There is also a kind of person around us, whose surface is calm as a lake, but his heart is magnificent as the sea. They seem to be out of the crowd, and their deep eyes have already understood everything.
Some people say, "the weak are as irritable as a tiger, and the strong are as calm as water." Many times, it is not your IQ or your talent that determines the direction of life, but your ability to control your emotions.
Most of the weak are slaves of emotions; The strong have super self-discipline for emotions. In your mood, there is feng shui in your life.
First, I am in a bad mood because I have too many desires.
People's desires are endless. If we base our happiness on the satisfaction of our desires, then once our desires are not satisfied, there will be no happiness. So ancient sages told us that excessive desire is the root of all pain.
Laozi's Tao Te Ching says: "Being satisfied is not humiliating, being content is not dangerous and can last for a long time." Most people's sins stem from their insatiable greedy nature. Contentment is what they have "satisfied", while Zhi Zhi voluntarily gave up "in the process of obtaining".
The reason why people are in a bad mood is mainly because they want too many things in their hearts. If you can't get it, you will be unhappy, and if you lose it, you will be sad. Their emotions, like a time bomb, will always be inadvertently touched by the switch, and eventually both sides will lose.
When Zhuangzi's wife died, he sang with a drum. When he was dying, the disciple wanted to give him a good burial, but he refused: "It is wrong to eat birds and kites in the sky and ants in the ground." You made the best coffin for me, because you were afraid that my body would be eaten by birds and animals, but no matter how thick I buried it, it would still be eaten by ants. Spending money like water just snatched me out of the mouths of birds and animals and sent me to the mouths of ants. Why bother?
In an era when everyone is pushing upward and wealth, fame and fortune are accepted, Zhuangzi even looks down on life and death.
Zhuangzi said, "Is there happiness in the world?" "Happiness without pleasure, reputation without reputation". Is there happiness in the world? Only by not being greedy for worldly happiness can we reap real happiness; Don't enjoy worldly honor, but have real honor.
True happiness is the unity with nature and heaven and earth, and has nothing to do with material and status. This is great wisdom.
Many people strive for fame and fortune and work hard, but what's the use of things that they didn't bring when they were born and when they died?
Life, the simpler the happier!
Second, enlarge the inner pattern and control the emotions.
There is a saying in "Zhuangzi": "Those who respect but don't like it, those who insult but don't get angry, only make peace with heaven." Only those who are respected without ecstasy, insulted without rage and know how to live in harmony with heaven and earth can live calmly.
There is a story about "virtual boat" in the article "Zhuangzi Sanmu": a man was crossing the river by boat, and a boat was about to hit him, so this man swore at the other side for being arrogant and lacking in foresight; But when the ship hit, he found that there was no one on board, it was an empty ship, and his anger just disappeared without a trace.
What makes him angry is not the collision itself, but whether there is anyone on the other side. In life, when something hurts us, what makes us angry is often not the event itself, but the opposite person!
The common fault of people is that they are too obsessed with immediate gains and losses. But if you have an "empty boat mentality" and learn to treat things instead of people, then there will be fewer disputes and less leisure.
There is also a story about "Han Xin's leg insult" in history.
Han Xin was bullied by the butcher when he was down and out, and let Han Xin get under the butcher's legs. Due to the situation, Han Xin alone, there is no chance of winning. He endured the insult and obeyed.
In the face of provocation, Han Xin did not draw his sword in a rage, but made a favorable choice after calm analysis. Although he was humiliated for a while, he solved a crisis. His internal strength pattern, which he practiced since childhood, eventually accumulated into the founding hero of the Western Han Dynasty, and was known as a generation of "soldiers".
Only by looking down on everything in the world and being rational and calm can we live calmly. Just as Zhuangzi said: "Don't make trouble, and the secular place." Don't always try to explain right and wrong by arguing. When you see someone who is not pleasing to the eye, just relax and laugh it off.
In life, many people face sudden difficulties, lose control of their emotions, get angry, and finally the problem is not solved, but they end up injured.
People with real vision regard those bad people and things as "empty boats", so that we can focus on more valuable things and constantly enlarge our own pattern.
People who have a big pattern are not happy or sad, and are not trapped by emotions. This is a master of controlling emotions!
Third, you can control your life by controlling your emotions.
Laozi has a saying: "the winner is strong, and the winner is strong." Only by being the master of your own mentality can you control your life.
Zeng Guofan, the first of the four famous ministers in the late Qing Dynasty, was humiliated for no reason because he sat in a sedan chair.
At that time, Zeng Guofan was already a very important minister, but because of his diligence and low profile, he traveled in a sedan chair. In a narrow alley, I met another official, who was sitting in a sedan chair.
The alley is too narrow for two sedan chairs. At this point, the officials inside the eight sedan chairs came out. When he saw that the other party was carrying a sedan chair, he thought that the other party's official position was lower than his own, so he was ready to go forward to theory.
At this time, Zeng Guofan came out of the sedan chair. When the other official saw it, he panicked and quickly kowtowed: "Zeng's adult, Xiaguan deserves to die. I didn't know you were sitting in a sedan chair. Please forgive me! "
Zeng Guofan did not lose his temper. Instead, he helped the official up and said, "Nothing. It's really the official's sedan chair that stands in your way. I told the bearers to get out of the way. You go first. "
It is precisely because of Zeng Guofan's strong control over emotions that his prestige in the DPRK is getting higher and higher.
"Zhuangzi" has a cloud: "People should stop the crowd because of running water." A person who can control his emotions can stop thinking, stop unnecessary mental consumption, calm down and concentrate on things, and finally make achievements.
People who can control their emotions can keep their mood, be calm, quiet, wise and wise, and grasp life.
In a person's life, emotion determines mentality, mentality determines fate, and fate determines the quality of life.
Only by controlling your emotions can you control your life!
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Some people say: "The first person has the ability and no temper;" Second-class, capable and tempered; The last person is incompetent and has a big temper. "
Everyone is born with emotions, but it takes a lot of wisdom to control them.
People all the way in life, why Qian Qian knot.
A really smart person knows how to put his emotions just right in the noisy world, find the most comfortable posture to put himself, find the best way to get along with himself, and have warm eyes.
Therefore, we should learn to reconcile with ourselves, with the world, raise our emotions and have a good feng shui in life!