Subjective reasons mainly include: (1) method means that you are angry, as Chinese medicine often says; Second, you haven't learned enough knowledge (don't be angry);
In order to solve the subjective problem, I think the first thing is to eat more fruits and vegetables, the second thing is to listen to more music and get in touch with new things, that is, to make myself tired, but if I feel full, the last thing is to learn more knowledge. I suggest you study philosophy here. Really, if you learn philosophy thoroughly, I believe your personality and method of solving problems will definitely change.
Objectively speaking, you should have a correct attitude towards what happens objectively. Of course, the main thing is to look at the advantages of others and find out their own shortcomings. Especially after being angry, think about whether there are other solutions, because being angry or rude is definitely not the best way to solve the problem, only the worst way!
There is also a grateful heart, including relatives, children, parents, colleagues and friends around you. Whether they are "good" or "bad", they have actually helped you a lot. You think the good can pass on your experience, and you think the bad can learn from it. It is because of these people that you know what is right and what is wrong. Do you say they have no influence on you?
Well, that's all. In fact, people's personality is hard to change, but some habits are easy to correct, just like you are angry. Wish you become a lady as soon as possible! You can love your family and friends more.
Question 2: I have a bad temper. What should I eat to recuperate? Hello, don't think this bad temper is not a disease. This is mostly liver failure in Chinese medicine. Generally, you can consider taking some traditional Chinese medicines to soothe the liver and relieve depression. You can choose Shugan Pill to soothe the liver and stomach, regulate qi and relieve pain. Used for liver depression and qi stagnation, fullness in chest and hypochondrium, epigastric pain, noisy vomiting, belching and acid swallowing. Pay attention to relaxation at ordinary times. When you are in a bad mood, you can take a walk and listen to music to ease your mood and make it better. At the same time, keep good sleep habits. You can eat more fruits and vegetables, which is beneficial to supplement the vitamins that the body lacks. Usually don't eat spicy food, and the diet is light. Do not drink strong tea or coffee before going to bed. I hope it helps you!
Question 3: I feel irritable, easy to lose my temper and easy to be in a bad mood. What should I do? How to adjust Taichong point?
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Question 4: How can an irritable person have a better temper? ! ! When a person is in a bad mood, he can often adjust his mood in the following ways:
(1) Consciousness can adjust the occurrence and intensity of emotions by adjusting the consciousness of legal persons. Some people with high level of ideological cultivation can often adjust their emotions more effectively than those with low level of ideological cultivation. A person should try to control the changes of emotions with consciousness. He can control his emotions with what I should … I can … plus what I want to do.
(2) Language adjustment language is a powerful tool to express one's emotional experience. Emotional reactions can be caused or suppressed by language, and even the silent inner language can play a regulatory role. Lin Zexu hangs the word "anger control" on the wall, which is a good way to control and adjust emotions with language.
(3) The attention transfer method shifts the attention from one's negative emotions to a meaningful direction. When people are depressed and bored, watching movies and TV works to regulate their emotions and reading blasphemous memoirs can all get good results.
(4) Action transfer method can overcome some long-term negative emotions, and can use new jobs and actions to transfer the interference of negative emotions. Beethoven once joined the army to overcome the pain of lovelorn, which might as well be a good choice. The biggest psychological problem is to suffer from loss; The biggest mental burden is the shackles of fame and fortune. People should not blindly pursue fame and fortune, nor should they lack self-motivation and spirit of struggle. Health first, nourishing the heart, indifferent to fame and fortune. Happiness lies in contentment and physical and mental health. Mr. Liu, a master of fine arts, is over 90 years old and still full of energy. The secret of its longevity is: don't be surprised, look at the flowers in front of the court; I have no intention of staying, and I have no intention of staying, looking up at the clouds in the sky. A person learns to be optimistic, indifferent to fame and fortune, keep a healthy mood, and his fate will always be in his own hands. stare
Anger control is the master of emotions. Happy when you are happy, sad when you are sad. When encountering angry things, think about whether it is meaningful to be angry, think about the consequences after being angry, and then think about what other ways can be replaced? This can make you calm and emotionally stable.
Pleasure techniques strive to increase positive emotions. There are three specific methods: first, make more friends and have fun in group communication; Second, set more small goals, which are easy to achieve and can bring pleasant satisfaction every time; Third, learning dialectical thinking can make people calmly deal with setbacks and failures.
Humor is often more humorous when you laugh. Psychologists believe that people laugh not because they are happy, but because they laugh. I didn't cry because I was sad, but because I cried. Laugh more in life and don't worry.
Helping others to do good deeds like Lei Feng can not only bring happiness to others, but also make others feel at ease, calm and have a better sense of security.
When venting unpleasant things, you can vent your unpleasant emotions by exercising, reading novels, listening to music, watching movies, chatting with friends, and you can also cry.
When demand is blocked or frustrated, compensatory transfer can be compensated by meeting another demand. If you don't do well in this course, you can try to get good grades in another course, or you can divert your attention and change your mood by changing the environment.
Sublimation is to lead the depressed bad mood to a lofty realm. For example, Goethe, a famous writer, sublimated the emotional energy of lovelorn into literary writing and wrote the famous Young Werther.
When you are in a bad mood, you can relax your whole body step by step from top to bottom, or you can let yourself enter a relaxed and quiet state through self-hypnosis, and then smile and imagine the happy situation you have experienced, thus eliminating the bad mood.
Question 5: I always lose my temper, especially grumpy. I need an adjustment method. Is it bad for my health? My temper is not very good, I think, first of all, we must learn to be tolerant.
Check first, do you have the following characteristics:
(1) When you get angry, you curse, smash things and even hit people.
