What is the best Feng Shui for a home?
Yes, everyone wants to have a home with good Feng Shui, but what is the happiest thing for a family?
The family is together, talking, laughing, and having fun.
In a family, it is really important to understand, respect and tolerate each other.
People often say long live understanding.
Understanding between people in a family is very necessary.
What does the existence of home mean?
It means running around every day, no matter how many grievances you encounter, you can always heal everything as long as you go home.
Yes, only by understanding each other can family members resolve their unhappiness.
If you don’t understand my difficulties, and I don’t understand yours,
the two of us will be in a dead end.
At this time, we might as well calm down and consider the problem from the other party's perspective. I believe there will be unexpected gains. This reminds me of a story.
During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying served as a bachelor of Wenhua Palace and the Minister of Rites. The official residence in his hometown of Tongcheng is adjacent to the Wu family. There is an alley between the two courtyards for both parties to enter and exit.
Later, the Wu family wanted to build a new house and wanted to occupy this road, but the Zhang family did not agree. The two parties could not settle the dispute and took the lawsuit to the local county government.
Considering that both families were from prominent families, the county magistrate did not dare to end the matter easily. At this time, the Zhang family wrote an urgent letter to Zhang Ying in anger, asking him to come forward to solve the problem.
After Zhang Ying read the letter, he thought that he should be humble to his neighbors. He wrote four sentences in his reply to his family: "A letter from a thousand miles is only for a wall, so why not give it three feet? The Great Wall is now Still here, I don’t see Qin Shihuang back then.”
After reading it, the family understood the meaning and took the initiative to give up three feet of space. Upon seeing this, the Wu family was deeply moved and took the initiative to give up the Sanchifang base, hence the name "Liuchi Lane".
It was Zhang Ying who understood the meaning of humility. Her family understood Zhang Ying’s approach and made a move of giving up three feet, which influenced the neighbors. They gave in to me, and I also gave in to others. The result was perfect.
If you just argue blindly, it will only hurt both sides, and there will be no benefit at all.
When people reach middle age, they gradually understand the true meaning of happiness, become more and more tolerant of human relationships, learn to forgive without losing their temper, and gradually understand what is most important.
Someone said:
This is understanding.
A sentence that I agree with very much:
Respect is mutual, not one-sided.
The harmony of a family cannot be separated from respect.
There is such a story.
The Queen of England had a quarrel with her husband, and her husband closed the door angrily and sat alone in the room. The Queen said: "Please open the door, I am the Queen", but the door did not open. The queen said again: "Please open the door, I am Elizabeth." The door still did not open; the queen thought for a while and said: "Please open the door, I am your wife." The door opened.
Respect in relationships is mutual, and no one is more noble than anyone else.
Queen is called by her courtiers, but when she returns home, she is a wife. In the end, she understands that she has to play the role of a wife at home, no longer the aloof Her Majesty the Queen.
In life, we are the same. We cannot boss each other around and ignore him (her) just because your salary is higher than mine or your family is better than mine.
Everyone is equal in terms of personality. It actually tells people to learn to respect each other.
Sometimes, we also ignore the children's feelings, thinking that the children are young and don't understand anything. Let's take a look at what Mr. Lu Xun did?
In terms of educating children, Mr. Lu Xun believed that in order to educate children well, we must first respect and understand them. "If you don't understand first and just do it blindly, it will hinder the development of your children."
< p>Once upon a time, my husband was having a banquet at home, and his son Haiying was at the table. When eating the fish balls, the guests all commented that they were fresh and delicious. Wei Haiying said: "Mom, the fish balls are sour!"The mother, who thought the child was talking nonsense, scolded the child, and the eldest child was unhappy.
After Lu Xun heard this, he tasted the fish ball that Haiying had bitten. As expected, it was not very fresh, so he said with emotion: "The child said it was not fresh, but we didn't check it. It’s wrong to obliterate. It seems that we have to respect what children say!”
There is a saying: Children’s words are unbridled. If a child speaks without scruples, we distinguish between children who speak the truth and I have to respect their right to speak. Otherwise, the child will not dare to speak in the future and will not tell the truth.
Respect does not depend on age, no matter how young he is, he still has the right to speak.
It is very beneficial for a child to feel respected for his future growth.
We can’t live without respect just like fish can’t live without water.
The ancients said, "Those who love others will always be loved by others; those who value others will always be valued."
This shows that only by respecting others can we be respected by others.
Shakespeare wrote in the famous play "The Merchant of Venice":
In a family, if there is no tolerance, it will be difficult for the family to survive for a long time. Someone once told me a story:
On the day of her 50th golden wedding anniversary, an old mother told the guests the secret of her continued happiness in marriage.
She said: "From the day I got married, I was going to list 10 shortcomings of my husband. For the happiness of our marriage, I promised myself that whenever he made any of these 10 mistakes, I am willing to forgive him for any of them."
Someone asked, what are the 10 shortcomings? She replied: "To tell you the truth, in the past 50 years, I have never listed these 10 shortcomings in detail.
Whenever my husband does something wrong, I jump with anger. , I immediately reminded myself: Good luck to him, he made one of the 10 mistakes that I can forgive. "
This old mother has tolerated her husband for 50 years with a tolerant heart. How difficult it is.
How important is tolerance in a family. This story tells us:
In the long journey of marriage, the sun will not always shine brightly and flowers will bloom. There will also be summer, heat, winter, cold, wind, frost, snow and rain.
In the face of some small conflicts in life, if you can learn tolerance and tolerance like that old mother, you will find that happiness is actually around you.
In life, tolerance is really an indestructible force.
Couples who tolerate each other must stay together for thousands of years;
A world that tolerates each other must be peaceful and beautiful.
Home is a place for love, not reason.
What is love?
It is understanding, respect, and tolerance, and it is an organic combination of the three.
Understanding is the foundation, respect is the guarantee, and tolerance is the long-term.
A warm and happy home is built through mutual understanding, respect, tolerance and cooperation.
I hope everyone can build a happy home.
I am Little Baiyang Tiantianchang. I use words to share every detail of life and grow with you.