Taboo within one year after the death of a loved one. In daily life, birth, old age, illness and death are the norm, but after the death of our loved ones, we have many taboos in all aspects, and many people want to know what taboos there are. Next, I will take you to learn more about the taboos within one year after the death of a loved one.
Taboo 1 within one year after the death of a loved one.
First, the taboo of burying the dead.
1, satin fabrics are prohibited for the clothes of the deceased. Old people are used to calling the clothes they wear after death "shroud". After the age of 60, some old people began to prepare shroud. The quantity and texture of the shroud are very particular. The number of pieces is generally odd, such as five, seven and nine, but not even; Silk is often used in materials, because "silk" and "thickness" are homophonic, indicating that there are many future generations, but satin is taboo, because "satin" and "broken" are homophonic.
2, the coffin is taboo to use willow. The coffin is forbidden to use willow trees. According to legend, it is because willow trees do not bear seeds and are worried about extinction.
Second, the date of the funeral is forbidden to be chosen on the day of heavy mourning.
Heavy mourning, heavy, repeated, double meaning, refers to more than one funeral, refers to the situation that some family members or relatives died one after another within 100 days or one year after a person died. Custom pays attention to, the day of funeral must avoid the day of heavy mourning, so as to avoid the death of relatives at home again.
Third, during the period of filial piety, it is forbidden to visit relatives and friends, especially to attend happy events.
Within 0/00 days of the death of immediate family members, it is best to be filial at home. Don't travel, visit relatives and friends, etc. unless necessary. So as not to bring your sadness to others. Especially weddings, business opening, celebrating the birth of babies and other happy events, it is best not to attend.
Fourth, during the period of filial piety, children should avoid wearing red and green.
During the mourning period, ancient children paid attention to wearing filial piety and white mourning clothes within 100 days; After a hundred days, wear dark clothes such as black and blue to show filial piety, and avoid wearing red and green heavy makeup. In modern society, although many friends wear the word "filial piety" instead of mourning for such a long time because of their work and life; However, you still can't wear red with green.
Five, during the period of filial piety, children should not participate in recreational activities.
In ancient times, when parents died, children generally had to observe filial piety for three years. During these three years, marriage and auspicious celebrations are not allowed. In ancient times, people who paid attention to "ruling the world with filial piety" and served as officials, no matter how old they were, had to take time off to go back to their ancestral homes to observe filial piety after their parents died, which was called "Ding You". If officials don't go back to their hometowns to observe filial piety, they may be impeached by the censor, punished, or even never hired. If an official gets married, has children, breaks up, has fun, etc. During his anxiety, he will be regarded as unfilial and impeached. In modern society, many people shorten the time of filial piety to one year or even less, but they are afraid that their children will have fun.
In the first year, the immediate family members died, so it is forbidden to post red couplets before the Spring Festival.
Sticking red couplets during the Spring Festival is a custom in most parts of China. However, if a family member dies, it is forbidden to post red couplets in front of the door during the first Spring Festival.
Taboos within one year after the death of a loved one II. The taboo of feng shui relatives.
1. Taboos during burial
Don't shed tears on the body when you are dying. When buried, relatives should temporarily hold back their sadness and control their tears so as not to spill them on their bodies.
Cats and dogs are forbidden to approach the corpse before and after the funeral, which is considered to cause the deceased to suddenly stand up or become a zombie.
Willows are forbidden in coffins. The coffin is made of pine and cypress, which is forbidden in Vitamin. Because pine and cypress symbolize longevity, willow trees will not bear seeds and may never see them again.
2, can't touch the face of the dead
We all say that death is the most important thing, the deceased is the most important, and the deceased must not be offended. But under normal circumstances, within 10 hour after death, although the breathing heart has stopped, the gods have not left the body. At this time, there are four major resignations. A little touch, the dead will disintegrate like a wind knife, and the pain is abnormal.
At this time, other people's calling, crying and touching can't help the deceased get rid of it, but they will also use this emotion to increase the pain of the deceased, and they can't complain. So you can't touch the face of the dead after death, and you can't touch the hands of the dead after death, because it will cause them more pain.
You can't leave things of the dead.
People in the world don't know where they will go after death, and they don't know what the world will be like after death. But if the dead soul doesn't want to go to the underworld, it's because they need something to possess, so the previous thing is the best choice. Therefore, the things of the dead can not only be kept, but also can not be used. They need to be burned and returned to the dead.
4, coffin materials
The coffin used to bury the dead should be made of thick nanmu or cypress. In addition, willow as a coffin material should be taboo, because willow will have the hidden meaning of "childlessness", which is not good.
Step 5 wear the shroud of the deceased
The shroud worn by the deceased should be made of silk, because "silk" is homophonic with "thick son", which means that future generations can have many children and be blessed. At the same time, the number of pieces to wear shroud is odd, such as 135 pieces, so it is forbidden to use "satin" as shroud material, because this meaning also means "no children".
6. Within the first seven days after the death of the lover, men and women cannot share the same room.
More commonly, in religious terms, sexual intercourse between men and women is unclean. Therefore, if someone in the family dies, it is not appropriate to have sexual intercourse within the first seven days, so as not to touch the spirit or foul smell of the deceased, except for the death of a loved one.
7. When relatives leave, remember that there is no one around.
There has been an unwritten rule since ancient times that an elder in the family is seriously ill and feels exhausted, and his children and grandchildren will come back from all corners of the country.
When the old man leaves, the younger generation will come to see him off. This is a blessing.
The old man is gone, and there is no one. Children are really unfilial.
Old people will also be cared for in the underworld, which will make the younger generation living often dream of old people.
8. Wear colorful clothes
After parents die, children should be filial to their parents. In ancient times, they usually had to be filial for three years. Modern time is shortened, but it should not be less than one year. During the mourning period, children are forbidden to wear colorful clothes, make up heavily and drink and have fun.