Can Tomb-Sweeping Day take her boyfriend home?
Not so good.
It is understandable to go to a familiar family and just find friends to play, but if it is a formal visit, it is not appropriate. Why? Because Tomb-Sweeping Day is a day of sacrifice after all, first of all, you don't know if people are busy with activities, and second, it's unlucky. Even if you don't believe this, it doesn't mean others don't, so it's best not to touch others' bad luck.
According to the custom in the north, men can go home, because there are old people (dead people) who can pay homage, and women generally don't go back to their parents' homes. Women who go back to their parents' home are generally married, and Tomb-Sweeping Day will go back to their parents' home to pay homage to the elderly (parents) who have passed away. If your old man doesn't die after marriage, you won't go back to your mother's house. Some elderly people are concerned about this project. If the old man is not a theist or has no scruples. You can go home to see the old man at any time. They are all filial piety.
Ten Taboos in Tomb-Sweeping Day
1, people who have been there can go to their home if they are not so feudal! After all, you are their future bite!
It depends on your relationship. If you plan to be together for life, it's not a bad thing to go, then let his family admit that you are not good.
First of all, not all ethnic groups worship their ancestors on the same day in Tomb-Sweeping Day.
China is a multi-ethnic country, and each ethnic group has its own set of customs. Although Tomb-Sweeping Day's ancestor worship has long been branded in many people's minds, some ethnic minorities in China will also carry out similar activities in other ethnic festivals. For example, off-year, New Year's Eve, the 15th day of the first month, July 12th and July 15th are traditional sacrificial days for some ethnic groups.
Second, the traditional order is irreversible
There is a sequence of grave-sweeping sacrifices, and many older people will pay considerable attention to this. Generally, the cemetery or cemetery will be cleaned before the sacrifice. Since the sacrifice pays great attention to feng shui and etiquette, try not to make mistakes in order. The order is as follows: modify the cemetery-incense-meat-toast-worship-farewell.
Third, when is the best time to worship the mountain?
The best time to worship the mountain is Yin Shi, that is, 5-7 o'clock. However, because most cemeteries are far away from their places of residence, even in the cities where they live and work, it is usually not so early, but it is best to complete the grave sweeping and worship before 3 pm.
Fourth, pregnant women should avoid sweeping graves.
Generally speaking, pregnant women should avoid grave-sweeping activities in Tomb-Sweeping Day. In addition to emphasizing customs, it is not suitable for women and fetuses to travel long distances. I believe that if there are older elders at home, most pregnant women will be prevented from offering sacrifices to sweep Tomb-Sweeping Day.
V. Application of White Chrysanthemum in Mourning the Dead
In ancient China, chrysanthemum was regarded as a flower of sustenance, which meant missing and homesickness. White chrysanthemum is the most suitable, and it can also be matched with some green grass, such as lily, green leaves and carnations, which will be more beautiful. However, Huang Ju Flower, known as Longevity Chrysanthemum, is more suitable for visiting patients than paying homage to the dead.
You must fast before sweeping the grave.
When you start sweeping graves, you'd better not eat food or just eat vegetarian food. In addition, it also emphasizes dressing neatly to show courtesy and respect for ancestors.
Seven, don't laugh and curse when sweeping the grave.
Because the cemetery is the home of the deceased, so don't cross the grave and the offerings, don't make a noise, don't laugh and curse, and don't use foul language. This is not only disrespectful to one's ancestors, but also a nuisance to nearby spiritual bodies, and it is not allowed to trample on other graves or judge the design of graves, which will be regarded as blasphemy.
Eight, don't take pictures in the ancestral graves.
It is best not to take photos in the cemetery, whether it is the grave sweeper himself or the grave sweeper and the cemetery. When taking pictures, it is even more taboo to take other people's graves into the camera.
Nine, taboo to visit relatives and friends
Tomb-Sweeping Day had better not visit relatives and friends that day. Because Tomb-Sweeping Day is a special memorial time, it is really embarrassing or unlucky to visit relatives and friends at this time.
Ten, avoid wearing big red and purple.
Tomb-Sweeping Day should wear plain clothes instead of red and purple. In addition, don't wear red ornaments (except the animal year).
Tomb-Sweeping Day recommends interesting places.
Venue: Baiji Township
Bletilla striata is located in Xiuning County, Huangshan City. Most villages are scattered in Baiji Mountain, which is more than 800 meters above sea level. The main peak in the territory is Changlingjian, with an altitude of1208m. Because it is located in a secluded place, it is known as "Huinan Secret Land". The road to the baiji dolphin is located on a high mountain, surrounded by forests, canyons, terraces and waterfalls. There are euphemistic birds singing in the ear, and the air is filled with the smell of flowers and plants, which is refreshing. When the mountain road turned into the village, a large number of rape flowers suddenly appeared, stacked on the terraced fields, yellow-green, light yellow, goose yellow, bright yellow and golden yellow, with green branches and fluttering in the wind.
Features: white wall tile rape flower
Venue: Xidihong Village
Hongcun's rape blossoms are as famous as its black tiles and white walls. Hongcun is located in the northwest corner of Yixian County, 65km away from Tunxi and 1 1km away from Yixian County. Turn right when you get out of Hongcun Bridge. Go along this road. The cauliflower in the fields on both sides is endless. Down the ridge by the roadside, you will be completely exposed to light yellow and green. What a vibrant school in the early spring sunshine! The warmth of spring surrounds you, the smell of cauliflower attracts you, the busyness of bees inspires you, and a fluffy atmosphere surrounds you between heaven and earth. Your feet step on this black fertile soil, your heart stretches deeply, you breathe out comfortably and wake up.