I feel uncomfortable when I feel that I am the best.
I'm afraid the world will be chaotic.
Just keep less contact.
How to treat office villains? As the saying goes, one meter raises a hundred kinds of people. When newcomers arrive at a new unit, it is impossible to meet gentlemen who are United, friendly and helpful. Basically, everyone will meet a kind of person at work-the villain in the office. This kind of person has a * * * characteristic, with little skill and a big face. He can depend on his job, and he can bully anyone who is new. There is something to watch, nothing to stir up. When a newcomer arrives at a unit, it is this kind of person who should be most vigilant. This kind of person has done more than enough.
what do you mean, it's not enough to succeed, and it's more than enough to lose? In plain folk language, sugar is not sweet, but vinegar is sour. It doesn't necessarily help if he speaks well of you to the boss, but if he speaks ill of you in front of the boss, it will definitely affect the boss's opinion of you, that's all.
Newcomers may not be able to tell such people apart. There is the easiest way: see who has an unusual attitude towards the newcomers. In my experience, such people will go to two extremes in treating newcomers: excessive enthusiasm or excessive indifference. Relatively speaking, colleagues who are always polite when dealing with new people are ordinary good people, and ordinary good people are basically harmless when there is no conflict of interest.
so how to treat the office villain? First of all, we should straighten our mentality. This mentality is not an enemy, and there are ways to cover it. Be aware that such people are not the most important enemies in your work. If we regard work as a battle, our enemies are bosses and competitive colleagues, who usually have no future-otherwise, we can take pleasure in trick people! It's sheer self-deprecation to oppose such people. Besides, there are no undead in a war, and you should know that you will hurt the enemy by 1 and lose yourself by 8. If someone encourages you to fight against such a villain, the person who encourages you is the most insidious enemy. Many newcomers have the painful experience of being used as a gun, that is, they have been poisoned by more insidious tricks.
if you want to get over this, it will be easy. Serious daily work is the best way to fight, and it is also called nip in the bud. Flies don't bite seamless eggs. There are always two people in the office who dare not bully. Just learn from such ancestors.
there will be various specific problems in the work. Then analyze the specific problems. For example, he always asks you to do things for him. Doing things is never tiring, and doing more when you have time is also experience. Especially for many people, it is trivial work with no technical content, and it is beneficial and harmless for newcomers to do more. However, if this can be stopped. What kind of enough is enough? Just don't let the boss misunderstand that you have nothing to do all day or don't do your own thing well and take care of other people's affairs. Besides, don't let the colleagues in the office think that you are easy to bully, and you will be responsible for all the abuses in the future. Help or not, you should master it yourself. Arrange the work plan at hand as quickly as possible and as slowly as possible. In this way, the work at hand will become a reasonable shield for you not to help. If you feel that you can't keep it in the office, you should immediately ask the boss for a job to temporarily fill in the working hours when you just promised, and then hand over the promised job. Grasp the progress and hand in the papers one minute earlier than the leader expects to finish. Then drink some water and go to the bathroom just right.
Last but not least, if someone in the office has a conflict with such a person, don't involve yourself, even if you are angry with him on weekdays.
why do you say that? First of all, some people do it and some people watch it. A person's quality depends on his attitude towards strangers, enemies and vulnerable groups. What kind of person is a villain? The boss knows very well that such people will not win if they quarrel. Hatefulness is hateful, but ignoring it shows a person's tolerance and tolerance mentality. A worthy man will never beat up Reservoir Dogs again at this moment.
when I first started to work, I hated being in power by villains, and even doubted whether there was anything wrong with my belief in dealing with people. Later, I realized that even a villain can't help but eat. For another example, treacherous court officials are also very useful to the emperor. Only when there are treacherous officials can there be loyal officials. Loyal officials have to be extra loyal and cautious in order to avoid persecution. Treacherous court officials played another role of encouragement and warning. The villain is to the leader and the traitor is to the emperor, and the roles of the two are basically the same.
what should I do if I meet a villain in the office? It's the same everywhere. Who doesn't have one or two little people around? What is a villain, that is, a person who can't do things on the table, and it is difficult to prevent anyone from backstabbing.
since we don't want to mess with her, it's not enough for us to avoid it. It's your job, not your job. If you don't want to help, you can refuse politely. There is a saying that you don't want to please, which is for what you have done for the villain. You don't have to put a straight face when you talk to her. It's best to always give her a smiling face so that she can't see through your mind! You don't have to hold your breath all the time. Sometimes it's harder for her to open her mouth than to cry.
don't be upset. I have the same experience as you, but I won't take it too personally. If I can't figure it out, I'll feel worse and worse.
