Of course, this strength does not refer to these beautiful qualities of being strong and brave, but refers to being overbearing, unreasonable, overbearing, selfish and aggressive without her husband's principled shortcomings.
There is a saying that personality determines a person's fate. ?
I don't know if you believe it or not, in recent years, I have gained recognition from some experiences of people around me. Sometimes I really feel that what kind of life a person should live is certain, and your personality is doomed to live that kind of life, and nothing can change it.
So many times, you don't believe it? Causal cycle? 、? It's not good to say destiny takes a hand
It's yours, and it's yours in the end, not yours. It's no use forcing it. Have balls? If you plant flowers, you won't open them. This feeling.
There is also an old saying: a husband values his wife more than he does, and a good wife is less troublesome.
This is what I'm going to talk about next. A strong wife does bring disaster to her husband or family, but she is also a member of the family. Doesn't that mean bringing disaster to yourself? How can you stay out of it? So don't believe that women in marriage are too strong, and it is themselves who suffer in the end.
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A wife is the best feng shui for a family. A gentle and virtuous wife will bring blessings to the family, while a strong and overbearing wife will only gradually destroy the family's luck. When luck is destroyed to a certain extent, disaster comes.
In the village near my hometown, there is a middle-aged couple.
The wife is not only strong at home, but also very powerful outside, belonging to the kind of person who can't offend. According to the husband, since they got married, the wife is the master of everything, and she has no say. Even if she gives a little advice, her aggressive attitude is like eating people.
The husband is used to resignation at home, even in the face of his wife's fatal scolding, he dares to be angry and dare not speak. Adults have a lot of worries about life.
But after all these years, how are you? It's not going well at all
On the day of her husband's car accident, she was working overtime in the company. Her wife was not only inconsiderate, but also kept cursing on the phone: I have been so timid all my life. What's the use of overtime? Go home and cook at once ?
Afraid of his wife's anger, my husband hurried home after he was busy. Unfortunately, something happened and he became a vegetable.
Now, it's even worse. The eldest son is married, the younger son is still at school, and the eldest son can barely maintain his family. Naturally, all the burdens are on his wife and life is miserable.
I regret it, but it's too late. My husband has to take care of it, my family has to spend money and my youngest son has to go to school. I don't even have time to complain.
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Then tell me about an experience of my classmate.
When I was at school, my classmates were all cowards, and they were all good babies in the eyes of their parents, the kind of obedient ones. When he grew up, he still listened to his mother's words, in his own words: he didn't dare to make his mother angry. ?
After the students get married, they can't decide the life of husband and wife, but they listen to their mother.
It happened that this classmate's mother is still a very strong person, and she is critical of her daughter-in-law and has all kinds of dissatisfaction. Daughter-in-law has a good temper and thinks she is married. What should I do? You can bear it.
But the more the daughter-in-law gave in, the more the classmates and mothers pushed their luck, and finally they had to divorce.
Originally, my classmate's mother was strong, but her life was very moist, and everyone listened to her, but since her son divorced, life has been difficult. Her son's delay in finding a partner has become her biggest worry.
Finally, I found an object, who is also a person with the same personality. I brought my classmates and my classmates' mother before I got married.
As a result, the family was forced by the daughter-in-law who had not yet come to the door and borrowed money to buy a house and a car, plus 200,000 bride price. After getting married, they are uncompromising at home, and they are not interested in fighting with their classmates and mothers at any time.
At this time, it is not said that separation can be separated. Daughter-in-law is deliberately squeezing her mother-in-law and will do anything.
Even now, the days are still smoggy, and students seem to have become money-making machines.
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One more thing, it's also my friend's parents, how stiff the relationship between parents can be. The cold war has lasted for 20 years.
When I was young, my friend's father always put up with his mother's strength. Later, after his friend got married, he didn't want to put up with it any longer, so he just lived separately. Now including holidays, going back to his mother is just a formality. Friends and wives prefer to go to his father.
Mother just put up with a person's loneliness and can't say anything about it.
In fact, it's not that friends don't want to go, but that mom is the kind of person who can't get close to you. She will always impose her ideas on you and control you to make all kinds of changes.
Including I have a distant relative, I can't say that both children are depressed because of her strength, but both depressed children have such a strong mother.
I even heard a reader confide that his father couldn't stand his mother's strength at home. He made an appointment with the villagers to go out to work after the tenth day of the Lunar New Year, but his father left three days early because of an accident, that is, that day.
Some things, we can't say for sure, are related to powerful wives, but many times they are too coincidental.
It is true that a family can live in harmony, respect and love each other, and work with one heart and one mind. This is better than anything. As long as we can do this, the good days will naturally come as scheduled.
Looking around, I found that those women who live a happy life have one thing in common, that is, they don't fight for it, they are neither humble nor supercilious.
Don't deliberately prove yourself, what you deliberately prove can't reflect your true value, but showing kindness quietly is the best achievement for yourself.
A woman is the soul of a family, and her personality really determines the fate and temperature of a family.