2005 Happy Life Lecture - A detailed explanation of "Disciple Rules" Lectured by Master Cai Lixu (Episode 6) 2005/2/16 Taiwan Tainan Jingzong Association File name: 52-116-0006
< p>Dear friends, good evening everyone! In the last class, we have already entered "Disciple Regulations". We read the "General Introduction" once, and then we turned to page 60, "Disciple Regulations." General Narrative". We have also mentioned that this "disciple" does not only refer to children, but every one of us who is willing to learn the teachings of the sages is called a disciple. "Rules" are norms. If we abide by such norms, we can improve our moral character day by day.Disciple rules. The teachings of sages.
This is the teaching of sages, and this teaching is extracted from the teachings of Confucius. We have seen this sentence in "The Analects of Confucius", and in "The Analects of Confucius." It's in "Learning First".
The first filial brother.
This "first" also refers to the fundamentals of being a human being? In filial piety, follow your brothers, be friendly to your brothers, and respect your elders. "Brother", "brother" also contains a very important attitude, which is respect, respect for the elders. A person's morality and knowledge are constantly improved and revealed from filial piety and respect. In fact, as long as a person is "filial" and "brother", I believe he can manage the family, govern the country, and bring peace to the world. Dear friends, do you think: Is it such an exaggeration? In fact, "the great truth leads to simplicity", a very profound principle, is actually very fundamental and very simple.
Let’s think back on history. China has thousands of years of history. Which dynasty has the longest history and the most prosperous national destiny? Zhou Dynasty. How many years? Eight hundred years. May I ask why the Zhou Dynasty could last for eight hundred years? On what grounds? Filial piety and brother. We have only read "Eight Hundred Years of the Zhou Dynasty" and know what is happening but do not know why. We also often see, why are other people’s children and grandchildren so outstanding? Only seeing the results will not help you much. We must find out the reasons, and we can get good inspiration from them.
The Zhou Dynasty was founded by King Wen of Zhou and King Wu of Zhou, and King Wen’s grandfather was called King Tai. King Tai gave birth to three sons, the eldest was Tai Bo, the second was Zhong Yong, and the third was Wang Ji. Wang Ji gave birth to King Zhou Wen, who in turn gave birth to King Wu and Duke Zhou. When King Tai happened to see the birth of his grandson King Zhou Wen, he felt that King Zhou Wen had the appearance of an emperor and a holy lord. But where does his father rank? Ranked third. As a result, his eldest uncle Tabor saw the joy on his father's grandson's face, and he understood who his father wanted to pass the throne to? Wang Ji hopes that it can be passed on to this grandson in the future. Taibo was very attentive to his father's state of mind, so he quietly took advantage of the reason of going to help his father collect medicine and made an appointment with his second brother Zhongyong. The two of them went up the mountain. return. Because he hoped that his father could do good things, regardless of his being the eldest son, and he could directly pass it on to his third brother Wang Ji, and then to King Wen of Zhou.
Dear friends, this family can give up anything, and the world can give it up, and what virtues has been achieved by this action of giving up to the world? Filial piety! A kind body and kind heart can fulfill the father's wishes. Next, not only did we give up filial piety, but what else did we give up? Brotherly love can be given to the whole world. Is there anything that brothers can't give to each other? Besides giving up filial piety and giving up brother, what else did you give up? Give up loyalty and be loyal to the people of the world. Because by making such a concession, he could allow a Holy Lord to lead the people of the country. This concession was a true virtue and a true family tradition. Therefore, Master Confucius praised Tai Bo and Zhong Yong as "the most virtuous people." Without such perfect virtue, one would never be able to do such a behavior. Therefore, there are filial piety and younger brothers.
