Confucius said that a gentleman is "going round and round", and the difference between going round and round lies in his different intentions. The real circle intersects with the true nature of life and blends with each other's gas field. Even if the future is gradually alienated because of different opportunities, it is still affectionate and righteous. People who try their best to enter the circle are often opportunists, and such people also lack loyalty to the team of the "circle" itself.
It is often said that if your circle is right, your life is right. It is true that it is important to be with whom, but it is necessary to be hard while the iron is hot. If you are in full bloom, the breeze will come! We should be with people who share the same smell, instead of trying to get a false reputation and win glitz by rushing to the so-called "higher" circle!
Every one of us along the way, in addition to reading thousands of books and taking Wan Li Road, will naturally read countless people! Everyone also has his own circle, from the circle of industry colleagues, partners and customers, colleagues in the same trade, pen pals of literary friends, etc., to the small circle of relatives and friends, lovers, lovers, but we recall that those circles are originally a kind of interest relationship, and they are often mutual praise circles formed by a group of uneducated people, which cannot stand scrutiny and test. And the longest time, the key moment to rescue is often these nature, nature, and did not spend any effort to woo the flattering circle, because it is full of love!
To say that we all have circles, the so-called superior people have connections. I remember listening to Jia Pingwa's big class when I was in the College of Literature of Northwest University. He's a Woodenhead, and he doesn't speak in cadence. He even seems a little shy, just burying his head in the class, but what Mr. Jia said is real "mountain products", which is very practical! At that time, Mr. Wang's old mother and daughter lived in the professor building of Xida University. At that time, some students were very close to Mr. Jia and said that they would go to see Mrs. Jia to please, but I was too ignorant to know what was good about please. It is better to save some time and recite more in front of Confucius.
Now that I think about it, I can visit the old man. There is really no need to please. First, Mr. Jia won't remember that I am a flatterer. Second, if I remember, it will only increase his boredom and worry about young people! After a few years of postgraduate entrance examination, it happened that the dean recommended Mr. Jia Pingwa as our thesis tutor. Unfortunately, his level is not enough, which wastes Mr. Jia's heart and fails to live up to his youth!
Later, when I was an intern in a newspaper, my senior said that I knew Mr. Chen very well and took me to the Provincial Writers Association to visit Mr. Chen. At that time, I was as ignorant as a child. It was an autumn morning, and we took the liberty of going to the writers association empty-handed. When we went, we saw Mr. Chen wearing a camel sweater and splashing ink. Seeing our two young and reckless "uninvited guests", they greeted us to sit down with a gentle attitude and then wrote an inscription for us.
Now think about it, how much tolerance and encouragement Mr. Chen's self-restraint has given us young people, how much recklessness and boldness! Later, two years later, I met Mr. Chen at Qujiang International Conference Center. He personally wrote encouraging words for Sisi and me in our interview book: Heaven rewards diligence! I have always regarded it as a treasure, as the motto of my life and career, encouraging me to be down-to-earth and have a clean heart!
Later, I worked as a reporter in the provincial newspaper, and my name was "uncrowned king", plus the stunt of "provincial newspaper" and "provincial government new town compound" I, a young man who is "a newborn calf is not afraid of tigers", often wears inappropriate clothes and freely enters and exits the government compound. I also went in and out of the People's Building and Qujiang International Conference Center through various large-scale meetings of the provincial government, together with Li Jianguo, then secretary of the provincial party committee, and Jia Zhibang, then governor.
What's more, I, a teetotaler, even tasted wine with Mao Wenping, then executive deputy mayor of X Xinghe County Committee and my parents in my hometown, at the economic and trade fair, and was forced to praise me as "golden phoenix in my hometown". Now I find it ridiculous. Maybe this is what we call youth!
It is inevitable to deal with all kinds of people at work now, but I am no longer keen on those "superior" circles. I often go to the provincial construction department to hand in the materials for the post. Some people encouraged me to get in touch with the leaders. First, fast delivery of materials can attract customers to increase their contacts. Secondly, it is good for my "apprentice" to meet the directors of various departments and bureaus, but I can't seem to take such a shortcut. Because of the industry, I always deal with the directors of various tax bureaus and industrial and commercial bureaus, but I always follow the rules. I've never asked them, but I've got along with our parents-directors and executives! In secular terms, this should be called worthless!
Times have changed. Now the governor and the secretary of the provincial party committee are retired, retired, or ...; The director and the director have been promoted; And Mr. Zhong Shi has also "propped up the same mountain"; Only his inscriptions and works are still lying quietly in my bookcase; Teacher Pingwa's mother is long gone, but his unpretentious "mother" is in full swing under the new interpretation, which may be what Teacher Jia doesn't want!
