I am born in the 1970s and will be entering my fifth year of school in a few years.
I am the one who becomes more and more silent and lonely.
It sounds bleak, but it is actually our own choice, so we are very fulfilled.
The generation born in the 1970s is actually a very hard-working generation. We experienced poverty in childhood, squeezed across the single-plank bridge in youth, tried to start from scratch as adults, and enjoyed the harvest of every drop of sweat. We are not gnawing at our old age, and we are not broken. So our first half of life is full.
We have a car when we go out, we have money in our cards, our children are getting older, and our strength is not as strong as before.
Looking at the impetuousness of the colorful world around me and the many injustices, I don’t want to fight anymore. So those born in the 1970s are willing to choose silence and loneliness. I don’t want to say any more polite words, and I don’t want to accompany you with any extra drinks. After all, your body is yours, and if you have that energy, it’s better to spend more time with your family.
We, those born in the 1970s, are the creators of prosperity, and we are also a generation that knows how to stand on the sidelines. Just because we are silent doesn't mean we have no ideas, and just because we are lonely doesn't mean we are indifferent.
I was born in 1973. When I was a child, my family was relatively poor. I couldn’t afford the tuition for junior high school, and my mother was in poor health. I remember that I had no money to buy meat during the Chinese New Year, and my life was helpless. I started working hard at the age of 16 and went out to work. I couldn't make any money by working part-time, and I had no money to travel home. I ate a bowl of noodles in two days, found some water when I was thirsty, took the train home, collected scraps, sold bamboo baskets, and wandered around until 1995, when I worked as a pawn in Tianjin. As a security guard, not to mention working overtime to make a living and get married, I worked a second job. I became a squad leader at that time, so I had time to water flowers in the administration, push coal in the boiler room, earn money to get married, and live independently after leaving home. , never gnawed on old age, and started working hard again two years after getting married, but I felt like a failure. I neither obeyed my parents nor educated my children well, and my friends were far away from each other. Everyone said that I only knew how to make money, but I just wanted to It is said that I will always be me. I know that life cannot be separated from money. I don’t want to borrow money for anything. I don’t want to beg others. I am born in the 1970s and look down on everything. I will not fight with stupid people and will not fight if my three views are inconsistent.
I am 75 years old. I have no pursuits anymore. I have washed away my charisma. I no longer want to cater to others or talk too much. I can see myself and this society more clearly. I no longer want to associate with anything new. When it comes to friends and socializing, I prefer to stay at home and do what I want to do, even if I don’t do anything. Even when I go to the cinema to watch a movie, I am alone. I just want to raise my daughter and honor my parents. I never think about myself. Retirement, if you are old and have no disease and can't move, you can take care of yourself alone. If you have a disease that cannot be cured, you will not be cured. Just let nature take its course. I hope you can have a good death. If you die in a strange place, just go to the funeral. It turns into ashes and can be sprinkled freely. I have never regretted anything in my life, and I have no regrets about anything I have done. This feels good!
With so many people answering, I shouldn’t join in the fun anymore, but on this topic, I think I can say a few words about my own personal views. I am also considered a post-70s generation. My family is a family with many children. How many sisters are there who were born in the 1970s? I am a rural person. In those days, every family had many brothers and sisters. The parents worked hard in the fields, and the brothers and sisters kept each other company and led each other as they grew up.
At that time, most families had similar economic conditions and many people. So children from several families can have fun together. Extremely happy. There weren't many restrictions at that time, so I could run around everywhere.
At most, when I got home, I would give him a beating and then I would be over. I would also help my parents work in the fields. The thinking of rural people is also very simple and there is not much intrigue. Therefore, children’s happiness in the world is easily satisfied.
With the progress of society, everyone has grown up slowly. This generation is already married, has children, and some can already be grandparents. Economic conditions and material conditions have been greatly improved, and there is no longer a shortage of clothes and money. With the changes in society, people's thinking has also changed. Children who used to be innocent and innocent have now become middle-aged people who bear the burden of society and family.
Happy people are the same, but difficult people are different. People's values, outlook on life, and various interactions with people have all undergone different changes. In a word. It's all about money.