King Wen of Zhou and Wang Ji (his father Wang Ji) greeted Wang Ji three times a day in the morning, noon and evening, which is called morning and evening. These three times I went to see my father, first to see how he looked, and then to see how his father was eating. If the father eats well, he is very happy; if the father eats very little, he is worried. Because of this example, his sons King Wu and Duke Zhou also learned well. King Wu of Zhou was also very filial to King Wen of Zhou. One time King Wen of Zhou was ill, and King Wu of Zhou stayed by his side. He did not take off his clothes or take off his hat for twelve days, which was a full twelve days of serving his father. Because of such filial piety, his father's illness got better. As the saying goes, people are in high spirits when happy events happen. Is there anything that makes parents more happy than their children's filial piety? When a person is happy, the function of the immune system will increase. This is based on science.
Their filial piety has been passed down. If a family is filial, a country will prosper. When they see that the leaders I admire are so filial, they will be very moved and will follow suit. Therefore, it is said in "The Great Learning": "If a family is benevolent, a country will be benevolent; if a family is conciliatory, a country will be prosperous." Their comity inspired people across the country to be comity, and many disputes were naturally reduced. So it's really amazing how effective it is.
In addition to King Wu of Zhou inheriting the filial piety from King Wen of Zhou, Duke Zhou also inherited the brotherly love from his uncles Tai Bo and Zhong Yong. Once King Wu of Zhou was ill, and Duke Zhou was in front of their ancestors (which they called the Ancestral Temple at that time), he wrote a prayer, praying that his own life span would be shortened so that his brother could live longer. We feel that he not only loves his brothers, but also feels that he hopes to make his brother healthy so that he can govern the world. After Duke Zhou recited this prayer, Zhicheng could understand it, and King Wu of Zhou recovered. This prayer was placed in the Ancestral Temple.
After a period of time, King Wu of Zhou died, and King Cheng of Zhou came to the throne. Duke Zhou assisted him because King Cheng was still young. As a result, King Zhou Wu helped King Zhou Cheng select several teachers. The Grand Master was Jiang Taigong, and the Grand Tutor was Duke Zhou. What if your child is taught by Jiang Taigong and Zhou Gong? good! Therefore, we need to find good teachers for our children. Friends, don't be anxious, as long as you are sincere, good causes and conditions will surely come your way. Today, our children, as well as us, already have a good teacher, which is called "Disciple Rules". This scripture can improve and extend your family tradition.
Later King Cheng of Zhou grew up, and with the guidance of such a good teacher, he was able to govern the world. At that time, there were some rumors in the country about whether Duke Zhou wanted to usurp the world, and many rumors came out. Duke Zhou didn't wait for his nephew to speak, so he invited his nephew to go to Shandong. He asked his nephew to be a good man and not to be affected by the rumors, and then he went back to Shandong himself. As a result, King Zhou Cheng was walking on the road when he suddenly saw something strange in the sky, and there was thunder in broad daylight. People in the past had a very introspective attitude. What did they mean when they saw visions in the sky? Did I, the emperor, do something bad? Friends, is this superstitious? no! The human heart is connected with everything in the world. If the human heart is good, everything will go smoothly. If the human heart is evil, disasters will happen one after another. Are our hearts good or evil now? I didn't say we. Disasters only occur when people's hearts are evil. There are so many natural disasters and man-made disasters. Therefore, when we see these visions, we must reflect inwardly and start to take good care of our hearts and let them be good.
When King Zhou Cheng saw this phenomenon, he reflected on it when he returned home, and wondered if it was wrong for me to let my uncle leave? So King Cheng of Zhou also went to the Ancestral Temple to confess to his ancestors. In the past, people's hearts were very simple, and they would always remember the teachings of their ancestors, "Be cautious in pursuing the future, and the people's virtues will be strong." When King Cheng of Zhou was repenting, he happened to see Duke Zhou's prayer for his brother King Wu of Zhou. He picked it up and read it, and saw that his uncle did not hesitate to pray to God to shorten his own life in order to extend his brother's life. . King Zhou Cheng was very moved when he saw it, and immediately took the title of emperor to personally lead the civil and military officials to welcome Duke Zhou back. Therefore, the brothers and sisters of King Wu of Zhou and Duke Zhou were also passed on to his next generation of descendants. Because of his filial brothers, the Zhou Dynasty was able to last for eight hundred years.
