune goes wrong, it will naturally cause great harm to the whole family. So it is better not to get married this year.
Don't quarrel: for married people, a year of widowhood will also have a great impact on you. Because the yin flourishes and the yang declines in my widowed years, if both sides are unhappy in all aspects, we should try our best to restrain our emotions. Even if there are contradictions, you should not quarrel, otherwise it will easily affect the emotional foundation between you and may even lead to the breakdown of your marriage life.
The scientific view of widowed year
Let's listen to Peng Jinshan, director of the Chinese Folklore Society and deputy director of the Agricultural Folklore Research Committee of the Chinese Folklore Society. In ancient times, when some phenomena and events at that time could not be explained, many people took the word widowed year as a rhetorical device and spread it within a certain range, forming a psychological identity; Moreover, many people have herd mentality, which leads to the spread of this statement. "No spring" is just a normal calendar evolution, which has nothing to do with good or bad luck, and it is even less likely to affect the happiness of marriage. Choosing an auspicious day for marriage means that your horoscope is suitable for getting married on the same day, and the groom will pick up the bride at the right time.