The goal can be quantified, the way to achieve it, the service for it, the measurement of the degree to achieve it, and the explicit. The purpose is our real intention. Generally, the direction to achieve the purpose cannot be quantified, but it can only be perceived, but it is our real destination, our spiritual home and the belonging of life. But the goal is clear, it is easier to remember, and it always affects people's behavior; The concealment of purpose often makes us forget.
My wife, a middle school teacher, once discussed career goals and objectives together. Take the class teacher as an example. What is the goal of the head teacher? One of them is to get the first place in every exam. But what is the purpose of the class teacher? Let yourself have this ability, no matter what kind of class, what kind of students, what kind of working environment, you can get the first place. The goal is just to prove to what extent your goal has been achieved.
And so on:
The goal of sales is sales performance, and the purpose is to enable yourself to gain the trust of various customers, enough to pay for the products. How to prove that you have achieved your goal? The realization of sustainable goals.
The goal of management is all production indicators, and the purpose is to let oneself have the ability to play its management role well and control and stimulate the enthusiasm of team work in any environment. The achievement of various production targets is the best proof of achieving your own goals.
The goal of study is exam results, and the purpose is to cultivate one's interest in learning and master learning methods.
Speaking of this, maybe everyone thinks: making money is the purpose, and making yourself valuable is the purpose. -Yes. But the reality is that many people will forget and get lost when they walk. This is a watershed in the wisdom of life.
People who aim at making money generally consider the starting point: where can they make money? How to make money faster? Who can help me make money? Pay attention to external shortcuts, even harmful and illegal means, as long as you can make money. In this mental model, the success of life depends on others, environment or platform, which brings the feeling of relying on others, compromising and wanting others, so it brings stress and anxiety to the body and mind. If the goal is not achieved, people will complain about the unfairness of the world.
Because the direction is wrong, it violates the cause and effect, paying more than others, but getting little. This thinking mode of focusing on the outside and taking shortcuts is opportunism and climbing. Maybe he can get some returns and some meager profits in the early stage, but in the long run he can't get his own life pursuit.
People who aim at value pay attention to their own value and their own inner self. The starting point of thinking is: What am I good at? What are my strengths? Does the advantage meet the needs of customers? How to further train your ability? How to improve your ability to earn money? ..... In this mental model, the success of life depends on oneself rather than others. The more you explore inward, the more harmonious your body and mind will be, the stronger your energy will be and the more comfortable your life will be. This is the basis of Buddhism's thought of karma.
The concept of "choice is more important than hard work" has been circulating in the society for a long time, which has influenced and misled a large number of aspiring young people. In the past, I also suffered from it and helped spread it, and I feel deeply guilty here.
In order to prove that "choice is more important than hard work", the story of straw is often quoted. The same straw, vegetables are only a few dollars a catty. If it is used to tie crabs, it costs tens of dollars a catty. Do you want to tie vegetables or crabs?
Also, the same bottle of mineral water, the supermarket sells 2 yuan, the train goes to 5 yuan, the star-rated hotel 10 yuan, and the airport 20 yuan is even more expensive than the gold in the desert. how much are you willing to pay？
After listening to these two stories, most people feel that "one word awakens the dreamer". It turns out that "choice is greater than effort". You see, you don't need any effort, you just need a decision, and you become valuable. How easy it is! It just caters to the characteristics of human beings "seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages", and many people are rushing to join new industries.
In this kind of thinking, the choice is opportunity and platform, and the concern is external. I don't know, I was really satisfied from the early days when I tied vegetables to crabs, but the happiness brought by this satisfaction soon disappeared, because after you had the status of "tens of dollars" for a while, you began to yearn for "hundreds of dollars". However, you are just that "straw" and will eventually be replaced by industrial products.
After being fooled, some people disdain to "bundle vegetables" from now on, but they are "rotten straws" and can't "bundle crabs", and they have since fallen into an extremely embarrassing life. Sow the wrong seeds from the beginning, and it is impossible to have the right results in the end.
The appropriate idea is: "What to choose is more important than the choice itself!" Of course, life needs choices. Do you choose external opportunities or internal light? People who choose the inner light are "opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared."
Choose external, subject to people; Choose your heart and be carefree.
Select external, which cannot be controlled; Choose the inside and use it freely.
Choose external, stress anxiety; Choose your heart, calm and peaceful.
Choose outside and run around all day; Choose your heart and fix the needle of the sea.
Choosing the outside is called climbing; Choose your heart; You are fate.
Choose external, get twice the result with half the effort; Choose it and get what you want.
This is cause and effect, this is the end point, this is the grasp of the law of life, but also the watershed of life wisdom.
The goal is external, and the purpose pays more attention to internal.
Is your purpose to make money or be valuable? Remember: don't take the goal as an end. How much money you earn is the goal, just to prove how much you are worth!
So, what is the goal and purpose of life?
Effectiveness is the goal, happiness is the goal!
Happiness is the goal, and the ability to be happy is the goal!
What do you want? Why is more important than what you do!