How long can a family last with a filial brother? In all the dynasties in China, Confucius had the best virtues, and his virtues have influenced his descendants for generations, so his family tradition has not declined for more than two thousand years. Dear friends, if you suddenly get the news today that you are a descendant of Confucius, will you feel that today is absolutely different from tomorrow? Suddenly I feel that I cannot disgrace Old Master Kong, so when I step out, I will be cautious in my words and actions. Therefore, De Feng can have such a long-lasting influence.
I met a teacher when I was giving lectures in Xiamen. After the five-day class, we would invite these teachers to the stage to share, and there would be about ten teachers as representatives. As soon as the teacher came on stage, he said: Only after these five days of class did I know what is the foundation of virtue? Filial piety. This comes from "The Classic of Filial Piety." Chapter 1 of the Kaizong Mingyi, "Filial filial piety to a husband is the foundation of virtue." He went on to say that he felt deeply about this sentence, because there were more than forty families in their entire village, all with the same surname, Wu, and their mouth was Wu. He said that these 40 families have produced 109 offspring, 108 of whom have graduated from college and are of very good quality. The 109th one has been admitted to college, but dropped out of school for some reason after two years of study. It can be said that their next generation is fully capable of graduating from university.
He went on to say that he finally understood why his generation was so prosperous. Because the elders in their village told them that whenever they have a holiday from studying or working, they should remember to come back and see their parents. Every year on the first day of the Lunar New Year, they accompany their parents to the temple to worship and pray for blessings, and do nothing else. Raise your hands now that your child will accompany you to say goodbye on New Year’s Day this year? You see they did it as a whole family. In addition to spending time with my parents, after I came back, I went to all the other neighbors’ homes to pay New Year greetings to their elders, and went from house to house to pay New Year greetings to these elders. What was accomplished? Respect your elders, brother! After paying New Year greetings to their elders, their neighbors of similar age gather around the primary school in their village to discuss what gains you have gained from studying this year and what good experiences you have gained at work this year. Everyone discusses and learns from each other. What does this accomplish? Eager to learn! He is filial, has younger brothers and is eager to learn. Therefore, why this village can develop so well for the next generation is definitely not accidental; it definitely does not mean that there is a dragon's lair over there and the feng shui is very good, it is not like this. Moreover, the entire feng shui and the entire environment of a place will also change based on people's hearts.
So Confucius said, "The first filial piety is to the younger brother." When a person is filial to his younger brother, a filial person will extend his filial piety to others. When he is filial to his own parents, he will see the same in other people's parents. Will also be treated with respect. Therefore, the "Regulations for Disciples" teaches, "Serve all fathers as you would a father; serve all your brothers as you would a brother."
Dear friends, because I used to teach, I have a bad habit of loving exams, so in the courses these days, I will take the exams that I have mentioned before. We have a very important attitude towards learning. We need to review, review, and preview. So for what I haven’t mentioned yet, I hope that all my friends will familiarize themselves with the "Disciple Rules" in the past few days, so that when these verses are mentioned in class, you will feel very much, "I know this sentence", and your learning effect will definitely be improved. Very good. Because some friends did not come to listen in the morning, we prescribed a dose of traditional Chinese medicine in the afternoon, which was very effective. Taking it will ensure that morality and knowledge will increase. We just recited the "Disciple Rules" in the morning and evening. When you recite it in the morning, remind yourself that you must practice these teachings today; when you recite it again at night, reflect on what you have done today, which ones correspond to the classics, and encourage yourself; and if you have not done it yet, remind yourself to correct it immediately. ; Once in the morning and once in the evening. Don’t recite it before going to bed at night, otherwise you will fall asleep before reciting it; it is best to recite it after get off work, wash your hands and feet, and then before eating, so that you can compare your behavior today. Okay, so "the first filial brother". Come again:
Believe me again.
