What's so particular about sweeping a friend's grave? It is our memory of the deceased, and grave sweeping is also very particular, because the cemetery is a place with a heavy yin, and it will affect our fortune if it is not handled well. Then do you know what is important to sweep a friend's grave?
What's the point of paying attention to sweeping a friend's grave? 1 The first choice is sincerity. If it's a woman, bring a bunch of flowers. If it's a man, bring a box of his favorite cigarettes and a bottle of his favorite wine, and say something in your heart when you are silent at the grave. In short, sincerity is the most important thing.
Precautions for grave sweeping
1, advocate flowers to send grief, don't light incense sticks or burn paper money, if you have to light candles to burn paper, you must pay attention to fire safety and ecological protection;
2. The date of sweeping graves in Tomb-Sweeping Day is generally ten days after the tenth day of Tomb-Sweeping Day, and there are also local customs that it is three days after the third day;
It is best to sweep the grave at 5-7 in the morning, that is, at midnight. Of course, it's usually not so early now. We have mastered that we only need to complete the grave-sweeping ceremony before 3 pm;
4. when sweeping the grave, use a sickle to remove weeds, and be careful not to use hoes. When lighting the ingot paper money, it is best to use matches instead of lighters;
5, because the cemetery is the destination of ghosts, so don't cross graves and sacrifices, don't talk loudly, laugh and curse, swear words, run around and touch, urinate everywhere, etc.
6. Be cautious before the grave, do not criticize the ancestors, and do not comment on other graves;
7. It is best to fast before sweeping the grave. You'd better not eat food when you leave to sweep the grave. Be a vegetarian if you really need it.
8. Dress neatly when sweeping graves to show courtesy and respect for ancestors. Don't wear bright clothes, try not to wear bright ornaments and don't cover your forehead with your hair.
What's the point of visiting a friend's grave? 2. It is forbidden to take photos on graves.
You can't take photos when you go to the grave, whether it's taking irrelevant scenery photos or photos of relatives paying homage to the ancestral grave. From the perspective of geomantic omen, taking photos is considered as an act of belittling ancestors, which is very disrespectful to ancestors and will be punished by ancestors, which is not conducive to their own fortune. In addition, taking photos will also affect the geomantic magnetic field of the cemetery, and we all know that the magnetic field of the cemetery is special, which is easy to take some unclean things and easily lead to being entangled in some unclean things. It can be seen that it is really inappropriate to take pictures on the grave.
Pay attention to the order when going to the grave
When visiting the graves of deceased relatives, we also pay great attention to the order of going to the graves. The order cannot be staggered or reversed. If you don't pay attention to the order, it will definitely make your ancestors unhappy and may affect your family's fortune. So we should also pay attention to the order of going to the grave. Generally speaking, the order of going to the grave needs to be decided according to the distance between relatives and friends. First, worship ancestors who are close to the same generation, and then worship ancestors who are not so close to the same generation. If relatives and friends are all the same, it will be decided according to the generation in the family.
Avoid taking "Yin Qi" home.
Tomb-Sweeping Day's "grave-sweeping" should have a peaceful mind, show respect to his relatives and the deceased around him, and don't litter and spit in the cemetery. Don't eat in the cemetery, don't laugh and play. After coming back from the cemetery, I suggest going to the popular big supermarket first, and then going home. Where there are many people, the atmosphere will be prosperous, which can dispel the bad emotions in the heart, eliminate all kinds of negative information and make the mood cheerful. The custom of sweeping graves, which is widely circulated among the people, requires that grave sweeping activities should be completed before 3 pm, and it is not allowed to "sweep graves" during the Cold Food Festival one or two days before Tomb-Sweeping Day. However, there are many taboos in sweeping graves all over the country, and immigrants generally need to do as the Romans do.
What should I pay attention to when sweeping a friend's grave? 3. Taboos when sweeping funds.
1, pregnant women, people with declining luck and infirmity are not suitable for sweeping graves.
Generally speaking, pregnant women should avoid offering sacrifices to mountains in Tomb-Sweeping Day. Not only that, strictly speaking, it is best for women not to participate in such activities when they are on holiday, especially after 3 pm.
Remind friends: our motherland is vast, and the custom of sweeping graves in the north and south is slightly different. For example, children usually go to the grave in the south, and in some places in the north, daughters usually don't go to the grave, but they go to the grave with their husbands when they get married.
Don't laugh and curse when sweeping the grave.
Because the cemetery is the home of ghosts, so don't cross the graves and offerings, don't make a noise, don't laugh and curse, don't swear, don't run around and touch, and don't urinate anywhere. This is not only disrespectful to ancestors, but also a nuisance to nearby gods. You can't trample on other graves or comment on the design of graves, which will be regarded as blasphemy.
Be careful when taking photos in ancestral graves.
In China, ancestor worship means not only commemorating ancestors, but also worshiping and praying for the dead. Let me remind you that you should be careful when taking pictures in the graves of your ancestors, whether it is the grave sweeper himself or the grave sweeper and cemetery. When taking pictures, it is even more taboo to take other people's graves into the camera. Otherwise, your fortune may decline and be unbalanced.
4. Don't judge other people's graves.
When you pass someone's grave, be respectful and watch your step. Don't trample on other people's graves or flowers in cemeteries, or judge other people's graves, otherwise it will be regarded as blasphemy.
Tomb-Sweeping Day is forbidden to visit relatives and friends.
It is best for Tomb-Sweeping Day to visit relatives and friends not on the same day, but the next day. Because Tomb-Sweeping Day is a special time to pay homage, it is unreasonable or unlucky to visit relatives and friends at this time. Of course, you can also invite friends and relatives out for dinner.
6. Tomb-Sweeping Day pays attention to sacrifice from generation to generation.
Sacrifice is right. In order: father, mother, eldest son, eldest daughter, second son, second daughter and so on. After the worship, the sacrifice is blessed by the ancestors, and everyone can eat and take the sacrifice. Finally, remind everyone to pay attention to fire safety, and you can leave after lighting the candles.
7. Don't dress casually when sweeping the grave.
In order to respect the dead, grave sweepers should wear solemn clothes, thoughts, words and deeds. Generally speaking, it is advisable to wear plain or dark clothes when sweeping graves, with neat clothes and solemn expression.
8. Avoid buying shoes during the Qingming period.
Some people just celebrate their birthdays in Tomb-Sweeping Day, so sometimes it is inevitable to buy a pair of shoes during their stay in Tomb-Sweeping Day. Don't you know that shoes are homophonic with evil, so you don't usually buy shoes at this time. If you really need it, stagger the time to buy it. You can pay attention to the shoe store, and you will find that business in Tomb-Sweeping Day is not good.
Tomb-Sweeping Day's grave-sweeping is the embodiment of the Chinese nation's moral quality of being cautious to the end and pursuing the distance and caring for the family. Collective grave-sweeping, paying homage to heroes, leaders and martyrs who have made contributions to the nation. Families and individuals make more sacrifices to their deceased family members or relatives and friends when sweeping graves.
When paying homage, according to local customs, the correct way to worship ancestors and sweep graves is to be filial, virtuous and upright.