When children are so "disobedient", do you want to buy them? "I will buy" or "I certainly won't buy", the parents' answers are nothing more than these two. Actually, it's not right to buy it or not.
First, parents didn't convince their children, and they were unhappy when they bought it. They felt it was a compromise to their children. I am not happy not to buy children, and I am reluctant to part with it. This shows that parents' education for their children is immature. Because parents are immature, they are caught in the middle and are at a loss. At this time, the child is right, because the child just likes and wants to buy it.
Second, why do children cry? Many parents say they want to buy it, but they are not. Children cry because parents don't respect them.
Imagine that when children start shopping when they are sensible, all they see is "parents pay for what they want to buy", and "why do I have to ask my parents for it when I want to buy something without money?" Why don't they pay? " In children's minds, this is a great inequality. We must understand the inner world of children in order to establish a good parent-child relationship.
"Intelligent countermeasures: pre-agreement-reminder-summary afterwards"
Every time before going out, make an agreement with your child: "son, mom and dad will take you to the mall, what dad wants to buy, what you want to buy, and what mom wants to buy." Besides, we can't buy anything. Is that okay? " Most children will agree. If you have different opinions, you should discuss them before going out.
When you arrive at the shopping mall, when a child encounters something he still wants without a plan, parents only need to remind him that "we agreed not to buy anything else", and you will find that the child is very reasonable and stares at what he wants. Although his face is full of longing, he will still agree: "Let's buy it next time." Some children still want it after being reminded, and parents must disagree because it is agreed. This is the best time for parents to establish prestige and "keep their word".
When I get home, I will sum up with my children, "Next time we will discuss whether you want to buy something today", and the children will feel that "Mom and Dad attach great importance to me and love me very much, so I must be obedient".
"small summary"
Why children don't listen is often because no one tells them what to listen to. Children are the most reasonable. Children are unreasonable, often because they are unreasonable. And the agreed things, the children are much better than the parents.