Set up a monument to your father. If your father is an orphan grave, you can erect a monument. If the father's grave is in the ancestral grave, it depends on whether there are monuments in front of other graves in the ancestral grave, or at least on whether there are monuments in front of all uncles and uncles of his generation. If there is a monument, you can erect a monument to your father. If there are no monuments in other graves of your father's contemporaries, you will not want to erect a monument for your father alone. This is not a question of whether you tell your elders in your hometown. It is disrespecting your ancestors and showing off your behavior.
If you want to erect a monument to your father, you should discuss it with your colleagues at home, and * * * will contribute to erect a monument to your elders. If it is difficult to contribute, wrap him up and erect a monument to all the graves in the whole ancestral grave, which looks good.
If you set up a monument to your father regardless of other people's orders, whether you sue the elders in the clan or not, it is not allowed in the ancestral grave, and you will definitely be allowed to move his father's grave out of the ancestral grave.
This kind of behavior is unsociable. If you don't fit in, you can't stay in the ancestral graves of big families.
First of all, we must be clear about the purpose of erecting a monument to dad. The first purpose is to keep it as a souvenir. Second, because of merit, you can honor your ancestors and let the people treat each other differently. So be sure to tell the old patriarch and the family Committee to discuss the procedure of erecting a monument. In order not to bully your ancestors, first of all, burn paper and incense and sacrifice to all ancestors, including your grandfather and uncle. And inform immediate family members, including your grandmother's house, that your mother's name is involved. Setting up a monument is not that simple. You should discuss it with your family and be arbitrary. Setting up a monument is of little significance, and it will make people jealous and gossip. I don't know what your customs are like! A few words, right for reference!
Dad's monument is buried in his hometown's ancestral grave. It seems that I have left my hometown in other places, or I am in the local urban area.
Erection of a monument is not burial, and its form needs neither earth-shattering nor furtive operation. My opinion is that the fewer participants, the better. When telling or not telling the elders in my hometown, we should grasp it according to some conditions.
First, is there a house in my hometown? Is this house an old house rebuilt from an old village or an old house gathered by a family? Having a house involves hometown and home. If you come back to live or move in the future, you'd better tell me. Don't tell me if you don't have a house or move back and live in a scattered place.
Second, whether dad has a close uncle, a close brother and grandparents' uncles and brothers, you'd better let me know and don't tell distant family members.
Third, do you know what will happen to the ancestral graves in your hometown in the near future? I don't know if I need to discuss it with my hometown and ask the older generation. You already know you can operate.
4. Whether the ancestral grave of the hometown is in the cemetery planned by the village or in the cultivated land, the former is informed by the village collective, and the latter should negotiate with the contracted landowner, because the height of the monument and the ancillary facilities will be interfered by the landowner and relevant departments;
5. What are the customs of the memorial ceremony in my hometown? If it doesn't affect, at least it's better to know;
6. Set up a monument for my father. Although my mother is still alive, this will be her future destination. It is necessary to ask her advice. This is a respect for her. Don't forget to tell my uncle and his sons and family.
When Tomb-Sweeping Day comes, it's time for people to erect a monument for their ancestors. The country has vast land resources, and monuments are being erected everywhere. The operation methods vary from place to place, but the time for erecting the monument may be unified, all on the same day in Tomb-Sweeping Day. In my hometown Zhuanghe Village, Dalian, the traditional custom of erecting a monument in Tomb-Sweeping Day is still maintained.
First of all, if parents have already erected a monument for their grandparents when they are alive, grandchildren don't have to erect a monument for their grandparents first. If the ancestors did not erect a monument to their parents when they were alive, then if the grandchildren want to erect a monument to their parents, they must also erect a monument to their ancestors and parents at the same time. The cost of erecting a monument by grandparents can be shared equally by their parents and brothers. If the father is alone, the cost of erecting the monument can only be borne by the children and grandchildren themselves. Never just erect a monument for your parents, not for your grandparents. The reason is very simple, because with grandparents, there are parents. Only when mom and dad have grandchildren can they have grandchildren, so if they don't stand up, they can't ignore their grandparents.
Second, if you want to erect a monument to your parents, you must have both parents dead, and the last person who died has passed the third anniversary before you can erect a monument. But today's young people don't pay much attention to the fact that only one parent died and a monument was erected. Moreover, the monument is also engraved with the names of the living, painted in black ink for the dead and painted in red paint for the living. It's a bit unreasonable to do so, and it's hard for the survivors to see the suspicion that they will die young. This absurd practice is more common in urban cemeteries. This is not available in our northern rural areas.
