But at the same time, I am very conscious that it is only a matter of time before my husband betrays me. After getting married, I found that he was a boy who didn't care about family ties and credibility. Such a boy can betray his good friends and cheat his family, and of course he will not be too loyal to his wife. I only blame myself. Knowing him, I have to be vigilant.
When I met him, I was very young, about 20 years old, and I had great imagination about love and marriage. My family background is very good. Although my father died early, my mother has been running a clothing factory and has a lot of money. After that, my mother remarried and went to Hong Kong, giving me all the "assets" in the mainland, including which clothing factory.
At a young age, according to today's words, she is also a "rich girl." I have a trinity suite, a car and rich deposits in financial institutions. I don't know the taste of sadness. Look at my husband, five years older than me, born in poverty and not good-looking! But he has a flexible mind, graduated from a key university, and can give people a sense of "determination" when he speaks and does things.
At that time, I was selling goods in a company. By chance, he met me and sold me his products. I'm not going to buy it, but "that money" means nothing to me. I couldn't stand other people's demands and bought a lot at once. He looked at me in some surprise and repeatedly said thank you. Not long after, I received some small gifts from him, and he said that they were all made by himself-ice cream sticks were hand-carved into small dolls, waste coke bottles were made into small vases, and packaging paper was tied into special text documents. How did the girl reply when she said that her husband was cheating?
This makes me think he is special. He also has an obvious "advantage", and he will quietly say some sweet words. You are not allowed to feel insincere, and you can be "lost" on your back.
His EQ and IQ are really high. With him, I always feel that you are his "VIP". He will assign everything in advance and never make mistakes. And his attitude towards me made me a "little princess" in the palm of my hand. No matter young or not, if you love someone, you will not hesitate and think too much. Anyway, I have money. What's the harm of his standard deviation? I married him after dating for a year. I took his parents from the countryside to live with him. I attach great importance to his parents and am very filial.
He is a dutiful son and grandson. If there is only one person in the world who can "hold him down", it is his mother. His mother is very arrogant. Although she is a peasant woman, she can distinguish right from wrong. Not long after marriage, everyone's daughters were born. My parents-in-law are very chilling about this matter, and they also see the shortcomings from her husband's expression. But he seemed to comfort himself, "Everyone can make another one. The old man and daughter are good and can take care of their younger brother. " I was silent. I am an only child. I expect my daughter to be spoiled by my parents like me, and the helplessness of giving birth to a child is unbearable. I really don't want to consider having children in the short term.
Therefore, I had a little disagreement with him. But he suppressed his mentality very well. He listens to me, and his thoughts about his daughter are ok.
Because of confinement and taking care of my daughter, I gave him the job of cleaning the clothing factory. He is smart and good at developing customers, and everyone's business is getting better and better. I thought, why am I so tired alone? If my husband has the ability, let him buy and sell hard, and I will rely on him to enjoy retirement. Maybe everything began to change gradually from my laziness.
Marriage is irreversible.
When my daughter was one year old, my husband suddenly told me clearly that he wanted to "change jobs." "Sell the clothing factory, then sell the house, and with everyone's savings, you can start your own business." He said. Actually, I know nothing about business. My mother paved the road for me in the garment factory before, so I don't have to think too much. My husband's suggestion made me hesitate. He has been urging me to help me paint a better tomorrow.
I obeyed my husband and gave him almost all my budget. And he also devoted himself to his work, went home less often, and gradually became cold to my daughter and me.
Not long after, I suddenly found out that he had assigned a female employee from a clothing factory to his new enterprise. The boy's name is Xiaohui, and he looks elegant and feminine. She was also born in the country. At that time, I chose her to go to the factory. Because her family background is very interesting-she was "sold" by her parents, and she tried her best to escape, with nothing and a skill. I felt sorry for her and taught her to do things by herself. She wants me one by one, mainly by being clever and obedient.
My husband assigned Xiaohui to a new enterprise, which made me suspicious. But the husband said that he was assigned because I took Xiaohui as my own sister and she offered to go. A week later, Xiaohui came to see me at home with her boyfriend. She said some respectful words and told me that she was going to marry her boyfriend. This completely eliminated my worries about Xiaohui.
I thought my life would be spent in a clear Wan Li, but it came true when I saw my husband succeed and my daughter develop. Unfortunately, at the beginning-I was diagnosed with early gastric cancer and had to undergo surgery to remove nearly one-third of my stomach! In fact, I am very strong inside. I can bear the pressure of death. I just don't want to be separated from my daughter and happy life from the beginning.
My husband was busy at work, and my mother-in-law went to the hospital clinic to help look after it. I don't want to hear her lament, "Well, it will be harder for me to hold my granddaughter." At that moment, I really realized the dilemma of married life. There are three kinds of unfilial, and the last one is the biggest. The husband is a dutiful son and grandson. In his view, no boys means no children! I had planned to have another child myself in recent years, but now I have rectal cancer, and this plan has broken down.