"Prudent" means to be cautious, to be cautious in words and deeds. You must have order in your life, and you must not make it so messy that you cannot even take care of yourself, let alone shoulder the heavy responsibilities of the family.
"信" is a knowing word, what does it mean? People say. "Disciple Rules" says, "Whenever you speak, trust comes first." Confucius also said, "A person cannot stand without trust." If a person has no trust, it will be difficult to gain a foothold in society. The teachings of Confucius emphasized four areas of knowledge: the first is virtue, the second is speech, the third is political affairs, and the fourth is literature. Why is words secondary in importance to virtue? Because of the interaction and communication between people, what is used most frequently? speech. Therefore, words, "One word can prosper a country, one word can bring ruin to a country." One word can bring harmony to a family, and one word can cause constant disputes in the family. Therefore, it is very important to learn language. Come again:
Love everyone. And benevolent.
"Extensive love for all" means broad love for all. In modern terms, this is called the interpersonal relationship method. It is how to get along harmoniously with others. Our "Disciple Regulations" are also up to date and pay great attention to interpersonal relationships.
The next step is to be close to benevolent people, to be close to benevolent people. Because if we always get close to virtuous people, we can improve our moral knowledge. As the saying goes, "When you enter a house of orchids, you won't smell its fragrance for a long time." You come into contact with these kind people every day, and our virtues are improved invisibly; but " "When you enter an abalone shop, you won't smell the smell for a long time." If you are surrounded by foxes and dogs, your words and actions will become more and more vulgar every day. Therefore, it is important to be close to benevolent people, and only by being close to benevolent people can we gain wisdom. Only when we are wise can we make the right decisions in life. Life will become easier and easier if you make a choice; if you don't make the right choice, life will become heavier and heavier. Finally:
Have some energy to spare. Then study literature.
When we learn these behaviors and virtues in a solid manner, and if we have spare time, we can also read more good articles and "learn literature". Ancient articles were written to convey the Tao and to clarify the Tao. Therefore, the ancients were very cautious when writing articles. They only kept them when they were truly sure that they would benefit future generations. How about people writing articles nowadays? He could write whatever he wanted, and he didn't care whether the world would be in chaos, so he wasn't careful enough about his words and deeds. Therefore, it is safer to "learn literature" by reading articles written by ancient sages and sages, because these articles have been proven for thousands of years and can indeed inspire people's wisdom. This is "Yu Liwen". We enter the first unit of the scripture, "If you enter, you will be filial."
Dear friends, do you feel that there is not enough time in one day? Do you feel this way? have. It’s hard for us to spend two hours a day reading now, it’s not easy! Therefore, we can also use this "remainder" to study writing and break it into parts, so that we can make good use of some scattered time. You can carry the "Disciple Rules" with you, and there are some very good "Lian Bi" of Proverbs. I put them in my bag every time, pick them up and memorize a sentence or two whenever I have time. It is said that over time, a drop of water can wear through a stone. Don't underestimate the accumulation of ten or twenty minutes a day. As the saying goes, "Be as wide as possible, work hard, and when the time comes, the stagnation will be solved."
Let’s take a look at the word "filial piety", which is a knowing word. There is "老" on the top and "子" on the bottom. Lao refers to the previous generation and Zi refers to the next generation. The previous generation and the next generation are integrated into one, which is one. The word "filial piety". Let’s take a look. The previous generation always wanted to teach the next generation well. Do parents now have this attitude? When I was teaching, I often heard from parents who were not very well-educated. He would express his feelings. He said: I just hope that my children will not become a burden to society. This is my responsibility as a parent. He does not have a high degree of education, but when he says this sentence, I am in awe. You can see that he understands that educating children well is his duty in this life.
