In addition, people with heavy grievances should divert their attention:
Legend has it that there was a Lantian Hou named Wang Shu in the Spring and Autumn Period, and his personality was very violent. In view of this weakness, he attaches great importance to self-control when getting along with others and is not easily angered by others. On one occasion, Xie Wuyi angrily scolded the door, made a scene, and said many ugly words in front of Wang Shu's men. Wang Shu always holds back his temper and stands silently without saying a word. It was not until Xie Wuyi left for a long time that he turned to his subordinates and asked, "Is he gone?" The subordinate replied, "I've been walking for a long time." He heaved a sigh and turned to do his own thing. Wang Shu's method is to force himself to divert his attention without leaving the scene, so as to avoid listening to the fierce words of the other party and prevent himself from being further "intensified".
Psychological knowledge tells us that when people are angry, the cerebral cortex often produces strong excitement, resulting in a temporary "narrow consciousness" phenomenon, and this harmful excitement will further spread and escalate, and even lead to unimaginable consequences of fierce conflicts. The function of diverting attention is to reasonably divert the excitement, take the initiative to cool down and prevent the conflict from worsening.