I saw your comments on other friends who answered questions. You are 35 years old, married and have children in Beijing. Now you are worried about your future career and your children's education, and you are at a loss.
I am here to share with you an experience of my friend. In' 84, he was a mouse. He should be as old as you.
In 2007, I graduated from Xi Northwest University, received a year of graphic design training, and then began to drift north.
I got married on 20 17. 20 18 down payment to buy a house. I gave birth to a son that year, and my wife was pregnant with a second child in 20 19.
At present, he is a business partner and has a Beijing hukou.
He couldn't program, and the level of graphic design was not high at that time. Just arrived in Beijing, my first job salary was 800 yuan, which was sales. I don't know how he spent these ten years, but some details can be seen.
In the past ten years, he seldom contacted our other friends. As we all know, he was very tired and didn't take the initiative to interrupt. I have been to Beijing on business several times on the way. He invited me to dinner after the meeting. After eating, I want to talk again He said that he would catch a bus tomorrow. He lives in Miyun.
In ten years, he contacted us twice. Once he went to Shanxi on business, sang with his clients in KTV and ordered a song that we often sang in those years. He cried because he had drunk. I cried in the WeChat group and said, I miss you so much.
The second time I bought a house by myself, I said: I finally bought a house in Beijing.
In the past ten years, he watched our other friends buy houses, cars, get married, get promoted and get a raise through his circle of friends.
Ten years later, he got everything he deserved. During this period, his colleagues left several batches, and the partners and executives of the enterprise also left several batches. He persisted and turned himself into a partner.
In the past ten years, for at least eight years, he did not enjoy much love and entertainment, but devoted himself to his work.
He married late and gave birth late, but he has the strength to give his family and children a visible future.
You are 35 years old now, and I hope to inspire you through my friend's experience.
I feel that this topic is specially customized for me. I am a North drift who lives in Xi 'an and has a house, but I am not a programmer. My husband is. At present, we have been drifting north for seven years. 17 The house sold in Xi 'an, 18 has been decorated. To tell the truth, now we have a feeling that we can't go down. In the face of high prices and high housing prices in Beijing, look at our wages. Prices have risen rapidly, but our wages have not. Counting all kinds of expenses, before meals, the expenses of a family accumulated to 10 thousand. How can I live? We haven't counted the medical expenses and other expenses. If the old man is a little sick at this time, the family is estimated to be crushed. Therefore, I really want to go back to Xi 'an now. After all, we will go back sooner or later.
Although I am eager to return to Xi 'an, considering that Xi 'an's internet market is not optimistic, we still don't have much courage to decide to quit Xi 'an immediately, and we must solve the work problem first. Therefore, this plan to withdraw from Xi 'an is estimated to be realized in a year or two. After you go back, you should work hard, accumulate local contacts in Xi 'an, and have some spare money to travel and see the outside world. If you don't want to work, you can consider doing a small business. After all, Xi has been vigorously developing the economy in recent years. If it is done well, it is probably a good choice.
I don't know what Xi 'an is like. A native of Shaanxi who lived in Ansheng for 10 years now lives in Anjing. Except for the arrogance of the local people in the past two years, it is no different from other places. The backward northwest has low wages, backward economy and tough folk customs (if it weren't for Xi 'an's 1/3 college students and research institutes, Face Thief City would have been famous all over the country).
What are you worried about when you have a house?
If the float is good, continue. If drifting is not good, it is better to go home, and the major can also make a difference at home and locally.
Having a house doesn't mean you have succeeded. Come on, you're in the circle. If you can, you can work hard and start a business. You have a lot to learn besides technology. You can't always be regarded as a third-party contractor.