People who are good at talking tend to have high emotional intelligence, can be liked, and are more likely to succeed.
Some time ago, Yang Zi participated in the variety show "Longing for Life" and became a group favorite. The show was explosive and full of laughter.
Netizens commented: I finally hired the right person.
At the same time, it is not difficult to find out: There is a reason why Yang Zi is so popular now!
Zhang Zifeng doesn’t like to talk. People always say that she talks little and is introverted.
But Yang Zi understood her. She said: "I remember you were very lively when you were a child. When you grow up, no one can be like you when you were a child."
And she also said , I just wanted to come here because I knew Zhang Zifeng was there, so there would be someone to chat with.
In the show, her way of speaking was sincere and timely, fully demonstrating her intelligence and emotional intelligence.
In "The Little Prince", there is a saying: "The most conquering weapon in the world is language. One word can make a person's mood fall to the bottom, and one word can also make a person revive. Power. ”
It’s so comfortable to get along with people who can talk.
Speaking well is the lowest-cost kindness
Psychologist Marshall Luxemburg once said:
“Perhaps we do not think that the way we talk is violence. But language does often cause pain to oneself and others."
In the popular variety show "My Wife's Romantic Travel", Jiang Qinqin's way of speaking is particularly impressive.
When meeting the group leader Liu Tao, Jiang Qinqin said directly: "I heard that you are the group leader, so I don't want to come."
The scene was instantly awkward, and Liu Tao was even more surprised. But I still had to bite the bullet and ask why?
Jiang Qinqin said that because she knew that Liu Tao and Qin Hailu were best friends, she was afraid that she would not be able to blend in after coming, and would be easily embarrassed.
This left both Liu Tao and Qin Hailu at a loss.
Later, Liu Tao calmed down and took the initiative to chat with Jiang Qinqin privately to reassure her that he was not that kind of person. Jiang Qinqin not only did not appreciate it, but also asked: "What kind of person?"
During the interview later, the reporter asked Liu Tao how she felt at that time, and she said: "The spring water is not even that cold to pour."
A quick mouth can hurt people invisible, and a soft tongue can break hearts even though it has no bones.
There is a saying in "Xunzi: Honor and Disgrace": "Speaking well to others is warmer than cloth; words that hurt others are deeper than spears and halberds."
Speak well, Even respect for others can also reflect a person's quality and cultivation.
In one issue of the "Poetry Conference", a farmer uncle who had only studied for four years but loved poetry came to participate in the competition.
Standing on the big stage for the first time, the uncle seemed very nervous and uneasy.
Seeing this, Dong Qing said softly:
"That poem is like a little green in the desert. It is watered with limited water. So even if you get the answer wrong, That was also the most beautiful mistake in this scene.”
This paragraph not only relieved the uncle’s restraint, but also reduced his psychological burden, so he didn’t have to worry about being laughed at if he answered wrongly.
Liu Yong said in the book "The Charm of Speaking":
It's easy to say bad things, say harsh things softly, and speak big stories in novels; tell jokes coldly, say harsh things lightly, and say urgent things slowly. ;Keep the story short, tell the truth, and talk less nonsense.
Speaking at the right time, knowing how to be measured, not being quick with your words, and knowing how to respect others with words are the most basic kindness and the most precious quality of a person.
Your mouth is your Feng Shui
I read a story where the master sent his servant to buy things.
On the first day, the master asked to buy "the best thing in the world", and the servant bought back a tongue.
The next day, the master asked to buy "the worst thing in the world", but what the servant bought back was a tongue.
The master was furious and asked the servant angrily: "Why are you playing tricks on him?"
The servant explained: "The so-called "best" and "worst" in the world are both Made with one mouth, it is both the best thing in the world and the worst thing in the world."
Words are the voice of the heart, and words are the mirror of people.
Many people often seek their Feng Shui from the outside, but little do they know that your mouth is your Feng Shui.
A truly smart person will control his mouth and never make the feng shui of his life worse.
There is a famous saying in "War and Peace": "Misfortune comes from the mouth, and my mouth is my enemy."
After Zhu Yuanzhang became the emperor, the two of them fell in love with each other. He went to the capital to see him, hoping to get some reward. When Zhu Yuanzhang heard that he was his childhood playmate, he was very happy and immediately sent them to the palace.
After the first child met Zhu Yuanzhang, he called him by his previous name, Zhu Chongba, and told interesting stories from his childhood:
"Zhu Laosi, Do you remember when we stole potatoes together? You almost choked on the potatoes, but I saved you!"
Zhu Yuanzhang was furious and dragged him away before he could finish his words. Go out and chop.
Seeing this, the other man, Fa Xiao, made a big gift and praised Zhu Yuanzhang.
This is what Zhu Yuanzhang said about eating potatoes:
When your Majesty conquered Canzhou City, you not only scared Marshal Tang away, but also captured General Dou who wanted to escape. , but at this time Hong Haier, who was overestimating his own abilities, came to stop him. Fortunately, General Cai came to rescue him.
As a result, Zhu Yuanzhang rewarded him with an official title.
The same thing is described, but different people say it, and the results are very different.
There is a saying that "What kind of words you speak is what kind of destiny you have."
Your mouth hides the feng shui and blessings of your life.
The highest level of emotional intelligence is knowing how to speak well
There is a question on Zhihu: What are the people with high emotional intelligence you have met?
The most upvoted answer has only three words: "Can speak."
Writer Wang Meng once said: "Whether a person is good or not is mainly reflected in his speaking."
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Jia Ling's high emotional intelligence is recognized in the industry. It seems that no matter what the occasion is, as long as she speaks, she can always make the people present happy and comfortable.
The preview screening of the movie "Hello, Li Huanying" in Chengdu.
During the question and answer session, a fan said: "Let me gossip. You see, we are about the same age. I have two children. What about you, Jia Ling?"
This time Asking questions made the cheerful atmosphere instantly awkward.
Jia Ling replied: "Then... then you have two children, you can give me one!"
Everyone burst into laughter, and the atmosphere was instantly aroused. Her humorous response showed her high emotional intelligence, which not only did not wrong her, but also resolved the embarrassment.
Shen Teng once praised her: "Her advantage is that men like her and women are not jealous of her."
Daniel Goleman, a famous American psychologist, once wrote in "Emotional Intelligence" A book said: "The degree to which you make people comfortable determines the height you can reach."
Speaking to make people comfortable is also a kind of ability.
During a contest for "Miss Hong Kong", the examiner asked a certain girl a special question: "Would you rather marry Chopin or Hitler?" The girl smiled and replied: "I do. Marry Hitler."
The whole audience was stunned, and the lady continued: "If I had married Hitler, maybe World War II would not have happened."
The whole room was filled with excitement. Applause, among the girls participating in the competition, being beautiful is not a special ability, but having such humor and witty eloquence is very rare, and the girl won the championship in one fell swoop.
Cai Kangyong said in "The Way of Speaking":
"Whether you look good or not is definitely not the decisive point in life. Whether you are lovable or not is more important."
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People who are good at talking tend to have high emotional intelligence, can be liked, and are more likely to succeed.
Like, life is not easy, and the rest of your life is not long. Don’t let your words hurt others. I hope we can all speak well and be a person who speaks with warmth and comfort.