One day in 2009, I once lived in the hospital and recovered after operation. But I haven't been home for a long time. It happened to be my husband's wedding anniversary, so I just wanted to go home and spend time with him. I called him to answer it, and his cell phone was dead. I took a taxi to my house and saw the women's shoes as soon as I opened the door! Even the stupidest woman knows what happened. I rushed into the bedroom door, the door was closed, I knocked to let them out, and half an hour later, he came out. Followed by Xiaohui! This really hurts me more than death. I see, our marriage is completely hopeless.
See the light after patience.
On that day, Xiaohui said indifferently and arrogantly, "Everyone is well. In fact, I really don't want to lie to you, and you shouldn't always think that I am wronged with a redemption mentality! But you treat me like a kitten and a puppy, so if you feel sorry for me, just enjoy a bite and help me eat it. I don't feel sorry for you. " Being a third party, she is so eloquent and ungrateful, which shows how selfish she is. At this point, she and my husband are the best partners!
Since my husband started his business, no matter which good friend asks him for a loan, he always cries for poverty. He can make up his mind to refuse those who have helped him before, who have led him well, and those who have difficulties in seeking help. And he didn't keep his word, he didn't keep his word, and even his promise to his daughter was never fulfilled. I've seen through him.
After Xiaohui left, my husband and I explicitly requested a divorce. He said that he really loves Xiaohui and has been using me to please me. He is very tired. But with Xiaohui, Xiaohui held him to the sky and reached his man's self-esteem. He feels good. "I will give you XX million, and you will divorce me." He said. Xx million, when I sold the factory, not only this number, but also the entrance and exit he mentioned. I know he is an improviser. If he dares to mention divorce, he must have moved his assets or done something beneficial to him. I can't get all the benefits. This is so unreasonable.
I need money to see a doctor and my daughter needs money to study. How can I give my former assets to another woman for free in exchange for what he did today? I will insist on divorce for the time being. I told him that there is feng shui in doing business: "In fact, I am your feng shui. If you get divorced, maybe you can't do business. Why do you respect your mother? It is not convenient for fortune tellers to tell you that filial piety helps you succeed? "
He is a feudal superstitious man, and after thinking about it, he feels a little reasonable. I also said that I wouldn't interfere with him and Xiaohui, as long as they didn't have a daughter's eyes. Everyone goes their separate ways.
"How long can I live? I am a cancer patient. It is no good for you to divorce me rashly. I just want to spend these years in peace. " Maybe he still has some conscience, and he actually agreed. But he never imagined that this was just one of my plans. Marriage must be divorced, but I must get rid of him! I want to know the direct evidence of his affair, I want to know the direction of his assets, and I want to take things that belong to my daughter and me!
When I implement the plan step by step, Xiaohui is not willing to lag behind. She not only wants to buy a car, but also wants to own a stake in the enterprise. She has been comforting my husband to divorce me. She has been a third party for so many years and doesn't want to wait for a moment. She wants to enter the house at once and become the master of this family.
My husband is hesitant. Every once in a while, he gave me a standard to sign an agreement. I forbear, my total score is ridiculous, and I will never interfere with him.
I started with my mother-in-law. Mother-in-law is at least a conscientious person and does not approve of divorce. But she said, "I pity you, but you are also wrong." Who made you unwilling to have another child right away? Didn't you make him look out? "I deliberately said," now he can have children with whoever he wants. I won't stop him. "
My mother-in-law suddenly froze and looked at me at a loss. I realized almost immediately that my husband had a child, and it was very likely that he and Xiaohui had already given birth to a child, and only recently told her mother-in-law. Mother-in-law can't cover things, mainly in her face. Having children out of wedlock is a big omission of the husband! Which is the strongest direct evidence I can find. It's just, where did they hide the child?
For three years, I looked at my husband's face, ignored Xiaohui's sarcasm and abuse, and looked for the whereabouts of the child. I pretended to be quiet and didn't talk about housework. I saw the money in the bank passbook being emptied by Xiaohui bit by bit, but in fact I was strictly implementing my plan. _ As a result, I not only found out the child's residence, but also found Xiaohui privately "supporting female college students" with boys!
How do girls reply when they say that their husbands are cheating? My husband felt ashamed when I put direct evidence in front of him. This time, it was his turn to pray that I would not divorce. But at that time, my daughter had been admitted to the university and her body was slowly recovering. I am free to get rid of him. Everyone's divorce lawsuit is still under trial, but I have a good chance of winning. Although I spent half my life with love rat's husband, thanks to it, I was able to turn things around immediately and have a chance to turn things around.