Gradually, people become estranged. Whether it is between friends, relatives, or brothers and sisters, comparisons have begun to appear, and differences between rich and poor have emerged. See people through colored glasses. Therefore, the human relationship between people has faded. Except for necessary human relationships, most people are reluctant to deal with others.
Some can be said to be incomprehensible, while others are condescending and look down on others. And some people have low self-esteem when compared with people of the same age because their living conditions are not so good. I also became indifferent to people. Slowly, everyone became silent, without the previous enthusiasm, happiness and joy.
When everyone meets, they just say hello, say hello once or twice, and then leave because they are busy.
So the door of the heart is relatively closed, no longer open, becoming more and more silent and lonely.
Why do some people born after 70 become more and more silent and lonely? When I first read this question, I was suddenly stunned. I am also born after 70 years old. Am I lonely? At the beginning, I didn’t admit that I was lonely. I had my circle of friends, and several families met regularly, traveled together, ate and chatted together. Am I lonely? This question kept turning over and over in my mind, making my heart uneasy!
Yes, I am really lonely. It has been more than ten years since I returned to work in the local area. Looking back on every detail of these ten years, I found that I have really become silent and lonely. At work, I no longer strive to be the first. I feel tired as never before. When I am tired, my heart is also tired. I always hope to work for thirty years quickly and retire early. Sometimes, I always think in my heart, what if I have my own company, my own business, and I won’t hesitate to resign! Yes, the pressure of work, the pressure of the future, and the complexity of interpersonal relationships are all stressful, and I can almost breathe. I don’t know when I started laughing. Once, because of the child's study, the child cried and asked me: "Dad, how many years have you not laughed? When you come home, you are either watching TV alone, or you are alone with a tense face, as if someone owes you dozens of dollars." Like a pound of pork, have you cared about me and my mother?" At that moment, I froze there and didn't say a word for a long time. Yes, I have really changed, to the point where I don’t even know I have changed! However, I am really tired. Does anyone understand my inner struggle and confusion? I gave up my future, returned to my place, and started over. I struggled, was confused, was angry, and tried hard, but everything was contrary to what I imagined. I was unyielding and unwilling, but things still went against my wishes. Finally, I became silent and no longer wanted to communicate...
In the blink of an eye, it has been more than ten years since I returned to my place. Sometimes I have to lament that we who were born in the 1970s are no longer young. Age has also begun to become a bit embarrassing. People are now 50 years old. Standing in front of the door of 50 years old, they are no longer young and vigorous, no longer energetic, no longer ignorant and reckless, have tasted the ups and downs, and experienced life. of vicissitudes of life. I can't help but lament the ruthlessness of the years, lamenting that our youth is no longer, lamenting the impermanence of life, enjoying today's life, but not knowing what life will be like tomorrow.
Perhaps, in the eyes of others, we born after 70 have a happy life, with cars, houses, and stable jobs, but only we know the hardships. In our forties, we have to support our families and take care of our parents, wives and children. The pressure of life often makes us breathless. When we reach the age when we start to grow old, we cannot grow old peacefully.
Those born in the 1970s have the burden of a family and the responsibility to society on their shoulders. They work hard day and night and dare not rest. People who are running for five years. The ancients said that you know your destiny at fifty, but now how can you do things without seeking results? The burden is so heavy, and if something goes wrong, there will be no one to carry it for you. People in their forties are said to be old. People, people say you are still young and in the prime of life, you should do more career, say you are middle-aged, others say you are old, don't compete with young people, the hurdles of this age are really embarrassing, It’s too early to talk about death, and it’s too old to talk about struggle. We are in a dilemma, as if nothing is appropriate.
Those of us born in the 1970s have seen the warmth and coldness of human relationships, learned about silence, and enjoyed loneliness. At the same time, we also understand the importance of true love. I hope that at this age of helplessness, at this age of hard work, at this age of reaching five, I hope that each of us can stay true to our original aspirations and move forward!
In 1976, I was already in my fourth year. Looking back, I unknowingly started preparing to enter my fifth year.
Time doesn't bother anyone, the happy mood when I recall my childhood is in contrast to my current mood!