Parents always think about educating their children well, but they must have good methods to educate their children. There is a very important educational philosophy in China called "The Book of Rites and the Book of Learning", which mentions what education is, "Those who teach should cultivate good and save those who lose." This sentence captures the two main axes of education. Therefore, if we want to teach our children well today, we must know clearly what kind of good things we want to cultivate in them, and then we must prevent and even correct their mistakes, because "if you don't teach, your nature will change." Many children have some wrong habits. We need to save them as soon as possible. When will we save them? Now! There is no need to delay, because learning is like sailing against the current. If you don’t advance, you will retreat.
Dear friends, let’s think about it, what habits and behaviors do today’s children have that must be corrected as soon as possible? Friends, tell me, you should have more experience than me. "Confronting parents", I heard that people in the past always talked back to parents, but today's children also talk back to parents. This "talking" is different. Today's children talk back, and they are very good at talking back. Come again, any more? "Lazy and rebellious". Okay, any more? "Selfish". Any more? Why are they all female compatriots? How come we, the fathers, didn’t find out? This won’t work, you have to care very much about your children! Come on, are there any more? "Perfunctory". You just have no sense of responsibility, right? Okay, let's just add one more, six or six. Bad habit, which bad habit? "Life has no rules", the rules of life. Just these six.
Sometimes many friends just have a lot of inspiration and will list the top ten sins. Because we established a Chinese Studies Enlightenment Center in Haikou, many parents would come to discuss their children's problems with us. The center's space was very large, and it was used for classes, so it took almost thirty seconds to walk from the door to the office. I walked with him all the way. When he saw me, he couldn't help but gushed, "My child is selfish, loves to talk back and is very lazy." He kept talking without making a draft. As a result, I was afraid that he would be too When you are thirsty, you quickly say: Please sit down and I will pour you a glass of water. After he drank the water, I started to ask him. I said that children are selfish as a result. Friends, what is the reason? Have you ever had a child with the word "selfish" written on the top of his head when he was born? Children's laziness is the result, what is the reason? Have you ever seen that kid who can’t move even after he’s one or two years old? Is there any? You were active and active when you were one or two years old, so why did you become so lazy later on?
Let’s take a look again. Children’s rebellion is the result. What is the reason? Let's think about it.
I heard that being rebellious is called normal. Is there any such saying? have? Who did you listen to? Find him, mislead! Fifty years ago, did you ever hear the word rebellion? Have you ever seen the word rebellion in Chinese history books that span thousands of years? Look, you haven’t seen it. The Chinese people have not been rebellious for more than 4,000 years, but we have rebelled in just 20 to 30 years. Isn't it serious? Why hasn’t a rebellious next generation been produced in more than four thousand years? Why do rebellious children appear so quickly in just a few decades? No accident! Because do children today accept the teachings of Chinese sages? Are you accepting the teachings of your filial brother? no! If he has no filial piety or respect, his words and actions will certainly offend his parents.
I will recall that I very cautiously ran to ask my mother, Mom, am I rebellious? It made my mother think about it for a long time, no. What is our attitude towards our father? We are both respectful and fearful, respectful and fearful, so our father is very majestic. When we are in awe of our father, it is impossible for us to be rebellious. Why does our father inspire us to fear him? The most important thing is that my father's words and deeds are consistent. He is very filial and sets an example for us. Therefore, I have always respected my father since I was a child, and there is no possibility of rebellion. So today’s children are rebellious. As parents, we need to think about it, why are our children not respectful to us? It may be that we say one thing and do another. Play mahjong there, and then tell your child: You read a book for me and I count to three. The child reluctantly left the TV screen and hugged the wall, unable to bear to leave for a long time. Mom was very angry: ultimatum, otherwise I will take the stick! The child was reluctant to go upstairs. When he sits in the chair, may I ask, his body is in front of the desk, where is his heart? television. How do you know? They are all in TV shows. I don’t know what happened to the male lead and what happened to the female lead.
