How is a person's character formed?
From the moment the baby was born, he was constantly accepting and learning (active learning and passive learning) what the outside world taught him; From babies to children, young people to adults, family and living environment play a decisive role in his character.
The influence of a person's personality is mainly formed in two aspects: family background and acquired living environment.
Being born in a family has the most important and far-reaching influence on a person's personality; Basically, the way of family education and the emotional depth of parents determine what this person's personality looks like.
For example:
Parents' marital status is good, parents' feelings are good, parents' personality is good, and the three views are relatively positive; Then, children born in such a family are often confident, considerate and meticulous. Moreover, he is cheerful and sunny, and is not easily disturbed by external factors.
On the other hand, those children whose parents are divorced and have domestic violence grow up in the contradiction of their parents quarreling, and often feel inferior and introverted.
Another factor is that the way parents educate their children also plays a decisive role in a person's character during his growth.
Some parents play the role of "loving father and strict mother", while others play the role of "parents are very strict". People who are urged by their parents since childhood, insulted and belittled by their parents and rarely praised are often prone to "self-denial" when they grow up.
Not confident, self-abased, self-denying, afraid to take the initiative to fight for, afraid of being criticized for doing something wrong, everything seems timid.
On the other hand, parents who educate their children from an early age and like to use praise and reward are often better at expressing themselves and showing their strengths when they grow up; They are confident, positive, cheerful and optimistic.
So a person's personality really has a lot to do with his parents and the family environment.
Another major factor that affects a person's personality is the environment in which he grows, studies and lives.
If this person's living environment is always depressed and everyone around him is better than him, he has no advantage in this group of people; Where you think you are excellent, you are much worse than others; Then, living in such an environment for a long time, this person will gradually lose confidence in himself, become indecisive and lose confidence.
This person's working environment and emotional state will affect this person's personality.
What kind of personality you are and what kind of person you will become are doomed to some extent.
However, in the process of your growth, all your experiences and feelings will optimize and slightly change your personality.
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A person's character determines his fate.
In most people's minds: a person's wealth is equal to his work and career; Excellent career, high income and a lot of money show that this person is very prosperous.
And personality will have a great influence on this person's work and career; People who are easy to succeed in character, if they do their nature and career well, wealth will come.
I have seen a set of data research before: the relationship between male and female personality and income level (career success or not).
The academic name of this research is "MBTI", which was conducted by Briggs-Myers team in the United States. It is classified according to people's psychological and spiritual functions, and then expanded by psychologists, and finally expanded to 16 personality types.
In a set of data studies I have seen before, which personality of men and women has higher income and is more likely to succeed in their careers?
The two personalities of the highest-paid man: ESTJ and ENTJ.
The top two celebrities with the highest female income are: ENTJ and ESTJ.
Men and women just adjusted their order, but the personality types with higher income and easier career success are ESTJ and ENTJ.
Let's briefly analyze these two personality types.
ESTJ personality: more careful, more attention to detail, methodical.
This kind of person pays more attention to details in his career and work, considers every step carefully and rarely makes mistakes; Such people are often more rational and have a strong advantage in small links, key links, details and analysis of career.
ENTJ personality: I have a strong leadership, a strong overall situation, and my own unique views and vision on things planning.
People who can be leaders and start their own businesses are often ENTJ-type people, because they have strong leadership skills and have their own unique plans for future career development.
People with ESTJ personality are more like indispensable team leaders in this company. He is careful and methodical, paying attention to every step to prevent mistakes.
Let's talk about people's personality. People who are easy to succeed are often cheerful, optimistic, have leadership skills, and are careful and methodical.
On the other hand, if a person's personality is always timid, timid and has no courage in whatever he does, then such a person may only live in a stable job without a big breakthrough or unemployment.
But it is almost impossible to get rich.
People with successful careers and rising incomes must have a strong advantage in character.
So why would someone say such a thing; A person's personality determines whether he can succeed or not, and also determines his wealth.
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No matter what kind of personality you are, as long as you stick to your own industry, you will always succeed.
Let me tell you a real example around me.
There is a neighbor in my hometown, and now my occupation is "collecting waste products".
He has been working in the waste collection industry for 10 years; In the past, doing business, selling vegetables and opening stores all closed down; But the business of collecting waste products alone is getting bigger and bigger, and now it can earn hundreds of thousands a year.
It's not easy for a neighbor who has no education, no upbringing, only accounts and small business.
At first, I collected waste products, rode tricycles, then changed motorcycles, and then changed trucks. Now, there are many garbage sorting and recycling stations.
In fact, persistence means finding an industry that suits you, an industry that you are sure to do well, and an industry that you can persist in.
A person's talent has an impact on his success, but it depends more on his efforts and persistence the day after tomorrow.
Just like when Yao Ming and Yi Jianlian entered the NBA at the same time, many people said that Yi Jianlian was less talented than Yao Ming.
But both of them worked hard. After Yao Ming retired, Yi Jianlian supported himself, and all the slanders and disappointments in the past turned into praises.
A person's talent may not be high, but if you work harder, you can still achieve career success.
The so-called luck is half luck+half talent+more than half effort, and finally, success.