Since ancient times, people have been pursuing the prosperity of their families. Everyone hopes that their home can prosper and prosper. The ideal is full, but the reality is very skinny. In real life, there are still many families who are not living well. The decline of a family is often caused by these three situations, which should arouse vigilance.
First:
Improper family tradition and lack of moral character
Family tradition is the family’s life style and value standard that can be passed down from generation to generation. It is left to future generations. of intangible wealth.
There is a saying that goes well: Family tradition is not a textbook, not a classroom, not a parent’s instructions, not a stick wielded. But it is like air, with lasting penetrating power, and its influence is often better than other tangible means of education.
Truly smart parents never teach their children to fish, but teach them how to fish! A healthy family tradition is the foundation for a prosperous family! A wealth of wealth is incomparable to a good family tradition. If a family does not have a good family tradition, even if it is a treasure trove of gold and silver, it will decline.
Zeng Guofan once talked about the law of family prosperity:
Official families in the world generally decline after only one generation, because most of them are playboys;
A merchant's family, that is, a family of private entrepreneurs, generally lasts for three generations;
A farming and reading family, that is, a family whose foundation is farming and studying, generally lasts five or six generations;
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The family of filial friends is a family that pays attention to filial piety, brotherhood, and harmony, and can often last for ten or eight generations.
02.
If the husband and wife are not harmonious, the family will be in decline
As the old saying goes: It takes ten years to practice in the same boat, and a hundred years to practice on the same pillow. The fate between husband and wife is hard-won, and both husband and wife should cherish this fate so that they can live happily together.
Husband and wife are the most important cornerstone of a family. When husband and wife are in love with each other and treat each other as guests, the family will be peaceful and peaceful. Behind a successful man, there must be a woman who is willing to pay for him. Women are the most important feng shui of a family; a wife determines the happiness of a family.
Quarrel between husband and wife can cause a series of problems. There are many reasons for discord between husband and wife. In addition to conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, personality incompatibility, and sexual problems, the most common ones nowadays are disputes between husband and wife over money and their parents.
The concept of "putting the relationship between husband and wife first, then parent-child relationship" proposed by modern psychology is very practical. This means that in families with elderly people and children, young couples should be the main focus. As long as the relationship between young couples is well handled and they respect the elderly, there will be no problem. The next generation of children will benefit even more, and this virtuous cycle will continue.
03.
Pampering your children and grandchildren will lead to disaster
Nowadays, there are many families who give their children good clothes and food since they were young. They are pampered and spoiled, but they are reluctant to let their children eat. A little suffering, a little suffering.
As the old saying goes: A beloved son is unlucky, and a beloved son is unlikely to become a talented person. Doting on offspring is a disaster rather than a blessing. Doting without a bottom line is actually a kind of harm.
There was once the most lazy person in China, 23-year-old Yang Suo from Luoshan County, Henan Province. After his parents left one after another, it would be more accurate to say that he died of laziness rather than starving to death.
Yang Suo is the only son in the family, so his parents dote on him very strongly. Under the careful care of his parents, Yang Suo could not take care of himself at all, and his mother had to help him dress and wash his face, and his parents had to feed him to eat. This resulted in Yang Suo being unable to do anything as an adult.
When Yang Suo was a child, he was a sensible child, but every time he wanted to help his parents with work, he was rejected by his parents. Over time, he adapted to a life of sitting back and enjoying the benefits.
After his parents left this world, Yang Suo starved to death at home not long after.
(The picture comes from the Internet and has been deleted)