In most cases, the ancestral graves are in it runs in the family in the north, that is, parents, grandparents, grandparents! Southerners generally have ancestral temples, and the big families of famous families will go to the ancestral temples to worship their ancestors on holidays, but there are only three generations of grave-sweeping sacrifices!
In some places, "three generations don't recognize graves, and four generations don't recognize relatives"; However, many places adhere to the concept of "drinking water from the source, never forgetting the roots, and the culture of virtue and filial piety is passed down from generation to generation", and festivals are held every year, especially in Tomb-Sweeping Day (or Double Ninth Festival) to worship ancestors. Of course, there are sacrifices to ancestors' graves, and there are also sacrifices to ancestors on the same day, and more are sacrifices to ancestors in ancestral temples and ancestral temples. Therefore, ancestor worship has become a culture and belief with China characteristics, with a long history. This belief in China, which has been hotly debated by netizens in recent years, has effectively countered the argument of some western media that "China has no faith".
Nave is no stranger to rural people. Every household has a nave, commonly known as "the first house" or "nave" (because nave is located in the middle of the house). There will be a word "Xiang" on the main wall, with the words "Heaven and Earth, Country and Teacher" written on it. Many naves will have a pair of couplets, "A column of incense is for ancestral worship. Teach your children and grandchildren to do business, study and farm. " Horizontal approval: Zufang.
At present, guarding the tomb can't last four generations at most, but now it can't last four generations. No successful person in the family can lead the whole family to glory, and may even sweep the snow by himself. In the end, they may even go unnoticed.
Because it is difficult for ordinary families to have a truly capable person now, even if one or two capable people appear, they will try their best to leave. Sometimes we can't find their help, let alone the usual telephone contact, so our feelings are getting weaker and weaker.
Now they are basically only children. Even if they want their family to succeed, they should choose their family first. For example, an uncle turns to his younger brother, and his father turns to you. Once something happens, they will take their family as the center. After a long time, there will definitely be a family who will get bored and slowly change their relationship.
In fact, tracing back to the source is conducive to the closeness and unity between a family and a nation. For example, in our family, an ancestor worship ceremony is held in the ancestral hall every year, and descendants from afar will come back to participate. The older generation took the younger generation to the distant mountains to seek roots and worship, which increased the sense of identity and belonging of future generations. In fact, this has virtually increased social unity and stability, and living at home is not a good thing.
Behind every grave is a story of the rise and fall of a family; Every tomb bears the expectations of future generations of Yin Fu. However, they have long since faded out of the memory cycle of future generations and have not enjoyed the memorial ceremony of future generations for a long time. They are "ownerless".
It is precious for people to be filial to their parents when they are alive. What's the use of burning more paper money after the old man dies? Whether to keep the ancestral graves or not depends entirely on the conscience of the living. You won't be surprised if you knock at the door in the middle of the night. It is better to honor the living parents with reverence.