After the death of a relative, everyone has a day of birth, illness and death. Living at home is a very critical issue. Choosing a house on that floor will make people live more comfortable. Let's take a look at the related taboos after the death of a loved one for your reference.
Taboos after the death of a loved one 1 1. Taboos for burial of the deceased
1, satin fabrics are prohibited in the clothing of the deceased.
Old people are used to calling the clothes they wear after death "shroud". After the age of 60, some old people began to prepare shroud.
The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces is generally odd, such as five, seven and nine, but not even; Silk is often used in materials, because "silk" and "thickness" are homophonic, indicating that there are many future generations, but satin is taboo, because "satin" and "broken" are homophonic.
2, the coffin taboo with willow.
Willows are forbidden in coffins. According to legend, it is because the willow tree does not bear fruit and is worried that it will never be seen again.
Second, the date of the funeral is forbidden to be chosen on the day of heavy mourning.
CHONGSANG means heavy, repeated and doubled, which means more than one funeral. Refers to the situation that someone in his family or relatives died one after another within nearly 100 days or as far as one year after his death.
Custom pays attention to, the day of funeral must avoid the day of heavy mourning, so as to avoid the death of relatives at home again.
Third, during the period of filial piety, it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends, especially to attend happy events.
Within 0/00 days of the death of immediate family members, it is best to be filial at home. Don't travel, visit relatives and friends, etc. unless necessary. So as not to bring your sadness to others.
Especially weddings, business opening, celebrating the birth of babies and other happy events, it is best not to attend.
Fourth, during the period of filial piety, children should avoid wearing red and green.
During the mourning period, ancient children paid attention to wearing filial piety and white mourning clothes within 100 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to show filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green heavy makeup.
In modern society, although many friends wear the word "filial piety" instead of mourning for such a long time because of their work and life; However, you still can't wear red with green.
Five, during the period of filial piety, children should not participate in recreational activities.
In ancient times, when parents died, children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed.
In ancient times, people who paid attention to "ruling the world with filial piety" and served as officials, no matter how old they were, had to take time off to go back to their ancestral homes to observe filial piety after their parents died, which was called "Ding You". If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired.
If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached.
In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will have fun.
Taboos related to the death of relatives II. Taboo of funeral ceremony
In the funeral home, white cloth and white paper should be hung on the gate to let people know that someone in the family has passed away, send a message to relatives in other places or overseas, and send a funeral report to cousins and relatives, and children will hear the news. Among them, it is especially prudent to report the funeral to the relatives in marriage.
After the parents died and the date of the funeral was fixed, the dutiful son was going to visit relatives. During the funeral, be careful that the dutiful son does not enter the house, kneel outside and salute first, and report the news of his parents' death and the time of the funeral to his relatives.
Second, the date of funeral and the choice of cemetery.
For a long time, the ancients believed that the soul would not go far after death, so they paid special attention to the choice of funeral date to avoid a series of misfortunes.
The choice of cemetery has been very particular since ancient times. It is generally believed that the quality of a cemetery is directly related to the wealth and good fortune of future generations. In the old society, there were ten folk songs about the taboo of choosing tombs: first, don't bury rough and stubborn stones; second, don't bury isolated hills; third, don't bury the desperate situation at the source of ravines; fourth, don't bury the prisoners around the temple; sixth, don't sit small; eighth, don't bury hills; and tenth, don't bury dragons and tigers. Therefore, professionals should be invited to choose the date of the funeral and the cemetery with good feng shui.
Third, taboos after burial
After the dead are buried, mourners should walk around the tomb for three weeks, and don't look back on the way home, lest the ghost of the dead follow the living home.
Fourth, it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends during mourning.
Children should not visit relatives and friends, get together, pay New Year greetings, and especially don't go to patients' homes during the mourning period, so as not to bring misfortune to others. As the saying goes, "Dress filial, don't go next door."
Five, during the mourning period, children should not wear colorful clothes.
After parents die, children should be filial to their parents. In ancient times, they usually had to be filial for three years. Modern time is shortened, but it should not be less than one year. During the mourning period, children are forbidden to wear colorful clothes, make up heavily and drink and have fun.
Related taboos after the death of a loved one 3. First, I don't want to die with my relatives.
In the old society, people attached great importance to carrying on the family line, thinking that when the old man died, there must be descendants present, so that when the old man left, he was sent away and was not alone. Old people don't have to worry all the time in the underworld, and their souls can get peace.
If the old man dies in front of all his relatives, it is the greatest blessing. According to legend, Bai people think that the old man died in the arms of his children and grandchildren, which is what they thanked for raising him, commonly known as "receiving gas".
Second, taboo to let the dead streaking.
Many places in the north emphasize that the deceased should be dressed neatly before his death, and the deceased should not be allowed to run naked.
Therefore, in the old society, when the old people reached a certain age, their children and grandchildren often prepared shroud for them in leap month, so that the old people could look at it with confidence.
The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces should be odd, such as five pieces, seven pieces and nine pieces, and avoid even numbers for fear of disaster coming again; In terms of material, satin is forbidden, because "satin" is homophonic with "broken", and silk is used more, because "silk" is homophonic with "thick", which means blessing future generations; Shrouds can't be made of fur yet, for fear of becoming beasts in the afterlife.
Third, the taboo of burial.
1. Don't cry on the body when you leave. When buried, relatives should temporarily hold back their sadness and control their tears so as not to spill them on their bodies.
2. Cats and dogs are forbidden to approach the corpse before and after the funeral, which is considered to cause the deceased to suddenly stand upright or become a zombie.
3, the coffin is taboo to use willow. The coffin is made of pine and cypress, which is forbidden in Vitamin. Because pine and cypress symbolize longevity, willow trees will not bear seeds and may never see them again.