How to deal with the villains in the office:
1. It is not advisable to be close to the villains and far from the gentleman. Colleagues should get along with each other in a measured way. Don't be too intimate and reveal privacy to avoid the villains hurting you for their own interests.
2. If you offend a villain, you should be careful of being framed by a villain;
3. If things are directly or indirectly related to the interests of villains, be careful not to be framed by villains. Especially the vicious villain, he will implicate the frame-up in the important things around you, and the villain is good at using the important people around you to get back at you and even kill you. So be careful of the tricks of the villain. Because in the face of self-interest, the villain has no concept of being a man.
4. Your passwords (such as computer passwords) should be kept absolutely confidential.
5. If you are "harmed", you should seize the opportunity to prove your innocence, and don't just tolerate it, in case you are framed by a villain again.
6, observe people and things around you more, and try to prevent problems before they happen.
7. Don't tell others about your privacy, lest the villain hold your "handle" and threaten you with it.
how to deal with the person who hides the knife in the smile?
It's not difficult to deal with colleagues like the smile hides the knife. On the surface, we should maintain friendly relations with him, but secretly we should guard against him. All business decisions related to him should be reported at a meeting, and relevant people should be invited to attend. Other business information is always avoided, and communication with him is limited to business, personal privacy and even other colleagues. As long as everything is reserved, he can't start with you!
how do you love people who sow discord?
As for those who love to sow discord, the best way is to keep a distance from them outside working hours, and remember to be careful in words and deeds to avoid any "painful feet" for him. If possible, you can isolate him with other colleagues and make him helpless.
what should I do if I meet a troublesome colleague?
This kind of people are trouble-prone. They often get furious over something, and minor matters need to be turned into major ones. Don't make comments or jump to conclusions when they meet things or talk about things that have nothing to do with you. If the incident is related to you, you should only keep a low profile, and all official documents must follow the full procedures. If you want to make a report, you should report the incident to your superiors in black and white, and let him decide the right and wrong. Of course, don't forget to maintain your manners and keep silent afterwards.
Beware of narrow-minded people who love to hold grudges
Small-minded people can't tolerate things, and even hold grudges in their hearts for a long time, until one day he finally has a chance to get back at you, and you still don't know what offended him. Small-minded people are so jealous that they can't see others better than themselves. Moreover, the more good friends they have, the more colleagues they contact, the less they want. Well done. People with small minds like to haggle over every ounce, either arguing with you about everything or sulking and being idle. People with small minds are like glass people, which will break when touched. There is only one way to prevent such people: keep your distance.
The following is a book I read and summed up with painstaking efforts. I hope it will help you.
They can betray their conscience for "profit". If they are good to you today, they may kill you for "profit" tomorrow.
This kind of unscrupulous means to win "profit", flattery, selfishness, taking advantage of others, dishonesty, and sowing discord (especially by belittling others) are the most abominable. ) and so on. . .
you can't have interest and human relations with this kind of person, lest he come to see you when he has nothing to do.
When you are framed, you should deal with a man as he deals with you, expose the villain's face and behavior to his face, and make him lose face and dare not harm others again.
Remember, you can hate the behavior of villains, but never hate others. Never hurt their self-esteem when opposing their villainy.
braggart
The nature of a braggart is that he likes to brag and lie. But in real life, they are far from what he said. They like vanity and luxury, but they are often teased by smart people.
To judge a liar's tricks, you can observe his mouth. When people lie, most of them feel their lips and throat dry, so they often add their lips with their tongues and swallow hard. You can also observe his hands and feet. When people feel uneasy when lying, they will tap the desktop or chair armrest with their fingers. The same is true of tapping the ground with your feet. You can also observe your eyes. When your friends are lying, they often dare not look you in the eye, which is the strongest hint ... > >
How to deal with the villain in the office? In daily life and work, you will meet people with different shapes. Similarly, you can't avoid meeting the villain. I remember that Mr. Yu Qiuyu wrote an article called "Little Man" in his Notes on Mountain Living. In this article, Mr. Yu summed up several characteristics of the villain and concluded that "the villain is not only a deformity of personal moral quality, but also a unique psychological and ecological way." I think this article by Mr. Qiu Yu is really brilliant. With this in mind, I will also talk about the topic of villains today, as if I were asking for advice from the Fang family.