A few years ago, for the sake of youth and struggle, I walked in the storm and wasted my time in Vanity Fair. Looking back now, there is no doubt that it was a year, with a slightly better career and sensible children. I should return to my original intention, concentrate on my studies, and then maybe I can plan! Now, because writing requires a lot of knowledge, I take out the works of Yu, Lu Yao, Montesquieu and Nietzsche from the bookcase and reread them. It feels completely different from when I first saw them. Re-reading The Analects of Confucius, Historical Records, Suiyuan Poetry, Nalan Xingde and Tang Poetry and Song Poetry, I can really understand a large part of them and gain a lot!
Some time ago, I saw Li Daokui, a professor and senior economist of Tsinghua University Institute of Economics and Management, giving a speech in Everybody Talk, which benefited a lot! High flyers, who once wandered between new york University and Michigan University, came to CCTV by motorcycle to give a speech to young people. For a time, weddings and funerals were packed! Including I often read the works of famous writers Yu, Wang Meng, Wang Anyi, Mr. Jia Pingwa and the late Mr. Lu Yao and Mr. Chen, and I have also listened to the speeches of every well-read and versatile scholar in hundreds of lecture halls through Himalayan radio, especially the works of Lao Liang. They are all of their own, with thousands of fans, but there is no so-called circle, and some are just like-minded friends!
In ancient times, farewell poems were also a portrayal of mutual appreciation in the circle of literati. Seeing Du Fourteen Visits to the South of the Yangtze River, Seeing Yuan Er Go to Anxi, Seeing Xin Jian Farewell at Furong Inn, Don't Move Big, Seeing Du DuDu Go to Work in Shu, Seeing Jingci Temple Send Lin Zifang, etc. Every capital is touching, but their so-called circle is actually a poet's heart. Wan Li gathered in a place not far away to learn a poem. Or flushed; Or send poems to each other. Each of these poets is a farewell and farewell. They are all brilliant, blooming alone, but harmonious and different. Often across Qian Shan, thousands of waters will be attracted by each other's talents, but none of them will get the name of flattering circle!
Of course, they are free from the shackles of fame and fortune, and they are free and easy all their lives, so there will be "a hundred poems of Li Bai's fighting for wine, buried in Chang 'an Restaurant, and the son of heaven called them out of the boat, calling themselves Brewmaster. "Although Du Fu used exaggerated techniques in" Song of Drinking Eight Immortals ",it can be seen that many literati were unruly and extravagant at that time. How could they flatter and win over the circle? For example, Meng Haoran died eating seafood in order to meet Wang Changling after a long separation. Later, Wang Changling moved to the left and was demoted, and Li Bai sent poems to express his condolences. The real Wang Changling was an Min's "ice heart in a jade pot", and he was honest and self-disciplined, which was vividly reflected in his poems to Xin Xian! Such things are true feelings, how can we win over the circle?
There must be a teacher in a threesome. Doing things requires a platform and like-minded people, but it is definitely not a slap in the face. Of course, businessmen are different from literati and have their own circles, such as Ma Yun's Zheshang Association and the Gold and Silver Circle, but our friends who read celebrity biographies know that Ma Yun started from scratch and has three or four partners. His wife cooks for them and never mixes circles. I,, and three people each perform their duties, with a clear division of labor. Until they became famous, they left alone and never mixed up in circles. Li Ka-shing is French. He never took photos with stars, and even kicked the star's daughter-in-law out of the house. And every week, the family will come back from all over the world for reunion just by eating a meal, and they will also listen to Li Ka-shing's nagging family instructions during the dinner. This is the real circle between their relatives! Therefore, the cause is created by people with will, and the mixed circle must at least wait until it is successful. People with similar breath will get together and fight for great things, but for us ordinary people who struggle on the road, it's too far. We should be down-to-earth and practice hard on the way forward!
Today, you are still beating around the bush, going to the teahouse on the wine table, pushing a cup for a change, making money, looking for a backer, looking for a rich man? If you want to be the boss or leader of the industry, why not work hard, be hungry, concentrate on research and strategize? I am afraid that mixed circles will not help or even do the opposite; If you just want to be an enterprising entrepreneur, we are not afraid that if you have a boss, you will be too talented. If you don't have a company, you won't have a platform. While the iron is hot, you need to be hard. As long as we have the ability, any platform can become a singer, export good movies, write best-selling writers, create our own brands and sell them on the Internet.