When his parents fail to set an example for him, is he convinced in his heart? Not convinced! You said you should be polite when talking to you, but you are not polite when talking to your grandparents. When these dissatisfactions slowly accumulate, when will they explode? Suddenly he is as tall as you and his fists are as big as yours. Does he still want to listen to you? He won't listen to you. Therefore, rebellion is the result. The root cause is that children have not developed filial piety and respect for their parents since childhood. That is the fundamental reason. For this reason, coupled with the pollution in the outside environment, whether he followed the example of his classmates or friends, in the end he became more and more rebellious. To make the phenomenon of rebellion disappear, it is important to continue the teachings of sages, and then parents must know how to set an example and be a good role model for their children.
Let’s see next, how does “selfishness” form? Dear friends, starting from today, when you often encounter something, you will think, this is the result of my colleague scolding me today. What is the reason? Today, it is the result that other people’s children are taught well. What is the reason? Today, it is the result that couples get along harmoniously. What is the reason? If you know how to find out the reasons at all times, you will gain wisdom every day. When you find the cause, you can prescribe the right medicine, and you can quickly turn many situations into good and benign development. Let's think about it. Today you, your husband and your wife are having dinner with your children. Your grandparents are also there. Mom takes the first bite of the dish. Friends, who is it for? Children eat. OK, standard answer! Come, applause and encourage. This standard is a common phenomenon, but what effect will this bite of food have? "Xiao Ming, this is what mommy specially cooked for you. Eat more." Grandpa and grandma were not to be outdone. "Grandson, these dishes are also delicious." Who are the grandparents to pick up the food for? The grandson picks up vegetables. Whose dish is full? grandson. So who is the oldest in a family? The grandson is the oldest. Is this upside down? It’s upside down, so the child is upside down too! Is this reasonable? You see, everyone must serve him, and the little emperor was born.
The little emperor and the little princess were born. What are the characteristics of the little emperor and the little princess? Selfish, because everyone has to serve him, so he only thinks of himself. As the saying goes, "Being with a king is like being with a tiger." So today's children have very bad tempers. When you are completely obedient to him and nine out of ten things go his way and the tenth does not go your way, what will he do? Will cry and make a fuss. You have no principles. What will you say when he loses his temper? Okay, okay, I’ll buy it for you! Then he will attack the city and seize the territory, and you will be defeated steadily. So friends, where do you start teaching your children? Start with the food. A small local university learns, and every action is an example for children to learn from. As soon as you pick it up today, give it to your father immediately: Dad, eat more.
When your children see it, will they say: Dad, you never thought of me! No, when he sees his father practicing filial piety, he will be very moved in his heart, because everyone has a kind heart. "The Great Learning" says, "If you know the order of things, you will be close to the Tao." When you do anything in the right order, you can establish the Tao. Therefore, if you pick up the right dishes, you can teach your children the correct way to be a good son.
When we open the refrigerator and take out the fruit, who will eat it first? My father picked up the right fruit. If my father had picked up the wrong fruit when I was a child, then I wouldn't be able to stand here and give lectures to my friends. A slight difference would be a thousand miles away. You said: Teacher Cai, is it so serious? Can a piece of fruit have such a big impact? Is there any impact? Really. When we were children, we watched our parents give everything they took out of the refrigerator to our grandparents to eat first, so we naturally followed suit and learned from it. In fact, I am very likely to become a prodigal son, have you seen it? Because I am an only son, the eldest grandson, and the eldest great-grandson, because my grandfather is also the eldest son. I remember when I was a child, I went to visit my great-grandmother's grave. I was three or four years old at that time. I knelt down and raised my head. Suddenly I saw two words. My eyes lit up and I saw my name engraved on the first place of the tombstone. Suddenly I raised my head and straightened my head. We have a big heart and a sense of mission. We must do our best for the rise and fall of this family in the future. Therefore, the Chinese value the eldest son and the eldest grandson. This is not unreasonable! Because every descendant of his generation needs someone to set an example and lead him well, so that the family can prosper. If my parents doted on me, and my grandparents doted on me, then it would be impossible for me to learn the teachings of sages today, and I might have squandered my money long ago. So educating children is very important.