As Mr. Yu Qiuyu said, it is difficult to define a villain. "They are a group of corrosive gas that can't be dispersed without trace. They are a bunch of erratic voices and eyebrows." Little people seem to be such a group, they can't see, touch, drift off, shadowy, they are a group of dirty mice hiding in a dark corner. From the appearance, the villain has no obvious characteristics. The smallness of the villain is mainly hidden in the heart, hidden in the dark of behavior, hidden in the heart, but the face is calm. The villain is both yin and dangerous, yin is on the outside and danger is on the inside. Little people have complex psychology and secretive behavior. Because the villain is "small", it often attracts people's attention, but the lethality of the villain is huge, and the harm he has caused is far-reaching. In ancient and modern times, at home and abroad, many people were able to serve as military commanders and sages, and died tragically at the hands of small people. The villain is insidious and vicious. They are more terrible than wolves, tigers and leopards. So how did the villain come into being?
In fact, after a little observation, it is not difficult to find that real villains often don't have much practical skills, and even have many insurmountable congenital defects. In their bones, they feel inferior. It is because of their inferiority that they are jealous and can't see others being nice. The villain is cunning and cunning. No matter where the villain is, he has no intention to specialize in a certain job. On the contrary, he is thinking and calculating people all day. Maybe your ability is stronger than his, maybe your work performance is bigger than his, or maybe you have obvious advantages in a certain respect. In his view, all these may pose a threat to him, even though you have no contradiction with him. When you were absorbed in your work, the villain's eyes were fixed on you, and it was in the dark. You had no idea. You didn't even know when he would suddenly come out and plot against you. Villains have two characteristics: one is afraid of the sun, and the other is that they can't see the good. The smallness of a villain is rooted in the filth of the soul and the meanness of behavior. In short, the reason for the villain lies in the innate inferiority in human nature.
When it comes to villains, people often show helplessness. When Confucius summed up the reasons for his failure in politics, he attributed it to the frame-up of villains, so he said, "Only women and villains are hard to support." Even an ancient philosopher like Zhuge Liang had no good prescription for villains. His advice to the monarch was nothing more than: kiss the sages and choose villains. In the thirties and forties of last century, Mr. Ba Jin, a literary master, was also attacked by rumors of villains. At that time, Mr. Ba Jin's attitude was firm: My only attitude was to ignore it! In reality, I don't know how many people have been planted in the hands of small people, and I don't know how many people have suffered from small people.
I don't know if you've noticed, but a gentleman can never beat a villain. Why? Because, a gentleman stresses morality and a villain stresses snobbery. A gentleman's words and deeds are consistent, and a villain is obedient. A gentleman pursues harmony, but a villain deliberately makes trouble. A gentleman severely blames himself, while a villain plots against others. A gentleman is always in the light, and a villain is always in the dark. A gentleman never remembers others, but a villain makes friends with others. A gentleman is only reasonable, but a villain is factional. A gentleman takes care of the overall situation, while a villain only cares about his own interests. A gentleman cares about his face, but a villain doesn't care about his influence. A gentleman is open-minded, but a villain is too timid. A gentleman is enough, but a villain holds on to it. In a word, a gentleman seeks things, while a villain seeks people.
No matter how careful you are in the world, you will inevitably meet little people. So how should we deal with villains? My advice is to avoid villains as much as possible. As I have said before, the villain is self-abased, which is sad and deplorable. In that case, we might as well give way to the villain. When necessary, you can reduce yourself or defile yourself appropriately to reduce the hatred and jealousy of the villain. Didn't the ancients also say, "Being afraid of villains is not incompetent". Therefore, we'd better retreat, endure and give way to the villain first, even if we can't avoid it, don't be tit for tat with the villain. In the face of all kinds of despicable acts of villains, you should be calm and never impulsive. Never put your whole life into a sting on your opponent like a bee, let alone treat a villain like a villain. I used to > >
hurry! ! ! What should I do if I meet a mean person in the office? This kind of person is nothing * * * I have met such a person before
but at that time, I just had the same idea as you. I hated her teeth and couldn't take her face to face.
I didn't think there could be such a person in the world. In the end, I had to leave that unit.
In fact, it was very simple. People everywhere played such a role. They always liked to sneer at people.