In my childhood, the cowherd boys were in groups, playing in the river, loud noises, singing, the noise of playing cards, chasing each other, and so on! Although life was a little worse at that time, it was so worry-free and so happy. But now I will never get this feeling! In today's society, although life has progressed, material life has increased, and families are richer than before! But there is an inexplicable pressure that makes people breathless! Because the bitterness of the 1970s and 1980s can never be erased from people's minds, sometimes they become speechless and unhappy! We are halfway through the journey of life. I wish those of us born in the 1970s to successfully complete the final journey of life!
I was born in 1979. I think everyone will be lonely when they reach middle age. Friends are busy with their own work or family. Whether it is love life or children and parents, these emotions have all passed to be honest. The running-in period is a very dull emotion. If parents don’t ask for good health, the biggest hope is to have good health. Everything that needs to be said has been said. The husband and wife have also passed the passion period early. They only have to do things like children all day long, which takes a long time. It’s so embarrassing. I don’t see my friends more than once a year. As for my colleagues at work, it’s just a matter of face. So many of the interactions are relatively unremarkable. I’m past the fun-loving age when I was young. I’m doomed. Loneliness l
I am 71. I left my hometown seventeen years ago to live in a big city because of poor performance in my hometown. My life seems to be separated. Now my children are in college and will soon graduate and work. I am approaching my fiftieth year when I know my destiny, and my life has been finalized and formed into an inertia. I feel that I can see the end of the days at a glance, and I have lost my passion. My mother passed away twenty-six years ago, and my father also passed away this year. My health has begun to decline. Now I just hope that my body will be healthy. Nothing else matters. I will just stand by and watch with cold eyes. I will no longer participate too much.
The post-70s generation is at a turning point in life and has not yet reached old age. As I age, I am about to retire, my body seems to be getting better but is changing, and my understanding of life is getting deeper and deeper. Loneliness is also my choice. I am enjoying it, but I am really lonely.
I am a woman born in 1971. When I was young, I was very independent. I always rushed to do everything and never complained about being tired. Gradually, I formed a habit in the eyes of others, including my family. In your eyes, I can and should do it. No one can understand your tiredness, comfort and understanding, let alone love. At my current age, my body is more mature and my physical strength is greatly reduced. However, I still have the impression that no matter what I do, I should do it as I should. But the results belong to men. Men who are not bullshit spend all their time talking about themselves. They are self-righteous and have never been self-aware. I always feel great in front of others. I have to make a living with my wife at home. I have never been able to say even a word of comfort. I don’t like to say it. Gradually, I don’t like to say it anymore. Now I basically don’t have any dialogue. This kind of life is really Enough. Sometimes I think that at this age, I really should live a good life for myself, but for the sake of my children, I still work hard to support this home without any warmth. Hey, I really don’t know how long I can hold on. Thinking about my life now, it’s really unbearable to look back.
On the evening of January 6, 1971, I came into this world. I wonder if I will meet a friend who was born in the same year, same month and same day today!
When I saw this topic, I really had mixed feelings! Before I knew it, I was over fifty!
People often say, "You stand tall at thirty, you are not confused at forty, and you know your destiny at fifty"! Among us born in the 1970s, some of us have succeeded in becoming rich, having everything we want, and being content with our ambitions; some of us have failed and lived a life of vicissitudes of life, sleepless nights, and fear! Everyone may have had their youth and frivolity, their ups and downs, ups and downs! Experienced too much!
Someone once said something like this: "If you succeed, all your farts are justified. If you fail, no matter how reasonable you are, they are just farts!" Successful people naturally have nothing to fear, while losers are not persuasive. Naturally, I don’t want to say anything more! Some people will definitely ask, "Don't you know your destiny at 50?" Why can't we give some advice to young people? As someone who has experienced it all, I understand a lot. The sun rises in the east and sets in the west, the wind, rain, thunder and lightning, the singing of birds and the fragrance of flowers, the change of seasons, the cycle of life and death, all follow the unbreakable rules of heaven! Everyone should experience the same thing.
Therefore, the Buddha said, "Don't say it, don't say it!"
Things are changing, and the waves behind the Yangtze River push the waves ahead. Please understand us born in the 70s! Be kind to us born in the 70s! It’s not that we have nothing to say, it’s that we really don’t want to say anything!