Do you need to tell your elders in your hometown to erect a monument to your father as the subject said? If your father has a brother, a brother, a sister, a sister. You can tell him (her) on the day of the monument, after all, he (she) is a milk compatriot. If not, there is no need to inform. On the day of erecting the monument, just ask a few sensible people to help erect it. By the way, don't forget to buy a few feet of red cloth to wrap the inscription when you pull the monument. After the monument is erected, untie the red cloth to reveal all the inscriptions and press the red cloth on the top of the monument.
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If your father is buried in the ancestral grave, it is better to inform his uncle's relatives for generations before erecting the monument. They will definitely attend the funeral when they are buried. Although they may not be at the scene, their neighbors and relatives know that saying hello first is also a respect for the elders in their hometown. In Dali area, many families with ancestral graves, as long as their parents are over 60 years old and get the consent of the elderly, began to choose graves at the ancestral graves and began to build tombs and erect monuments. Say hi is good, also called "kill the game", which means long life. The tombstones of my two old mouths were built ten years ago. But now the funeral reform, killing games are not allowed to be built. It is your filial duty to erect a monument to your father, so go ahead and finish it before Peng Qing Festival.
The old man died and erected a monument! This is also a happy event; If you're not going to do anything big! The ancestral graves are all shared, uncle uncle below! Cousins have to inform them about the monument, which is a good day for them to come and help at that time. Anyway, one person and two people can't move the monument! I felt close and helpful when I informed you. Why not? It won't cost much to find a small restaurant and set a table for two. Let them think that you can handle affairs, your ancestral grave is in the countryside, and you go back to the grave to burn paper on holidays, and others have a good impression on you!
It is a great event to erect a monument. We should entertain servants, smoke, drink and feast, and entertain servants and their families. First, isn't it a matter of several people to lift the grave monument? The second is to erect monuments, cement sand and masons. Third, it takes several people to carry cement and sand. Third, we should set off firecrackers everywhere.
Setting up a monument is also a great event. If you have an immediate ancestor who hasn't set up a monument, you can't just set up a monument for your father. You have to set up a monument for your ancestor first. If you set up a monument to your ancestors, you must discuss it with the rest of your family, because your ancestors are the same, and your names must be engraved on the monument. Since the ancestors want to erect a monument, cousins of other families may also want to erect a monument to pay homage to their dead parents. . Pull one hair and move the whole body. It's been ten years since our family set out to erect a monument for my grandparents, but it hasn't been finished yet. If you set up a monument, you have to set up more than ten houses at the same time within five clothes, and one family can't stand it-for example, a brother can't stand it until he is married. . . .
If your mother is still alive, you'd better not set up a monument now. I don't know what customs you have there As long as an old man is still here, we won't erect a monument here. As for the use of erecting a monument, it depends on how much you usually walk around the house. We usually have to inform the elders in our hometown here.
The question is a little unclear? No matter whether you are buried with the family elders or hanging the edge (hanging the edge is the edge of the grave), if your father is with your grandparents, remember a geomantic custom (here for reference only): "If a grave is to be buried with many people, it must be buried with the eldest daughter-in-law of the eldest son and the eldest daughter-in-law of the grandson. This is an ancestral grave, and the second son (the second son) cannot be in the same grave! The eldest son and grandson are well-off.
So if you are buried on the side, you can set up a monument. If you are buried together in a grave, you should inform them. Moreover, you can't just write your father's name as a tombstone, but as an "ancestral monument". If a monument is built, the format of the monument is as follows:
archaic
Current inscription format
With a child in the shadow of the sun
The form of "bringing children and grandchildren" is the same as above, but there is no need to set up Tang Ming Lu Shen. Grandchildren are behind their ancestors, arranged from bottom to top, and climb up step by step in the shadow of their ancestors, which means "shadow grandchildren" Most aristocratic families prefer to adopt it.
Holding a child, holding a grandson
Holding children and grandchildren, in the middle is the top of the tomb where ancestors and wives are buried together, and in front of the tomb is Tang Ming Lu Shen; With Mingtangshen Road as the center line, the tomb of the eldest son and his wife is on the left, the tomb of the second son and his wife is on the right, the third son is on the left, and the fourth son is on the right, that is, the tombs of ancestors are 1, 3, 5 and 7 on the left, and the tombs of sons are 2, 4, 6 and 8 on the right in turn, forming the arrangement mode of "left long and right two" as the saying goes, and grandparents and grandchildren will make a trip. The graves of grandchildren are arranged in front, in order of size, or the largest in the middle, and then expanded to the left and right, in order to "hold grandchildren", and then continue to be buried in this way from generation to generation.