My mother is a minority, and her mother's customs are different from my father's, and the natural treatment methods are different. You can't just say that one party is wrong and the other party is fine.
There is a family in the team who has a very good relationship with my family, sometimes even closer than brothers and sisters. It can also be said that this young couple is my parents' matchmaker. The two families have close contacts. When I was a child, my brother and I lived directly in this uncle's house during the winter and summer vacations, just like our own children. Delicious and delicious, as long as they have it at home, they will take it out to entertain me and my brother. But the customs of the two sides are different, and there have been many unpleasantness.
For example, dad goes to the roof to pick tiles and change tiles, and women can't go to the roof. But my mother didn't know that she was kind enough to help Heng pick up the roof tiles, but she was scolded by Heng. Don't say that there is no credit, but also hard work! As a result, I was scolded by my host, and I was very angry. From then on, when my mother goes to other people's homes to help, she must remember that the roof of other people's homes can't be touched, and even the roof of her own home can't be touched. Who makes himself a woman? Some things are impossible. Because it is complicated, my mother took it out and nagged it several times, and I have always kept it in my heart and can't forget it.
At home in the first month of this year, I saw a girl and her daughter holding the stairs to turn tiles on the roof and clean the bamboo leaves on the tiles. I think, isn't the custom here that women are not allowed to pick tiles on the roof? Then why are the hostess and daughter still working on the roof?
I know that only the hostess and her daughter are at home in this family, and the small blue tile built on the roof of my hometown can easily slide down the purlin to reveal the gap. When it rains, there will be light rain outside. Who wants to live in a leaky house? Even if people want to live, it is ok to pick up water with pots and pans in rainy days. But the things and food left at home will be in trouble once they are wet by rain. There are some things that force you to be the head of the family and stand up, and there is also a question of whether what you do is a habit.
Suddenly found that the rules are made by people. Good essence will naturally be handed down from generation to generation, but some rules are suitable for breaking. Just like this mother and daughter, they don't support themselves and make plans for themselves. They only care about the light rain outside the house on rainy days, which can touch God and others and get pity and help. I'm afraid outsiders will say that this family is as stupid as a pig. The house is leaking, so I don't know whether to renovate the roof. Count on God. He is so busy every day that he forgets the season and doesn't know when to visit your house.
People can really be forced to no way back by secular vision and local fixed customs. If no way back, then get up and break the status quo and find a way out for yourself. There is no road in the world, and more people will become roads. However, the first person to leave will embarrass himself.