(2) The emotional response is simple, lacking a sense of humor, not joking, keeping silent about the things that are satisfactory, and the things that are dissatisfied are often solved by quarreling and losing their temper.
(3) In the face of setbacks in life, there is only one way of psychological defense, and that is to vent.
I can't stand it at all.
He is quick-tempered and can do anything. He couldn't control himself at that time, and he especially regretted it afterwards.
(6) I can't listen to anyone's persuasion, especially when I am emotional.
These are typical characteristics of irritable people.
Anger can be controlled and temper can be changed. The key is to master the method.
(1) Situation transfer method: When anger suddenly comes out, people have five ways to deal with it. One is to suppress anger into your heart and sulk; The second is to lose your temper and punish yourself; The third is unconscious revenge and venting; The fourth is to lose your temper and vent your anger in a very strong form; The fifth is to divert attention to offset anger. Among them, transfer is the most active treatment. When you are angry, you will get more and more angry with people and things you don't like. At this time, you might as well use a "36-step plan" to quickly leave the situation that makes you angry. It's best to listen to music and take a walk with friends you can talk to, and then you will calm down slowly.
(2) Rational control method: When you are angry, you'd better let your own rationality take the lead. You can hint to yourself and silently say "Don't be angry, it's not worth being angry" and "Being angry is stupid and won't solve any problems." You can also give yourself an order when you are about to get angry: don't get angry! Hold on for a minute! Hold on for a minute! Good job! Hold on for another three minutes! Hold on for two minutes. I started to control myself. I might as well hold on for another minute. Three minutes have passed, why not insist? So, use reason to overcome emotions.
(3) Evaluation postponement method: Anger comes from the evaluation of "* * *", which may be a look of others, a sarcasm or even a misunderstanding of others. You were "furious" at that time, but if you comment after an hour, a week or even a month, you may think it's "not worth it".
(4) Sublimation of goals: Anger is a powerful psychological energy. If used improperly, it will hurt others, sublimate them and become a powerful driving force for success. It is necessary to cultivate a lofty goal in life, change the habit of calculating gains and losses with immediate trivial matters, and consider everything from the overall situation and the long term. Only by establishing a lofty ideal in life can a person tolerate others and have a greater sense of proportion. He will not tolerate his energy being entangled in trivial matters and hinder the pursuit of his ideal career.
The following are two materials found on the Internet, which I hope will be helpful to everyone, hehe ~
In real life, some people get angry easily. People around you only know that this person has a big temper, but rarely think that this person is probably suffering from a disease. In traditional Chinese medicine, anger is called "good anger", which refers to the symptoms of impatience, easy to get angry for no reason and uncontrollable. It is also called "anger" and "irritability" and should belong to the category of diseases.
According to the theory of traditional Chinese medicine, "the liver is just dirty, happiness is depressed, and ambition is angry." This means that the liver belongs to a strong and irritable organ, and prefers comfortable and soft emotions to depressed emotions, and its emotional performance is mainly anger. Therefore, anger is mainly related to the liver, which is mainly composed of three syndromes: liver depression and qi stagnation, hyperactivity of liver fire and spleen deficiency and hyperactivity of liver.
Anger caused by stagnation of liver qi also manifests as frequent sighing, chest pain or string pain. Most of the causes of liver depression and qi stagnation syndrome are depression, mental pain or a history of mental injury. The good anger caused by stagnation of liver-qi should first be treated by psychological health preservation and treated by dredging according to the cause. You can eat more foods with the function of soothing the liver and regulating qi, such as celery, chrysanthemum, tomato, radish, orange, grapefruit, citrus, citron, bergamot and so on.
Good chickens caused by liver fire also show symptoms such as dreaminess, red eyes, swelling and pain, bitter taste and thirst. The causes of liver-fire syndrome are mostly stagnation of liver-qi, or excessive smoking and drinking, or overeating sweet, fat and spicy things. In addition to quitting smoking and limiting alcohol, we should not eat sweet, fat and spicy food, but also eat more foods that clear the liver and purge heat, such as bitter gourd, bitter vegetable and western food. & gt
Question 6: What should I do if I have a bad temper? Life is full of troubles. There is no straight road to life, and it is bumpy. Time can't stay, so there's no need to hurt spring and mourn autumn. A person's happiness is not because he has more, but because he cares less. The road of life is very reserved and there are many troubles. We should adjust our mentality. A good mood is heaven, and an angry mood is hell. If you want to be happy and forget the unpleasant things, the unpleasant things will pass. Stop thinking, just like a calendar. Turn it over and don't turn it back. Climb mountains, watch blue sky and white clouds, listen to music and dance. Time will dilute everything, and there is no fire mountain that can't be crossed. A rainbow will appear after the rain clears. As long as you adjust your mentality, everything will be fine.
Question 7: What should I do if I am irritable and irritable? Don't be afraid, so is my wife.
Although I was angry at the time, it passed quickly.
Just like you said, it's just around your loved ones, because around your loved ones, what you really show is you.
Don't be afraid, you can gently tell your boyfriend this situation and ask him to understand you.
Of course, I still want to improve myself, because everyone has a temper!
Love your boyfriend and family well. There are really not many people who can do it. Only by loving you deeply will you be patient!
Question 8: What should I do if I have a big temper and am irritable? I used to have a bad temper and often flew into a rage when something went wrong! As the doctor said above, you may have some kind of disease in your body, but I am a doctor and can't waste my conclusions. At that time, I had a bad temper and some friends were angry with me, but I reflected on it and decided to change myself. I'm happy now, and I don't know why my temper is much better. If you have any questions you can't figure out, we can discuss them together. I'm glad to be your audience.