When today’s parents bring out fruit, I wonder if they give it to their grandparents to eat first? I also heard that some mothers would buy some particularly expensive fruit and then hide it first. Why are some friends laughing? Are you feeling sad? I hid it, but my grandparents went to bed, so they quickly took it out and said, "Son, come here quickly. This is what mom bought especially for you." The son was very happy to eat, and he also learned very thoroughly. People are not as good as God. When he has money in the future, who will he buy fruits for? Give it to his son. Some friends immediately responded and gave it to his wife. You use your likes and dislikes to teach your children your likes and dislikes, instead of learning friendship and kindness. Therefore, we still have to follow the path of heaven, perform filial piety, and inspire children to be kind-hearted. This "selfishness", now that we have found the root of the problem, it is still based on filial piety and consideration of others. Our parents should be role models.
Dear friends, if the child is already over ten years old, is it too late? You have to believe in the first sentence of the "Three Character Classic", "In the beginning, human nature is inherently good." In fact, it’s not that others can’t change, it’s that you are defeated by yourself first, and you don’t believe it. When you don’t have confidence, you won’t be able to do many things. Many of our courses in mainland China are attended by people from all walks of life and all ages. I remember that many middle school students came. There was a middle school student who took the class for five days and made great progress every day. His aunt felt very puzzled as to why a teenage boy had such a big change after attending classes for five days. As a result, on the fifth day, his aunt ran to the place where we had classes to look for us, and we happened to have already left.
She asked the people in the hotel for our phone number, and she called us. She said: My niece has made great progress every day after going to class, whether it is for her parents or for her family. People have great attitudes. She felt that Chinese culture does have great power, so she said, my children are two years old and four years old. Can I give them to you to teach? You see, today's parents, when they encounter something good, they immediately don't want to do it themselves first, but first ask the teacher to teach them. We told her that we teachers are all from Haikou and Shenzhen, which is too far away. As a result, the mother said: It doesn't matter, I will send him to Shenzhen from Beijing. Therefore, it is true that children as young as ten years old can also get good cultivation.
There is also a forty-year-old man. When I was giving lectures at Tianmu Mountain in Hangzhou, he was arranged by the organizer to be my bodyguard because there were four to five hundred people on our mountain. He helped me block some of it. Maybe I was going to have a rest. At this time, he said, "The teacher is going to have a rest. It's not convenient to talk now" to help me deal with these situations. Moreover, he has also studied martial arts. He has been an armed policeman for more than ten years. On the third day of his lecture, he took us to dinner just after class. Along the way he said: Great! Very good! How wonderful! We really don't know what he is talking about, but we just feel that he is very happy in his heart.
When he arrived at the restaurant, he said: Teacher Cai, my current mood can only be represented by the words of a three-year-old child, it is great! He then said: I have lived for forty years and finally know where I went wrong in my life!
In fact, when we heard his words, we felt very sad in our hearts. For a forty-year-old tough guy, it’s not that he is unwilling to learn, so what? No one teaches! Otherwise, you can see how good his attitude is, and he will be as happy as a child when he starts school immediately. He said that he finally knew why his wife divorced him, why his children could not communicate with him, and why his colleagues were distant from him and were all afraid of him. He finally found the problem. So he told me that the first thing he would do when he went back was to have a good talk with his ex-wife. "No one is a sage. Who can have no mistakes? If he can correct his mistakes, there is no greater good." At dinner on the fourth day, he said: Teacher Cai, sit here for a while and I will talk to you. I just felt the atmosphere was weird. Okay, let’s stop here in this class and tell you the answer in the next class. Okay, thank you all.