What do you mean:
First, what do you mean? It is said that once a person is poor, his relatives and friends are afraid to associate with each other. This is what the sages say: poor people live in downtown areas and no one asks, and rich people have distant relatives in the mountains. Poor relatives are also sparse. This man is broke? Didn't you break off your six relatives? , but six parents break you? . It's not that you don't associate with your relatives, but that your relatives don't want to associate with you.
second, the reason why people are poor and broken? There are both subjective and objective reasons. The subjective reason is that once some people encounter natural and man-made disasters, they will never recover, complain about others, and then lose their morale. If they have difficulties, they will call their relatives? If you only borrow and don't pay back, the result of borrowing and not paying back is naturally annoying. The objective reason is that some people encounter natural and man-made disasters, and the situation is very serious. Although they try their best, they still can't get out of trouble, and eventually they are deeply in debt. I don't want to associate with it.
Third, whether you are poor or rich, you should understand and help each other.
as a rich man, it's wrong to be too poor to love the rich. Being six parents? You should give help and warmth to poor relatives. The wind and water turn, who sees that the poor are poor for three generations, and who sees that several generations are rich? .
as a poor man? People can't be short of ambition. We should not be pessimistic and disappointed in the face of difficulties, and we should not blindly count on our relatives. It is a kindness for relatives to help you, and it is also justified not to help you. When relatives help you, you should be grateful and trustworthy. Never give back the money and things you borrowed.
It is rare to have six parents in life,
Only six parents are relatives.
as long as you take photos related to each other,
everything goes well everywhere.
No man can spend a thousand days without a hundred days of red flowers
First of all, we must make it clear that generations are cold and people are indifferent. Who wants to be poor? As the old saying goes in the countryside, life is not up to people. This sentence is not superstition, but about people's fate. Take an analogy: a person goes to work well in the morning and works until half a morning, and suddenly something is dangerous, and his life is in danger. It shows that if a person wants to see himself back and forth clearly, I'm afraid it's hard to find such a strange man.
I used to be really poor, too. Alas, at that time, my family was sick, pigs died, cattle broke their arms, and life was worse than death. I always say that I am poor only sometimes, not forever, and many relatives and friends have broken off their contacts, fearing that they will feel regretful. Indeed, when people have their luck, my sisters have grown up, and I went home to study art. It can be said that the form of my family has changed, my relatives have come, and there are many friends, which shows that the generation is really cold.
No matter whether you are poor or rich now, you should first treat everything in two ways. You must not do evil when you are rich, and don't be afraid when you are poor. People who are poor and rich are also rural proverbs: thirty years in the east and thirty years in the west.
it's not that we can't leave, the key is that people don't associate with you. We often say that the rich have distant relatives in the mountains, and the poor are unknown in the downtown area. This is the truth. Nowadays, people are particularly realistic. Who wants to deal with the poor? Isn't this uncomfortable? What else can you do except occupy your light? Everyone stays away from the poor for fear of occupying bad luck. In short, everyone doesn't like the poor.
Most of us are have it both ways. If this person is poor in the village, no one will pay attention to him at all, and everyone will stay away. Just like Zhu Zhiwen, the three fools of that year, he belongs to this kind of person. He doesn't play or work when he is full. The key point is that no one wants to ask him to follow him. He is stupid and dizzy at work, so no one will talk to him for a long time.
At that time, Zhu Zhiwen was also the kind of person who was ignored and had no friends in the village. In the past, adults and children were called "three fools". Now, many people are called "three uncles" and "three brothers". If he is not famous, I'm afraid this will be his life, and he will only be poor for the rest of his life. There is no way for fools to be blessed.
it's not that you can't visit relatives because you are poor. The key is that you are embarrassed yourself! Everyone else is driving a car, and you went by bike. Do you think it's ugly? We often say not to mix in a circle, try not to squeeze in, it will be ugly and looked down upon by others. It is very helpless for you to sit or stand. After all, we are not a trench person, so it is better to stay away.
We often say that we know ourselves, that is to say, people who are not on the road should try not to lean up, especially since they are poor. There is no need for us to squeeze into the circle of the rich, and people really look down on you, so it is also necessary to visit relatives. People are rich and we are poor. Is it necessary to go?
it's not that you can't visit relatives, the key is what to do? People are afraid when they see you, mainly because they are afraid that you will borrow money. It is better not to go. Even if you don't go, people won't blame you. People want you not to go, so the poor don't go to the rich family, and people are afraid! Is everyone right?
Let me show myself. As the saying goes, people are poor and busy, and no one asks. Rich people have distant relatives in the mountains. The words of our ancestors are absolutely true. Before my dad retired, his hometown people came to be diligent, and they often came with some local products when they had something to do. My dad was also entertained by good wine and good food. When he returned to his hometown, he was also a beautiful girl, weddings, and the one who impressed me the most was a fellow villager in his hometown. At that time, the package was distributed, and I settled the matter by looking for a relationship. After work, he always liked to look for my dad for big and small issues, and he helped as much as he could, and as much as he could if he couldn't. Every time he came, he just brought some peanuts from home, and he had never seen him come once since my dad retired.
My business failed for several years, and the garage was sold. When I went back to my hometown, I was hated everywhere, and I didn't like it. I said everything. In recent years, I turned over again and went back to my hometown more lively than when my dad came back. In my dad's words, just get used to it!