Especially when a person has experienced the cruelty of life, he will feel the same way about this sentence and become more and more silent and calm.
When people reach middle age, it is ideal to understand their own value and be calm.
So, if you can keep calm about the following things, it means that you are really mature.
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A sudden disaster
I don't know if you have noticed that people who have experienced it like to say: "Life is impermanent and things are unpredictable."
Yes, life is full of unknowns. No one knows who will come first tomorrow or in an accident.
Therefore, by observing a person's facial expressions and movements in the face of unexpected situations, it is enough to see his inner maturity.
I once read a story,
There was a man who sold jars for most of his life. He gets up early every day, walks through a rugged mountain road and sells it in the town.
But one day, when he set out, it was still dark and he couldn't see the mountain road clearly. When going down the mountain, I accidentally stepped on my foot, and the cylinder on the left side was crooked, and the cylinder head on it rolled down.
Listening to the voice from below, the man thought that the lid must be broken, and the cylinder could not be sold, so he kicked it down in disgust.
He cursed as he walked, and soon found the intact cylinder head in the haystack on the roadside, but when he thought that the cylinder head had been crushed by himself, he directly smashed it with a pole.
So he continued to walk down. When he reached the foot of the mountain, he found that the jar he kicked was stuck between two trees.
Now he is really angry and anxious, and he can hardly breathe.
Indeed, as long as he can calm down when he meets something, not just on impulse, it will be another ending.
As the saying goes, look before you leap.
It is to advise everyone that no matter what happens, we should calm down, rationally analyze the current situation, and then make the most correct choice.
Therefore, when people reach middle age and encounter unexpected situations, they must face them calmly and take their time to get twice the result with half the effort.
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Difficulties and slander of others
There is a cloud in the Book of Songs: "People's many words can be feared."
In today's life, gossip is really terrible. A word can ruin a person, even make him lift his head all his life.
In the face of others' difficulties and slander, never answer blows with blows. Keeping calm, ignoring and excusing yourself is the best protection for yourself.
When Zeng Guofan was studying, he was often "found fault" by a classmate.
During the day, because Zeng Guofan's desk was near the window, he said, "You are blocking the light. How can I study? " Zeng Guofan silently moved the desk to the corner;
In the evening, Zeng Guofan studied all night. He said, "Why don't you have a good rest when you are still studying so late?" Zeng Guofan only meditated in his heart.
Later, Zeng Guofan won the prize, and the man said, "It's all his fault. He took away my good Feng Shui, and it's also my light to be admitted."
Even so, Zeng Guofan is still able to shrug off and persuade others not to care. This is the real mature demeanor!
Know how to use openness to resolve right and wrong, use silence to reduce contradictions, and it is very derogatory without arguing.
Remember, in the face of gossip, don't rush to defend yourself and make yourself physically and mentally exhausted, so that you don't care, your heart will be open, and the gossip will naturally break down.
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The family's incomprehension
It has been said that once a person reaches middle age, home is a hurdle that can't be bypassed and is always facing tests.
In particular, differences in family division of labor, coupled with differences in thinking, are easy to produce differences.
When my friend A Liang quit his job to start a business, he lost a lot of money because of his mistakes in decision-making. His wife began to criticize every day, even saying that he married the wrong person.
During that time, although he was depressed, he didn't refute it. He gritted his teeth and persisted until business improved again.
His wife has no consideration for her husband's feelings. Fortunately, A Liang didn't choose to defend himself, but calmly faced it and let the whole family turn the corner.
On the contrary, his wife was cheated out of all the money used to buy a new house because she believed the false advertisements on the roadside. Instead of blaming him, he always comforted him.
It was only after being cheated that the wife realized her naivety and deeply reflected on her original behavior.
Really, when people reach middle age, they should be "timid", keep calm at all times, and don't get angry with their relatives easily.
You know, there is no overnight hatred between a family, only the truest love.
Try to give up endless complaining and complaining, be a mature middle-aged person, take on your own responsibilities and never give up easily.
I have to admit that middle age is the most important stage of life. You need to grow up and understand that emotions are just a tool.
Yi Shu once said:
"The sign of a person's real maturity is that there are fewer and fewer strange people."
When faced with sudden disasters, others' difficulties and slander, and family members' incomprehension, you will gain more by staying calm!
* * * Encourage.